u/SunJay333

Hello Peaches! Not sure if I'm the drama here.

I'm Magpie, he/him 18m. Little sister is "Flamingo", she/her 16f. Little brother is "Crow", he/him 14m.

We recently lost our friend "Robin", he/they 13m. He died from heart failure about a month ago. He was Crows best friend, and a close friend with the rest of the family. I've known him for 9ish years, maybe even 10. Their family are all scout leaders, our family are all scout leaders, and anyone who's familiar with scouts (at least in the uk, cant say for the rest of the world) knows that scouting families tend to be quite close with eachother.

Yesterday was his funeral. There was first a ceremony in one place, the place was packed and there were so many people that half had to stand. It was beautiful and heartwarming and I cried quite a bit. My little brother clung to me and my sister the entire time, and we held back because it's an awful thing to go through, especially so young. Then there was a second ceremony elsewhere, a goodbye before Robin is cremated. At this one all the scout leaders of the district turned up in uniform to say goodbye, and his necker was laid on his coffin. My brother sat with his friends in this one, all of them friends of Robin

Next came the Wake. The wake happened to be close(ish) to my sisters boyfriends house. They've been dating two months, maybe less? She's quite secretive about her partners and they come and go quickly. Anyway, he'd been on holiday for about a week so she hadn't seen him for a week, so as soon as she arrived at the wake she contacted him. At the time my brother an this friends were panicking and upset because the wake was "welcome to everyone" and bullies of Robin had decided to turn up and laugh/take photos of grieving people and the photos of Robin on a showreel (they left within an hour after numerous attempts by actual friends of Robin to tell adults to kick them out). 5 minutes into the wake, my sister announced she was leaving to go to his. It felt really early to be going, and whilst my brother was upset too? I also asked Flamingo if she was going to write a memory of Robin in the memory book his parents had put out, and she told me she "can't be arsed, can you write something for me?". So I wrote something for us both. But it felt incredibly rude.

Later my brother said he had noticed Flamingos absence at the wake and he said it had been quite upsetting. I messaged her (whilst she was still out at her boyfriends) that I felt it was rude, how she left so soon and couldn't even wait to write in the book (which didnt even have a queue when she left, i was just about to start writing). Yes, she hadn't seen her boyfriend in a week, but she's never going to see Robin again? She read the message but didn't respond. She got home after I went to bed and I think she's still in bed now so I haven't seen her since the wake.

AITD for calling her rude?

Edit Update: Me and my sister are on completely normal terms again, I'm guessing she assumed that I was upset in the moment and we haven't spoken about what I said. Thank you everyone for providing other perspectives, I see now that I shouldn't have said what I said and understand that she was processing differently

I (a trans man, ftm) got officially diagnosed with pcos/pmos (they're changing the name apparently)

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Not everyone who has pmos gets this symptom, but part of mine is I have heightened levels of testosterone! Which is very affirming! It's not bio male levels, but it's higher than bio females (idk if ive phrased that right but its the only way i can think of). I do have a slightly lower voice and I get a lot more hair (and darker hair) because of it, which ive always been happy with :]

I met this guy, we met online in a video game. We had this running gag going from the day we met that we were "husbands", so we would basically just call eachother stereotypical pet names all the time in dms, act all sweet and stuff, and then be normal in a group chat we had. I think maybe the pretense of a prebuilt connection was what got me to fall for him far quicker than I had done in the past, developing feelings for him in a matter of weeks rather than months/years. We'd talk about quite deep stuff and we'd video call in a group or by ourselves every few days. Anyways after a little while of talking, we started dating, and met up in person for the first time within a month of starting dating. Tbh before him, I'd only dated one other person, and before that I'd only had one other crush. So he was the third person I'd ever liked. But my previous relationship had been terrible really, and afterwards I put myself through counselling and worked hard on myself. By the time I started dating him, I was mentally at the best I had ever been really.

And it was great and amazing and I loved dating him. It felt like for the first time ever I had someone who actually understood me, sometimes better than I did. We shared common interests that I had been ridiculed for years over because they're seen as unusual for our age group. We would do a "book club" where we'd read up to a point and then call and talk about it. We'd write eachother letters and poems and postcards. We'd call often and just talk for hours about random interests. We'd meet up every couple of months, we were a few hundred miles apart and couldn't afford to travel often, but when we did see eachother I was tbh the most relaxed I had ever been, I've never felt so comfortable, understood, welcomed by another human being. He took an active interest in my life and hobbies, something that no one had done before. I found out a few months in that he kept notes from conversations on things I liked as ideas for gifts or reminders for future conversations, he like really put effort in that I'd never seen before in a person. He was physically attracted to me, me how I am, which I had never experienced before.

