A had a ruptured ectopic and my right tube was removed 3 weeks ago. About a week ago I was spotting but nothing alarming and OB said it’s normal until my cycle stabilizes. I’m now having right (ectopic) side cramping again. I’m wondering if I’m ovulating because I also have some vaginal mucus, but I’m confused as to why I’m ovulating on my right side again if this is the case. Anyone else experience cramping after their tube removal?
My 7 month old has been eating solids for a month now. She will literally eat everything and I’m shocked, because I myself am not the most adventurous eater.
I will season things within reason (no salt, just cumin, cinnamon, thyme, and lemon when makes sense to squirt some on). She will eat it all. I’m loving this but I’m also wondering how do I keep this up? I see so many stories of kids being picky eaters, hating fruits and veggies, etc. So when does that change so I can be on the lookout for signs and hopefully help thwart any developing pickiness?
Hey everyone,
I recently had a very early miscarriage and my husband and I are considering giving our baby a name. It is hard because we don’t know the gender, and we aren’t too crazy about typical gender neutral names.
Are there any beautiful names with a nice meaning to them that could be used for either a boy or girl? I was googling “angelic names” since our baby is our little angel, but they seem to be gender specific.
Right now we call them our baby, which we might just always call them if we can’t pick a name that feels right.
I was diagnosed with PCOS about 10 years ago. While there have been many challenges, I more or less got used to my “normal” and that I may face certain challenges throughout my life when it comes to fertility. Thankfully, my husband and I had our beautiful baby girl in November and life has been a dream. We know how lucky we are, and God willing hope to grow our family even further some day.
I know how vast everyone’s postpartum experience can be, even without conditions such as PCOS. What has been odd in my case is I have had extensive postpartum bleeding. Essentially after my lochia stopped at 6 weeks, I have bled every two weeks for a few days at a time. Sometimes it’s light, and sometimes it’s heavier and I think it’s my period. I test for ovulation and have yet to detect anything.
I have been back to my doctors countless times about this. Ultrasounds, pelvic exams, blood work, and everything is normal (besides the bleeding and of course cystic fibers from the PCOS). They have essentially concluded that because of PCOS, I am having “non fertile periods” and it’s just my hormones being out of whack. Their only solution is to either wait it out or I can go on a mini birth control pill, which I’ve only ever had negative experiences with birth control in the past and I would much rather not pursue that option.
I’m not looking for any diagnosis, but more so solidarity. When I speak to my friends who have had babies before, they all find my situation to be super unusual. I imagine it’s because they don’t have PCOS. Even now as I write this, I am lightly bleeding with cramping and I just feel confused and scared even if my doctors have ruled out anything nefarious.
If this or anything else unusual in postpartum has happened to anyone before, I would love to hear your experience and if the key truly is time since our bodies tend to take longer to get back on track.
I stare at some of these posts on popular subreddits in wonder as to how people are posting such lengthy and detailed accounts of very specific, and very personal situations in their life. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy reading them and the comments as much as the next person on Reddit, but people who do this, how on earth do you have the confidence that the person/people you are writing about (usually in a negative light) won’t find out you posted to Reddit about it? Is the hope that they secretly do find the Reddit thread and realize they are being an AH? Or does the need for unbiased feedback outweigh any cons about your identity being blown, and you post anyways?
The way I see it, if I, random person on the internet am seeing a post, then anyone (even if you think they don’t Reddit) can as well. Especially if the story gains a lot of traction and suddenly they make it to YouTube videos and Instagram posts.
I am not quite a newbie to cooking, but I’m by no means an expert. Ever since becoming a stay at home mom I have now solely taken over the cooking dinner duty and I have gravitated towards recipes that advertise how quick and painless they are. But one thing consistently happening is that I never even come close to completing the dish in the allotted timeframe! Not even just 10 minutes off, I can easily turn a 30 minute meal into an hour. Even as I’m following instructions the recipe will say “till browned (about 3 minutes), ok, so I clock the time on the stove and carry on for 3 minutes. Food isn’t color recipe needs, so I keep going and suddenly the expected 3 minutes becomes 6-8. Be honest, is it something I’m doing wrong or does this happen to a lot of people if they’re not treating dinner time like it’s Chopped and rushing through the whole thing?
