how to have a crush on someone without making it a soul crushing horrible obsessive experience
I always obsessed over those I liked no matter how long I've liked them or like who it was. I would genuinely like them as a person and not create crazy scenarios and imaginations of them but I feel like I'm dying without them around... And it doesn't happen when I don't have a crush I feel more at peace.
When I like someone and their presence, I will feel so safe and peaceful around them. No jitters, anxiety or performing for them. I don't do that. But once I leave, I feel so anxious and just horrible this very very horrible feeling that I'm no longer with that person and feeling so hopeless and depressed. Trying to find something about them I can keep around so I can remember them and how their presence felt (stalking their socials and constantly trying to find out more about them) but when I don't get it I will spiral and have this horrible horrible emptiness and sadness without them.
This happens sometimes when I don't have a crush on anyone but all the time when I like someone. For the first month I will be very very obsessive over them and how they are like, then after that I will detach a bit but then when I see them again it comes back everything comes back it's like a horrible cycle when I just want to like them without this horrible feeling. What is wrong with me?
It doesn't help that the person I like right now I can only see him once a week for 2 hour.