In the last month or two of our relationship, both of our mental health began to slip. I started going through a diagnosis in relation to hormone issues, as well as seeking therapy for ptsd and depression which ive had for over a decade. He had issues he preferred to pretend weren't issues, and developed a drinking problem. Despite our best efforts, eventually we decided to split up. The weeks following were horrible. I fell into the worst depression I had ever felt, barely struggling to eat and spending evenings passing out in the bath. His drinking got worse, he was drinking 14 units a day. And then my supposed best friend tried to take advantage of him whilst he was drunk, spent three weeks sending him nudes whilst barely checked in on me for three weeks. I think her plan had been this all along really. As soon as I found out I kicked her from my life, but yea. In the space of less than a month I lost my best friend and my boyfriend.

After about four weeks I fell back in contact with him. We talked every day, called occasionally. I really really wanted to be his friend, just his friend, because I knew dating again wasn't an option. But it's been three months and my feelings for him are just as strong as the day we broke up. So this morning I told him I was cutting contact whilst I still had feelings for him. Because everyday has been torture, I've progressively watched him care less and less about me, talk to me less and less, whilst my feelings are still stuck to how they were. I'm still in love with him, but the version of him I'm in love with doesn't exist right now, doesn't exist anymore. It's all fantasy now really, and that isn't healthy.

I've been in the worst depression I've ever experienced for the past three months. I don't have the capacity to do hobbies anymore, my space is an absolute tip and full of rubbish and dumped clothes that I don't have the energy to sort, I go through phases of binge eating and starving myself, I barely shower or brush my teeth, I never go outside, I barely speak to anyone, I spend most of my time in bed listening to music. My body is in physical pain all day, my mind is a wreck. Everything hurts and I lost the two people I cared about most. I know this is bad. I am going to start with tidying my space and getting it clean, I'm going to take steps to better myself again.

I wish I was just aromantic asexual. Then I wouldn't have fallen in love. Then I wouldn't miss anything, then I wouldn't go through heartbreak. I know it's a part of life but it doesn't stop the fact that it hurts. I wish I didn't have to feel this

So the letter that was sent to Sabrina was stamped and cancelled in France. It was a French stamp, and the cancellation ink stamp put on would also give information as to where and when the letter entered the post system.

Chloe lives in the USA (edit: sorry, London. For some reason i had it in my head she was in New York). If she had sent Sabrina the letter, it would be stamped and cancelled by a US post office, most likely USPS (edit: it would be The Royal Mail in UK). So how come no one thought that was weird or suspicious? We saw Chloe arrive, she wouldn't have had time to send a secret letter from France itself.

Also connecting the parcel and the letter to the same person based purely on the stamp alone is silly, since it's just one from a post office, yes a commemorative one, but I receive postcards from Germany all the time, almost always the same stamp, never the same person. Anyone in France could use that stamp, it's not like Lila had used difficult/rare release stamps that might be harder to come by, its THE current commemoritive stamp out in that universe. Maybe if Marinette had compared the handwriting AND the cancellation ink stamp, but she didnt, it was based purely on the stamp.

This is the mobile version, I'll post a desktop version soon

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For some reason, and it only happens if I leave it on WCO, if i leave my pc idling, when I come back the pc comes up with an error warning about the drivers and then flickers the screen black (the monitor will complain it has no connection) and after a few minutes go back to normal

I have run multiple anti virus scans. I've updated drivers. it genuinely has only happened with WCO. its been happening for the last two days. Anyone else experienced this??

I have my first ever interview! I'm 18 and I've been applying around for a part time job for over a year with no luck, but recently I completely redid my CV and now I have a job interview :]

Last night I had idk a weird night. I downloaded Taimi (I think it's called) and made an account. I have extremely high libido and put I was looking for fwb, something casual. Idk, the idea of having a mate to hang out, watch films with and then maybe do other stuff with seemed alluring in my horny mind. I didn't even want like direct sex, maybe just kissing and stuff, idk it was like 4am.

I scrolled a bunch and only liked people with similar interests, in my age range and primarily trans people cuz I'd feel more comfortable with trans people. I wasn't even looking at their faces tbh, I was just seeing if they would be the kind of person I'd be friends with.

Then this morning I was just flooded with friend requests and likes and such. I started talking to some people. They kept trying to start like sexual conversations but I kept skirting it, preferring to talk about like idk bunnies and such. I felt increasingly more and more uncomfortable. I wasn't attracted to any of these people, like at all. I just liked the idea of having some kind of friend with maybe some extra bits tagged on. I've never been attracted to someone I wasn't really good friends with. I guess my thoughts had been that I would be friends with someone, maybe build up to a fwb situation, but I think I was hoping it'd be almost more mechanical, mutual biological benefit rather than attraction. I thought I could handle that.

I ended up deleting the app. I just felt so horrible, these people were only here because they wanted sexual acts, and I guess so was I? It felt so wrong to me. But in the back of my mind there's still a part of me that's like I want to get experience and experience casual dating and hookup culture. But I cant tell if this is because some of my friends do it? Idk it felt so intense so quickly. Now I feel horrible