u/Technical-Ad8703

No photo because i was so shaken but i finally did it. My first septum after a yr of piercing. After almost 20+ attempts i did my big one.

my (20f) boyfriend (21m) hasnt had sex with me in a year

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hi reddit. as the title says i (20F) and my boyfriend (21M) have not had sex in a year. its killing is actively killing my self esteem.

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when i say havent had sex in a year i mean consistently, or full on intercourse. we have had sex about 5x in the last year, its currently been about 6 months since the last time.

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i really dont know what to do anymore. ive tried speaking to him about it, he claims he doesnt know why he cant be intimate with me. i know most of the time people post about this they question drugs or cheating, answer is neither. he does vape and smoke marijuana but he has done this since we started dating, and we used to have an extremely consistent sex life. we are coming up on our 2 year anniversary and im getting desperate to figure this out.

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we live together, stress is minimal on his end. i manage all finances because he was always short on rent and car insurance without me doing so. he doesnt worry about money at all. he has chores that take maybe 30 minutes at most daily. and he uses my gaming pc for about 4hrs a day to destress from work. we have 3 cats which he only takes care of the litterboxes for. i do the feeding, vet, cleaning, etc.

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its important to note this started aswell before we moved in together, where he used to have even less responsibilities. he receives free therapy services through his job but hasnt finished signing up yet because he is deadass lazy. im not sure if that will fix this issue either though, it is starting to seem to me like hes not attracted to me anymore and just cant admit it.

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ive had this conversation with him almost weekly, and hes told me the same excuses each time, that he is busy, or tired from work. fails to mention i work more hours at a more intense career. he washes cars but doesnt deal with the public, and is fed for free at his job. the last time we had this conversation he confessed to me that this whole time hes been masterbating multiple times a week. this broke me down so bad. what made it worse is i asked him what materials he washes doing it to, and of course pornography. (He has intimate videos of us together that he could be using but doesnt)

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so now ive been feeling probably 50x worse, even worse because ive been holding myself back for a year because i dont want to feel guilty doing anything without him. i dont know what to do and im at my breaking point. i consider breaking up with him but outside of this its fine. i dont even ask for anything crazy but i wish it would be at least once a month. i dont think its performance anxiety, i normally have to tap out before he finishes because it starts hurting.

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please help me, i dont want to leave my boyfriend but i need to put myself first at some point. our lease ends in october.

hi reddit. as the title says i (20F) and my boyfriend (21M) have not had sex in a year. its killing is actively killing my self esteem.

when i say havent had sex in a year i mean consistently, or full on intercourse. we have had sex about 5x in the last year, its currently been about 6 months since the last time.

i really dont know what to do anymore. ive tried speaking to him about it, he claims he doesnt know why he cant be intimate with me. i know most of the time people post about this they question drugs or cheating, answer is neither. he does vape and smoke marijuana but he has done this since we started dating, and we used to have an extremely consistent sex life. we are coming up on our 2 year anniversary and im getting desperate to figure this out.

we live together, stress is minimal on his end. i manage all finances because he was always short on rent and car insurance without me doing so. he doesnt worry about money at all. he has chores that take maybe 30 minutes at most daily. and he uses my gaming pc for about 4hrs a day to destress from work. we have 3 cats which he only takes care of the litterboxes for. i do the feeding, vet, cleaning, etc.

its important to note this started aswell before we moved in together, where he used to have even less responsibilities. he receives free therapy services through his job but hasnt finished signing up yet because he is deadass lazy. im not sure if that will fix this issue either though, it is starting to seem to me like hes not attracted to me anymore and just cant admit it.

ive had this conversation with him almost weekly, and hes told me the same excuses each time, that he is busy, or tired from work. fails to mention i work more hours at a more intense career. he washes cars but doesnt deal with the public, and is fed for free at his job. the last time we had this conversation he confessed to me that this whole time hes been masterbating multiple times a week. this broke me down so bad. what made it worse is i asked him what materials he washes doing it to, and of course pornography.

so now ive been feeling probably 50x worse, even worse because ive been holding myself back for a year because i dont want to feel guilty doing anything without him. i dont know what to do and im at my breaking point. i consider breaking up with him but outside of this its fine. i dont even ask for anything crazy but i wish it would be at least once a month. i dont think its performance anxiety, i normally have to tap out before he finishes because it starts hurting.

please help me, i dont want to leave my boyfriend but i need to put myself first at some point. our lease ends in october.

Since ive just recently (as of march) reached a full year of actively piercing, im ready to start seeking out advice, tips and tricks, and making friends outside of my studio. I'm still learning, i want to be able to send photos of my work, maybe videos of me actively working, and receive criticism. Id also love to be able to see photos of your work, or videos of you working.

Im still learning lots of things about this profession, but i only have a few services im yet to offer, like bridges, anti tragus, daiths, septums, angel fangs, dermal anchors, surface bars and industrials. (Did my first snug yesterday!)

Id most likely like to have a group chat or talk one on one with peers through instagram or discord.

A little bit about me:

Im a 20 yr old piercer based in SC. I love all types of piercings and enjoy building curations most. My favorite piercings to perform are rooks, nipples, and tongues. My favorite jewelry brands are anatometal, canasteel and industrial strength. I have over 40 piercings currently but have had over 60.

Outside of body piercing, im big into tattoos, kpop, heavy metal, taxidermy and jewelry making. I have 3 kitty cats and a love for anything living, even creepy crawlies or big scary alligators. I enjoy gaming and sleeping the most when im not piercing. My favorite band is waterparks and ive met them over 6 times.

I hope we can become friends and peers :)

anyone else getting loads of prank calls specifically about below the neck piercings lately? ive gotten 3 within the past day about christinas and just had another about a P.A. all have been trying to get me to help them with getting pierced and just talking my ear off with weird questions, saying that they have and i quote “roast beef” and asking if we would judge them for it (no we wouldnt) and asking if their septum piercing (which turns out to be a P.A.) is infected because they had intercourse hours after piercing. i wanna see if its just my shop or what…?

im getting really frustrated lol.

Hi all, i am looking for recommendations on gear for car camping. Me and my friend are looking to go on a beach trip and sleep in my car along the way. I drive a mazda cx30 and want to use my trunk with my backseats down as our bed. Does anyone have any good recommendations for fold out mattresses? Anything i should get before we head out (probably june) that i wouldnt think of? Were from the south do there are plenty of gas stations with showers for us to shower in, unless its generally cheaper for us to get a car shower! Whats the best way to stay cool and comfy at night?

I just purchased my car this week, so any recommendations are welcome! Even for gadgets that are going to work well on our trip ie for phone charging or keeping food cold.

hello! im suddenly back in the car market and have decided this time (my 3rd time in the past 2 yrs) that im going to get my perfect car.

im 20yo and currently drive a 2014 lexus es350 but will have to sell it to my boyfriend due to unforeseen circumstances, which means ill need a new vehicle. ive been looking at the cx30 for about 2 yrs and originally wanted to purchase one when my 2024 toyota corolla hatchback was totaled but found an amazing deal on my lexus (purchased w 90k miles for $11k, and pocketed the rest)

im looking to upgrade to the cx30 for additional trunk space and comfier long drives since i am an avid concert goer and road tripper, and since im younger i move between apartments fairly often. i wanted to know from cx30 owners pros and cons.

i also wanna know what trim level id need to keep all my luxury features, ie heated seats, power windows, automatic air conditioning. and what anyone has to say about the speed of the car and if trims affect that at all.