I don’t mean reading speeds or preferred genre of books. I mean more so when you realized that everyone’s brain is so unique, that when they read it must be a totally different experience.
I love getting a glimpse of the inner workings of someone else’s brain, because we are hardly ever reminded of how other people think. I was just talking with my husband the other day about the voices we use when reading. I told him everyone, even members of the other sex or even monsters, have MY voice when speaking. Same voice that is narrating the story, it all just sounds like me. He looked at me like I’m a crazy person and asked how it’s even possible to enjoy a story that way. I just shrugged and said I dunno it’s all I’ve ever known. I guess for him he has a very theatric reenactment of each character and their dialogue as he’s reading lol.
The first time I fully realized people think and process information differently was a few years ago. I was chatting with a friend and they said that they don’t picture images in their brain, only words. This person is also an avid reader. So I’m just in awe how they aren’t able to fully see the scenes as I do, but still enjoy processing and reading all the same.
I am referring to Off Campus and The Summer I turned Pretty in this particular case. I became aware of these books through their popularity from a successful show. Years ago I read the Summer I Turned Pretty (audiobook) and I enjoyed it and was excited to watch the first season. I think I made it halfway through and for some reason just couldn’t connect with the characters and felt awkward watching them act out the story (not that they’re bad actors, just something didn’t seem to translate well on screen for me).
Same thing just happened with Off Campus. I saw some mega viral clips (hello Allie and Dean dancing scene!) and I was stoked to watch the show, but I did want to read the books first. I read (audiobooks, and I’m a breastfeeding mama so I have a lot of time in the middle of night to breeze through books this way) the first 3 so I could get to Allie and Dean since their story jumps forward in the show a bit. Couldn’t wait to watch the show, and I turned on the first episode today. Quite literally couldn’t make it through the first episode. It was The Summer I Turned Pretty all over again, I just felt so awkward watching and now I’m so bummed.
But I’m also wondering if I’m alone in this, or if maybe just this certain genre of book doesn’t translate that well to screen? I will add I love rom coms and as long as they’re good I don’t ever get this weird feeling and I genuinely enjoy watching them. I actually enjoyed People We Meet on Vacation more as a movie than a book, because tbh that isn’t even my favorite Emily Henry book.
So I guess I’m one of those women who doesn’t just shed the weight while exclusively breastfeeding…. Oh well. I am so grateful to fuel my baby and I pray that I can at least make it to a year, which we are on track to do so (yay!). That being said, I’ve only lost about 5 pounds since giving birth, so I’m about 20 pounds total down from my heaviest while 40 weeks pregnant.
This might sound trivial, but I miss wearing my wedding ring so much. While it’s not the most expensive ring, my husband put a lot of thought into it and it means a lot to me. I haven’t been able to fit the ring comfortably on since 20 weeks pregnant. I was certain that once my swelling went down, I would be able to put it back on even if I didn’t lose all the baby weight (I have slightly more slender fingers than my body type would suggest). Now, I couple months ago I bit the bullet and bought a simple sterling silver band to wear as a place holder, which is a size 8. My wedding rings are 6.25. I am reluctant to get them resized because what if once I stop breastfeeding , my body does drastically change again. Or what if it doesn’t and I now not only weigh more, but no longer have slender fingers. I’m fine with either outcome, I love my body and am so grateful for everything it’s done, but I don’t want to put the stress and weaken my rings if I’m going to just keep yo-yoing with my weight. I already had my engagement ring resized twice because I had lost so much weight before my wedding and it was falling off.
Has anyone else been through this internal debate and if so when and did you eventually just resize it? Did you regret it afterwards? We are not done having children (hopefully) so that’s another reason I’m reluctant. But it could be many years before we are officially done with breastfeeding and babies, and also who knows how my body will carry weight for future pregnancies.
Edit: THANK YOU fellow mamas for all your insight. It has really helped hearing all your experiences. For now I’ve ordered a Imolove dupe ring that looks similar to my engagement ring, and I’ll pair that with the simple band I’ve been wearing as a placeholder.