u/Tattoos_and_Tea

Hello. I’ve just begun saving for my big move to LA. I anticipate I’ll be able to move there around 2034. But I need very specific neighborhood information *immediately.* I enjoy being around young, hipster, vegans so I think Los Feliz will be great for me. But I also will most likely be working in Irvine. Will the commute be hard? Please include exact cross streets and links to specific apartments I could live in if possible. I estimate my budget will be around $1100 and I’m looking for a one bedroom plus office in a building with a lot amenities. Preferably a 25 story high rise. Don’t be negative about my situation. I’ve seen luxury apartments for that price on tik tok that definitely aren’t scams.

1.) Get a remote job or land a job before you move here.

2.) If you don’t have either of these make sure you have enough money saved up to support you for one year.

3.) Do some of your own research. Apartment pricing is very easily available online. Yes it can vary by neighborhood but it can take a person five minutes to realize most one bedrooms do not cost $1500 here. If you’re unable to even do this minuscule amount of research or expect everything to be spoon fed to you then you probably aren’t resourceful or savvy enough to live in a city or 10 million people.

4.) Do not come here just assuming things will work out or thinking you’ll “magically” find a job. We are in a recession as a country and on top of that the film industry (one of our main industries) is not doing well. People with more connections and local experience are vying for the same jobs as you are.

5.) Have a career. Having dabbled in a few different low wage jobs will not make you hirable here. You cannot support yourself working in basic retail or a fast food restaurant. Establish yourself in your career before coming here.

6.) If you’re young and it’s financially feasible for you or your family come here for college. It’s a great way to make local connections, make friends, learn the lay of the land, and have safe housing.

7.) The worst thing that can happen to you is NOT that you end up moving home or have to “rough it” by eating ramen for a few months. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you end up getting trafficked, pushed into prostitution, or doing something you are not comfortable with because you can’t get back home or are determined to make it work at any cost and wind up on drugs or something worse happens to you.

8.) Understand that people who moved here pre pandemic (when rent and cost of living was significantly less) will tell you they came here 15+ years ago with no money and found a job quickly and made it work. This is no longer the case. Many Angelenos with significant work experience cannot find jobs. You can no longer walk into a a restaurant and leave with a serving or bartending job as a new transplant.

9.) Or if you’re rich or you have a rich family disregard this and enjoy a life many of us only dream of.

I don’t want to discourage anyone from trying to move to LA but we are in tough times right now. It’s not as easy as it once was to make it in this town. If you can responsibly and safely move here then absolutely do it. It’s an amazing city and moving here was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. But you can’t come based on a passing thought and a prayer. Save money, get educated, or trained in a job that every single person cannot do, and come here the right way.

EDIT: sorry I meant gross

So on top of the straight men harassing us there is also some really disgusting and hateful homophobia happening. If anyone has reached the mod please let me know because this group used to be so nice and now it’s just full of hate,

I downloaded feeld and paid to see my likes for one month and have also swiped through. I’ve had it for about week and I’ve seen like one attractive guy. I see many on bumble and hinge. Why is that?

For the record I am a straight woman so I am mostly seeing men’s profiles so this is why I came to this conclusion.***

I see a lot of men’s profiles and they seemingly are looking for a friend. They list a bunch of activities that men predominately do together. For example I see so many male profiles seeking someone to do hyrox competitions with. I’m not saying do fitness competitions but I have never know a single woman who has. Or they talk a lot about drinking beers and watching their favorite sporting team or traveling to whatever their city their team is from and seeing a live game. Again, not something women will never do but those mostly seem like more male driven activities.

On the flip side whenever I get curious and look through my male friends apps the women generally list more “couple activities” as things they would like to do with a partner like trivia, rooftop dining, taking classes, or visiting museums. I wonder if there are a good chunk of men out there who may actually be looking for a friend as opposed to a partner?

I’m in my mid-late 30s and in the process of changing careers. I’m an esthetician and had a successful business for almost ten years but in this economy people are not spending money on luxury services like they used to. I went back to school for marketing and got an associates degree. I also have a degree from FIDM. I apply to entry level jobs that barely pay anything and don’t require experience and I never hear back. It’s discouraging AF. Does anyone have any advice on how to break into either industry?

My screen name is TheLady_Nyx

Thank you.

Every time anyone posts anything on this thread a group of angry guys are foaming at the mouth to talk about how god awful women are and how they cannot stand anything about them. Do most men on dating apps just hate women? Or is it just online dating subreddits?

I understand a lot of young kids play but for the love of god, give us an adult server. I’m so tired of spending time doing a cool accurate look for no one to get it bc a lot of the references pre 2022 go over their heads lol. I also cannot deal with the leg warmers, tripper heels, booty shorts, and bras winning every challenge despite the theme. Or most players not following the theme bc they don’t know what 80% of them are.

I also think it would benefit them to have themes more geared toward children and playing with players that are under 18.

This app has gotten so ridiculous. It used to be beneficial to have uber one because I would get a lot of coupons and I didn’t pay for delivery. I live in the middle of a major city and a restaurant less than a mile away is still making me pay a delivery fee. I don’t get why uber one benefits don’t apply to a majority of restaurants that are very close. I rarely ever get coupons now and I still have to pay exorbitant delivery fees anytime I order delivery.

Some people prefer coffee dates and that’s fine. Some people prefer dinner dates. And that’s also fine. As I like to say, there’s a lid for every pot. But everyone dates differently, prioritizes dates differently, lives in different areas, and are in different financial brackets. If another man in a different city prefers to take women out to dinner as opposed to coffee why would it be so bothersome when it doesn’t affect you?

Here’s a general rule of thumb. If someone wanted to meet you, go on a second date with you, chat with you, continue seeing you, text you, etc they would. It’s really that simple. If they aren’t responding to you don’t reach out to them. If they blocked you on a dating app they don’t want to talk to you. If they ghosted they don’t want to talk to you. None of us are in the mind of your potential date or the person you were dating. We cannot tell you why they may have hypothetically disappeared. I don’t get why everyone asks strangers on Reddit what is going with someone they’re seeing. None of us have any idea. Just move on.