I’ve never coslept, partly because when I’m breastfeeding side lying I have no idea what to do with my arms. Okay Bottom arm can go under the pillow, although that’s still quite uncomfortable. But what does top arm do? Baby is where top arm normally is! I usually drape it over her as I’m awake but if I fell asleep like that, it would rest on her and maybe squish her?? I don’t get it!
12 week old baby. Usually sleeps well at night once she’s down. Bedtime was around 10-10.30 but sometimes it’s now 12 or 1. We spend from 9pm -12/1 trying to get her to sleep.
She does a short nap around 8 - we try to put her ti bed then but it NEVER works so has to be a carrier nap so she doesn’t get overtired.
Please what do I do. I can’t keep spending all evening trying to put her to bed. She’s clearly tired!!
I posted before with the ergo baby embrace and got some really helpful feedback - thank you! The embrace got dirty and I tried the bigger ergo (forget its name - omni 360?) and I find it much more comfortable. Would love a fit check on this one please!
11’week old baby nearly 5kg. She is awake and struggling a bit in these pics hence head appearing to fall away from my body! But does the fact she can push her head out that mean her head isn’t supported enough?
Baby is 10 weeks tomorrow. Since 9 weeks she’s been chaos fighting every nap and bedtime screaming. Last night she slept 7 hours then 2.5 hours overnight (she woke up herself). Today after being awake for an hour ish she napped for 2.5 hours I woke her to feed her and she fell straight asleep again. She’s been asleep for about 4 hours (with feeding in the middle).
If I put her down in basket she cries and falls asleep as soon as I pick her up. So I don’t think she’s listless (and she had a good play this morning) but this sleeping is crazy! My gut is I should let her have at it as she’s must be exhausted from terrorising me all week.
Anyone else’s baby had a mega sleepy day after a hell week?
Is it a tale as old as time? Or am I doing something wrong?
Since coming back from hospital baby girl has gone to bed with us about 10.30. This was fine initially but we wanted some evening to relax so we’ve tried putting her down at 7, 8, 9 NOPE.
Since 7 ish weeks she fought going to bed. Husband has to bounce her on a ball in the dark.
Since 9 weeks all naps are fought too. They all need to be bounced in a carrier in the dark. Only occasionally will she fall asleep feeding.
She SCREAMS in the evening. I thought she’s over tired so I’m doing my best to fight her to sleep all day and trying different bedtimes but still evening screaming. Can anyone advise what I’m doing wrong?
EDIT to add: feeds look little and often because (1) I often record each boob separately because she’s changed in between (2) if she paused to squirm to do a poo I often pause and start a new feed (3) in the evenings it is lots of little feeds often between screams - sometimes she’ll refuse boob and 5 mins later she’ll feed for 10 mins and then go back to screaming
9 week old baby. Until recently we were putting her to bed with us around 10.30/11. She’d be difficult in the evenings and I want to improve our evening so I want to try to get he to bed earlier and prevent overtiredness. However we cannot get her to sleep earlier!
I watch for her sleepy cues and make sure she’s fed clean etc. tonight 8.30 she was sleepy, yawned, husband bounced her in a dark room until deep sleep. Transferred her and she woke up after 5 mins. 90 mins later she still can’t be put down.
But when she goes down eventually she does stay asleep for about 5 hours - so I don’t think it’s that she wakes up confused about her surroundings.
Daytime naps have also become a nightmare - she’ll now only sleep while in carrier being bounced in the dark too.
Is 10.30 this just her natural bedtime? Surely I can’t have got her into a terrible habit already? How is she waking up from a deep sleep after 5-10 mins??
I’ve got myself into a worry about the shape of the back of my baby’s head and that the posterior fontanelles have closed too early (I can’t feel them at all). I can’t imagine a GP would have enough expertise to even know when to refer on for craniosynostosis (maybe they do - perhaps I’m being unfair). Has anyone worried about this and gone through their GP or what did you do?
My 8 week old baby sucked on my arm about 5 mins after I applied sun cream this morning. She’s had some diarrhoea this evening - could the sun cream have caused it? Will she be okay? I feel awful. I’d love some reassurance someone has done same and baby was okay.
I have a six week old baby girl. When she reached 2
weeks she started cluster feeding (or so I thought) most evenings - feeding and falling asleep on boob and not wanting to be removed for up to 7 hours. Around week 4 ish we got a sling and learned about overtiredness. When she’d get upset after a full feed we’d think ‘overtired’ and put her on husband to sleep in the sling - she’d then conk out for hours. But then if husband doesn’t want to wear her for an evening - OCCASSIONALLY she’ll chill in Moses basket but mostly she’ll feed on and on off on me all evening. So is she hungry / needing to cluster and we’re somehow dampening that need with the sling or is she tired and just getting comfort from boob and she’ll make her final even feed shorter because of all the snacking?? I feel like if I never put her down I’d feed burp fart her for hours without end - I don’t think she’d ever not just have a little snack??
Plus I understand that hand in mouth from 6 weeks can mean self soothing or hungry. As can clenched fists. How on earth am I to know?
Please help I’m baffled by this adorable little creature.
I have a 6 week old baby who is EBF (I’m ftm). I’m pumping once a day to get her used to the bottle - I’ve been doing it for about a week.
I have a medela swing maxi. I messed about with flange sizes until I could get some milk out - using 18mm left and 19mm right.
Right boob has always produced less milk. Over the last couple of days I’m getting less milk overall.
I used to get about 60ml left and 40ml right. Today I got 40ml and 10ml.
I pump about 30-45 mins after baby’s 10am feed.
Atm the bottle isn’t replacing a feed. She’s still getting used to bottle so she gets 30ml sometime in the day whenever my partner has time.
Any ideas what’s going on?
Thanks!
Nearly 5 weeks following planned c section. Pain is improving overall but is up and down. Incision healed great and no signs of infection.
But it still hurts to get out of bed /sit up in bed to feed baby and main issue is I can’t walk far at all without pain. Yesterday I did .75 of a mile before I got a dull pain in my side that didn’t subside. I get random muscle soreness and pains around my abdomen.
I’ve been to the doctor to get checked and they it’s just normal healing but it feels so slow compared to others’ experiences.
I was fit during pregnancy and I’ve been taking it easy only doing short walks.
I’d love some reassurance that this is normal and doesn’t mean I won’t recover well overall? I’m feeling so disheartened, particularly as my husband goes back to work next week and I don’t feel ready to look after the baby alone.
Thank you 🙏
I waned a low intervention vaginal delivery but my baby wasn’t coming and I chose a c section over an induction. I don’t regret making that decision for the safety of my baby or c section vs induction. But I have hated every aspect of it.
I found the surgery very scary and unpleasant although it was calm planned and went well. I felt awful immediately after from the drugs and the pain.
And since coming home I’ve struggled with pain and worrying about the pain and hurting myself. For the first couple of weeks I cried with regret at the experience and I felt (and still a bit feel) traumatised by the experience. Which feels ridiculous because it was a planned c section and people go through so much worse. And I just can’t understand how people talk about have c sections as a positive experience. I still want o cry whenever I think / talk about the op itself.
I’m now almost four weeks pp and all I can think is I don’t think I could do this again. And so I don’t think I could have a second baby (which I wanted) because even if I tried a vbac it could end in c s. I’m also extra worried about having an emergency c s because they’re often so much harder to recover from.
The pain is improving but not gone and I can’t imagine doing recovery older, with a newborn and a toddler. And I have quite an easy baby atm and my husband is off work for 5 weeks.
Why am I finding this so hard when it was just a plan c section? Has anyone else felt like this (and then had another one anyway)?