how to have a crush on someone without making it a soul crushing horrible obsessive experience

I always obsessed over those I liked no matter how long I've liked them or like who it was. I would genuinely like them as a person and not create crazy scenarios and imaginations of them but I feel like I'm dying without them around... And it doesn't happen when I don't have a crush I feel more at peace.

When I like someone and their presence, I will feel so safe and peaceful around them. No jitters, anxiety or performing for them. I don't do that. But once I leave, I feel so anxious and just horrible this very very horrible feeling that I'm no longer with that person and feeling so hopeless and depressed. Trying to find something about them I can keep around so I can remember them and how their presence felt (stalking their socials and constantly trying to find out more about them) but when I don't get it I will spiral and have this horrible horrible emptiness and sadness without them.

This happens sometimes when I don't have a crush on anyone but all the time when I like someone. For the first month I will be very very obsessive over them and how they are like, then after that I will detach a bit but then when I see them again it comes back everything comes back it's like a horrible cycle when I just want to like them without this horrible feeling. What is wrong with me?

It doesn't help that the person I like right now I can only see him once a week for 2 hour.

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 18 hours ago

hate when people who have been through nothing thinks they have been through it all

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I hate it so much when people who have loving families, a large social circle, a source of money they dont even know where it came from and a beautiful face think their lifes suck and that they have been through things in life.

I have this one friend who is very attractive and gets a lot of male attention and attention in general because she is a social butterfly, have loving family and is very very well off thinks she has been through trauma and bad times in life and reposted about it even though shes been through nothing for fucks sake. The reason she thinks she's been through depression is because she broke up with her boyfriend even though she didn't even care about him and told everyone during their relationship she doesn't gaf about him and wasn't bothered by the break up.

You guys may argue that you never know what happens behind closed doors but I kid you not my friend shares everything online and it's obvious what she has and what she doesn't. She is very fucking well off very rich and shit and thinks having certain things and designer items are "common" and "normal". On her tiktok she keeps reposting about being able to empathise and sympathise when she only does it to seem morally good as a image for others and not genuine. She reposts about feminism and freeing gaza and stuff when she doesn't even know how to relate to basic human feelings lol. She also likes to repost about saving the environment and polar bears and to cut out AI and brands and irl she is the no 1 ai user. She doesn't use her brain to do things and instead turns to ai to make the work easier and she's out here reposting fucking nonsense.

She reposted once on how people have not grown up yet and how they are still living in a fantasy life and not waking up to the real world when she is describing exactly herself. All her politic stand points come from fucking tiktok and she doesn't think for herself. She thinks there is such things as best friends in politics and pinky promises and she is out here making fun of others for not being awake to reality. My guy you haven't been through jackshit. You have parents who talk to you and care about you, support you financially, emotionally and physically. Who listen to you, bring you out, you havent been through fucking shit you have never been through abuse or having to sit in the toilet during lunch to avoid being judged by schoolmates. Have never been through poverty or having to spend at a very very limited budget. Have never grown up ugly or poor or fat and still think she has been through it all.

On top of that, I really hate entitled attractive people. Not that I'm insecure or anything i have very attractive friends who I absolutely admire because they are very capable and beautiful at the same time, which inspires me. But this particular friend built her confidence over external sources (appearance) she has never done anything that requires hard work and disciplince yet she acts like she built her shit brick by brick. I just get so mad when people are only confident because they have an external source and not because they built it internally and from hardships. I know this is an insecurity of mine and I'm jealous of those who have it easier because they were born with an advantage but hey this is r/vent 😡 I'm just so mad and annoyed that she thinks she has been through all of lifes challenges when she has never grown up ugly, poor, fat or through abuse. Also her confidence is not actual confidence but just arrogance and I'm not saying this out of spite and jealousy but it is actually true. You can tell by the way she treats people. She only gives good things and acts kind around those with authority or the weak, doesn't listen to criticism and curses at you when you call her out and shit. Doesn't hold her promises and still thinks she is the most reliable person on earth.

I don't get why I'm so annoyed and affected by this, but I'm just really mad. All in all, I hate it when people act like they've got the confidence and the experience when it all comes from external sources not internally and is arrogance and entitlement in disguise. Also when they think they have it rough when they have not even scratched the surface of lifes challenges.

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 1 day ago

how to stop identifying with 3d

Hello everyone. I am currently trying to manifest big eyes and I 100% believe that my manifestations and affirmations are working. I see in my mirror and my front camera my eyes are very big and massive. But why why why?? In back camera my eyes are so so small like a line. I chose to tell myself that that isn't my reality and it's fake...

But why? In front camera and mirror my eyes are so big and my ideal size but back camera? :(

Can someone teach me how to not always rely on the 3d to show me what I want? I really want some wise advice from you guys, maybe some success physical appearance stories as well.

