Hello all, I am an MD (graduated med school in 2023) and i’m looking to leave the clinical work setting. How realistic would a career in this field be for someone with a medical degree but no work experience in medical devices?
Thank you all in advance
I (29F) have been friends with a woman (32F) since high school. She joined the Army at 22, and we stayed close over the years. When she was 28, she became interested in a 19-year-old guy who had just joined her unit. She would gush about how cute he was, but I honestly found it strange. Legally an adult or not, he was still a teenager.
She started talking to him and eventually started inviting him to her place, where they would watch movies and hook up. She described it as more of a situationship, though she clearly wanted something more serious. He never seemed interested in a relationship, but they kept seeing each other on and off for about a year until they were both deployed to Europe.
While deployed, she constantly tried to spend time with him, but he never really seemed interested. He started talking to a local girl from the country they were deployed to and was apparently trying to pursue a real relationship with her. My friend noticed he was gone most weekends and eventually found out about the other woman by asking around camp. She came to me upset and looking for advice. I told her that I didn’t think the dynamic was healthy or appropriate, especially considering the age gap and the fact he clearly did not want anything serious.
One night she followed him to the laundry room and asked him to sleep with her one last time. They spent the night together, and afterward he completely cut contact with her. A few weeks later, near the end of deployment, she found out she was pregnant.
By then he was in a relationship the other girl. After returning to the US, his girlfriend came to visit him and he proposed during the trip. My friend hid the pregnancy for around 3 to 4 months, and only told him after learning he was engaged.
He was very upset. He said he wasn’t ready to be a father and believed she was on birth control when they were hooking up. He told her he didn’t want to be involved and would support adoption if she chose that route. She was shocked because she expected they would raise the child together. He then asked to sign away his parental rights, but she refused and put him on child support.
He has paid child support consistently, but in the four years since the child was born he has never met them or had any involvement. The last she heard, he was married and living abroad.
The issue is that she constantly brings him up and asks my opinion, but I honestly don’t agree with her choices. I’m very pro-choice and a feminist, but I also think equality matters both ways. In my opinion, a 28-year-old pursuing a 19-year-old coworker was already questionable. He never promised her a relationship or a family and was clear from the start that he didn’t want anything serious, let alone to start a family with her.
I’ve also always found the timing of the pregnancy suspicious and privately wondered if it was intentional, though she would never admit that.
I (29 F) have been friends with this woman (32 F) since high school. She joined the Army when she was around 22 but we remained pretty close friends. When she was 28 she met an 19 year old boy who just joined her unit. She seemed to like him and would tell me about how cute he was, i didn’t understand how at her age she would be interested in a guy who was in my eyes still a boy, no matter him being of legal age.
She started talking to him and eventually inviting him to her place, where they would watch movies and hook up. She told me it was more of a situationship but she wanted more. It didn’t progress into a relationship, and they kept hooking up on and off for a year until they both got deployed to europe.
During deployment she tried to talk to him any chance she’d get, but he started talking to a local girl from the country they were deployed in and spent a significant amount of time with her. My friend noticed him gone on the weekends (from their camp), and asked around which is when she found out he was talking to someone and was pursuing a relationship. She asked me for advice but i didn’t know how to tell her that i find this whole infatuation of hers with him a bit weird.
One evening she saw him going to the laundry room and followed him, where she tried being touchy and insisted on him spending the night with her. They spent the night together, after which he completely cut contact with her. She found out she was pregnant a few weeks later, which was at the end of their deployment.
He got into a relationship with the girl he was talking to and after they returned to the US had the girl visit him which is when he proposed. My friend hid the pregnancy for about 3-4 months, and after finding out he’s engaged she told him about it.
He told her he isn’t ready to be a father, and that he thought she was on birth control. He told her he does not want to be a part of the child’s life and if she wants to give the child up for adoption he would be fine with it. She of course did not want to do that, and was expecting them to raise the baby together which is why his reaction came as a shock. He told her he would like to sign his parental rights away, which she refused. She put him on child support, which he pays but he has never met the child or had any contact in the past 4 years. Last she heard was that he was married and lives abroad.
She always brings him up in conversation and wants my opinion; but i’m afraid i don’t agree with her life choices at all. I am VERY pro choice, and also a feminist, however i think equality goes both ways. I was always of the opinion that if us women get a choice whether to be parents so do men. He was a 19 year old boy, and she was a woman in her late 20s who was supposed to be way more mature than him and imo had no business sleeping with a teenager without protection. He never gave her any hope of a relationship and has made it clear to her from the beginning that he’s not interested in being with her, let alone starting a family.
Also, i find the timing of her getting pregnant very odd and have had suspicions of her doing it on purpose, which she would never admit to.
AITAH for siding with him?