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Hey guys I 18F was new in college and in the college unofficial group one of my friend started shipping me with a guy. To have fun this guy(with whom my friend shipped me) and I decided to pull a prank on our friends and we decided to fake date like as in we used to do stupid things like wear matching clothes and behave like couples to get back at him.

With time I was just having fun but he was actually catching feelings I made it clear to him verbally like I am not ready for a relationship and stuff he played it cool and denied having feelings but my friends warned me otherwise. With time we got really close like spending most of the time in the college together and being physically close all the time( we used to hold hands all the time).

Gradually, I also started getting attached to him but i was unsure because I still had feelings for my ex. This thing went on for 2-3 month and I had to go to my hometown for a couple of weeks during that time he confessed his feelings to me over text and during that time also my ex started texting me again to avoid from getting back with my ex I said yes to that guy and agreed to be his girlfriend. When we got into a relationship things changed a lot

he was texting a lot and I felt smothered I was not able to handle this intimacy. When I went back to college I started seeing things more clearly and realized what a blunder i had created. I dumped that guy over stupid reasons after being in a relationship with him for a couple weeks. After breakup also things didn't change we hung out like we used to do and it was not awkward. But after few days he insisted to meet me saying he wanted to talk about somethings. I agreed and we met. He came with a boquet and confessed his feelings and said he wants to get back. I was unsure and I told him that I'll think about it. I was confused about my feelings and one day I really pushed him away through my words we had a fight and since then there has been distance between us I tried a couple of times to talk to him but his responses were very cold. It's been 6 months since and I really miss him and want him back. Am i an ahole for wanting him back or should i let him go because I think now he is over me

PS- I have an avoidant attachment style and now since sufficient time has passed I want him back. Am I bad for wanting him back what should I do? I have really changed a lot of things about myself but also I cannot directly approach him because I don't want to face rejection

Hey guys many people point out the flaws in teenage Manny. Fans often point out that Manny was creepy and there is concrete evidence to support that. One of the main reason Manny turned so condescending was his mother Gloria. Gloria over attachment and over protectiveness lead to these behaviour of Manny. She was always so enmeshed and always enabled his son behaviour often times not calling his behaviour out because she didn't want to hurt his feelings. On the other hand Jay who was not that expressive about his emotions always called Manny out on his problematic behaviours and often encouraged Gloria to do the same. Even though Jay had his flaws like sometimes forcing Manny to like more traditionally masculine. He often pushed Manny to embrace failure and challenges.

PS- with the circumstances Gloria and Manny had before Jay totally understandable but I wish Gloria changed her behaviour when things were stable

What do you think about Gloria and Manny relationship and do comment below your opinion

I 20 F is a fearful avoidant and this attachment style has ruined the way i look at relationships and love in general. I have people around me that don't have that much abandonment issues, trust issues and commitment issues when it comes to relationships and I secretly envy them. It is costing me my mental peace I live in a paradox where when I am single I crave relationships like a mad person to a point I am desperate and when I have a guy who is ready to give commitments to me and I also like him I get really scared that this person will hurt me. This push and pull patterns are driving me crazy. My friends often call me player because I don't show my vulnerability that often and they assume that losing someone I was close to very easy for me and I do it all for validation. I cannot do stay like this I want a stable relationships. These meaningless situationships and fwbs are making me more numb. Please help me guys share your insights in my culture therapy is a big taboo and I cannot afford it

Hey guys I 19 F was on hinge a couple of months and during my time on that app I encountered and met a lot of boys and most of them lairs. Like their account says Long term relationship but after a couple of dates they want to get physical. In today's era due to social media advancements I think it is easy for people to be performative. What are the best predictor that a person is looking for something genuine as opposed to casuals. More mature audience please guide me and help me find better people

Hey I 19F dated a guy when i was in 15 and he was my classmate it was the puppy kind of first love and we dated for 2-2.5 years and eventually mutually broke up because we both could feel the relationship being toxic and long distance(the breakup was initiated by him) then over time we were on and off for another couple of years and eventually when we both went to separate college and I had a bf for a few months during that time we were absolutely in no contact but as soon as i and my college bf broke up i unblocked him and we started texting again then I iced him out because he was getting attached and wanted to get back . Over the last 6 months i have been in a very terrible dating phase where i had a couple of situationships and got addicted to hinge dating last couple of months i really decided to take my mind off dating and commited to be single for a while I am in my hometown because of year end and so is he and he wants to meet and stuff. He says that he'll keep things highly platonic but I am confused. It's like over the years I should have been detached with this person but in someway i really care about him what should i do should I meet him I am really confused.

Share your experience below guys if you have ever been in such a situation and how did you handle it

UPDATE- i cut off with him completely because i was scared of getting attached again

Hey I 19F dated a guy when i was in 15 and he was my classmate it was the puppy kind of first love and we dated for 2-2.5 years and eventually mutually broke up because we both could feel the relationship being toxic and long distance(the breakup was initiated by him) then over time we were on and off for another couple of years and eventually when we both went to separate college and I had a bf for a few months during that time we were absolutely in no contact but as soon as i and my college bf broke up i unblocked him and we started texting again then I iced him out because he was getting attached and wanted to get back . Over the last 6 months i have been in a very terrible dating phase where i had a couple of situationships and got addicted to hinge dating last couple of months i really decided to take my mind off dating and commited to be single for a while I am in my hometown because of year end and so is he and he wants to meet and stuff. He says that he'll keep things highly platonic but I am confused. It's like over the years I should have been detached with this person but in someway i really care about him what should i do should I meet him I am really confused.

Share your experience below guys if you have ever been in such a situation and how did you handle it

hey I 19F, am an agnostic person and a highly social person . I often see religious people have the sense of community building and support system that a agnostic/atheist people lack. They have shared activities and hobbies around religious activities. For context- I belong to a small town and people here are more community oriented and religious even with my parents I lack the kind of connection my theist siblings have. I have seen atheist people support each other online on the internet but very rarely in person.

Do comment below and suggest peeps