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 1 day ago

being disrespected by friends

so I have this group of friends I've always had problems and troubles with even though we had good times together, I feel like they are always disrespecting me. For instance, they would ignore me when I talk and start a conversation something that's completely different. they would make fun of me and stuff last time but I told them to stop it and created a "scene" over it and after that I started feeling very awkward around them. I always thought I was overreacting and wondering why I hate my friends when I always hang out with them and when they are always fun to hang out with. During conflicts and confrontations I would always somehow end up apologising and wondering why I even hated them in the first place. i will forget for a while then suddenly boom I get disrespected again and I feel the same wave of hatred again. they used to call me bad names as a "joke" causing me to feel extremely insecure around them and whenever I see them I get reminded of the insults they said about me even if they stopped doing it now. It was going good since our last conflict when today suddenly I get disrespected again. I was doing ideas and making topics related to my school project and I was genuinely so engrossed in it I was rampaging to my one of my friends about my idea and theh just completely ignored me and startdx a whole different conversation. She also keeps interrupting me when I'm talking to my other friend and I'm so fucking mad that I didn't say anything and kept quiet to protect my "peace" but honestly now I'm boiling with rage so there was really no point in that. Also, she was like being really rude and loud to me in front of other people and I didn't know how to react. I don't know what to do. I have never recognized this disrespect they have done to me but today is the day I finally see it and feel it after years of friendship because I started valuing myself. I used to feel hatred and anger whenever I think of them but didn't know why until today. I really don't know what to do. If I don't have them as friends, I will be a loner in my school and people in my school are very very toxic. Help

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 3 days ago

how to stop wavering

hi guys I'm currently trying to manifest big eyes, I believe I have big eyes because when I look in my mirror and camera my eyes are fairly big but people around me always tell me my eyes are really small, I didn't believe them until I saw myself in caught off guard back camera pictures and they look really small so I started affirming to myself I have big eyes big eyes Nd I believed in it I believed I got results too and today I asked my friends if they thought my eyes were big and she said they were reallt small??? I was so confused cuz I was also looking into my camera and my eyes look fairly big???? I know camera distortion is a thing but I really think my eyes are big I believe in it but the consyant reminder from people saying my eyes are small made me very insecure for years. I'm so frustrated, my eyes look big on camera and mirror, but why small to others? It's so hard to not waver like this. Also I get doubts if it really works as I've been affirming this for a few weeks now

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 4 days ago

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 15 days ago

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 16 days ago
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crushing on someone you can't have sucks so fricking bad

I have a crush on someone way older than me and I can't take it no more

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I'm 15(f) and he is around 20-25? I don't know his exact age or anything about him just his personality. I've liked him for a few months now and I feel really really bad because I know this won't work out unless we meet again in the future when I'm older or something but I doubt that will happen. He has a really cute and dorky personality and Iif you guys think this is some kind of infatuation I really don't think it is, I don't fantasize about him or create scenarios about him to make him seem like my ideal person, nor do I expect anything from him. But just imagining him with another girl or person makes me want to die. I dunno. I want to be there for him in every aspect of his life, not just at the sidelines syou know? What makes it worse is I only get to see him 4 times a month, so not only do I have to deal with liking someone I can't get but also the horrible feeling of missing someone and their presence. What should I do? I don't even feel like I can see a future without them in it ☹️

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 18 days ago

I have a crush on someone way older than me and I can't take it no more

I'm 15(f) and he is around 20-25? I don't know his exact age or anything about him just his personality. I've liked him for a few months now and I feel really really bad because I know this won't work out unless we meet again in the future when I'm older or something but I doubt that will happen. He has a really cute and dorky personality and Iif you guys think this is some kind of infatuation I really don't think it is, I don't fantasize about him or create scenarios about him to make him seem like my ideal person, nor do I expect anything from him. But just imagining him with another girl or person makes me want to die. I dunno. I want to be there for him in every aspect of his life, not just at the sidelines syou know? What makes it worse is I only get to see him 4 times a month, so not only do I have to deal with liking someone I can't get but also the horrible feeling of missing someone and their presence. What should I do? I don't even feel like I can see a future without them in it ☹️

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 18 days ago

I always thought my appearance changes from subliminals was minor until one day my gallery recommended me photos from 2 years ago and I genuinely LOOK SO DIFFERENT. 360 DEGREES CHANGE I AM NOT EVEN JOKING. I can't believe I ever DOUBTED subliminals. After seeing the before and after I'm genuinely gagged. Don't ever doubt guys, it fucking works. My nose got so so small and my eyes are sooo much bigger like a doll's. My lips are so upturned now and red and my face is SOOOOOOOOO SOOOOOO much narrower!!!!!! Don't ever doubt guys Im actually gagged

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u/SunnyApples3354 — 2 months ago