u/That_Character4767

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He stays with me at my apartment for half the week. It’s been years of on and off toxicity and verbal abuse and I finally just feel so done. I want to be alone, I want to feel safe, I dont want to feel ashamed anymore, and I want to be excited to be in a new relationship

I’m scared to end things though. He’s never hurt me physically but there have been what I think are red flags in the past (threats of suicide if we break up, porn addiction, extreme anger, unnecessary and bizarre lies). And he doesn’t have much in his life besides me. I’m 99% sure he would just leave and be out of my life, but I’m scared of that 1%. I know people say the most dangerous time is when you leave

My family and friends don’t know we’re still together, and I can’t tell them. I want to come up with a plan to safely end things with him but I don’t know where to start

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He stays with me at my apartment for half the week. It’s been years of on and off toxicity and verbal abuse and I finally just feel so done. I want to be alone, I want to feel safe, I dont want to feel ashamed anymore, and I want to be excited to be in a new relationship

I’m scared to end things though. He’s never hurt me physically but there have been what I think are red flags in the past (threats of suicide if we break up, porn addiction, extreme anger, telling bizarre and unnecessary lies). And he doesn’t have much in his life besides me. I’m 99% sure he would just leave and be out of my life, but I’m scared of that 1%. I know people say the most dangerous time is when you leave

My family and friends don’t know we’re still together, and I can’t tell them. I want to come up with a plan to safely end things with him but I don’t know where to start

My favorite games are RDR2, Bioshock, Skyrim, BOTW, and obviously Baldurs Gate 3.

I played BG3 2 years ago and have done 4 play throughs since. I’m at the point of being a bit bored with it, but at the same time nothing compares anymore. Every other game just feels a bit dull in comparison now. I’m looking for another game that I won’t be able to stop thinking about

I recently tried Divinity Original Sin 2, and I’m enjoying it but I’m not obsessed in the same way. I also bought Cyberpunk 2077 during the steam sale, which I’m thinking I’ll enjoy

Any other suggestions?

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for almost 5 years. My boyfriend has admitted to having anger issues, and we used to have horrible fights, but things in the past 2 years have improved a lot. We don't live together due to how far his job is from my apartment but he stays with me from Saturday night - Tuesday morning. We usually go out for dinner/lunch once or twice during those days, but every other meal I try to have something planned. I'm definitely a healthier eater than my boyfriend, i try to eat a lot of whole/"cleaner" (even though I hate this word) foods. I say this without judgement, due to the industry he works in he is used to eating one meal a day and whatever is quick and available. I grocery shop once a week and plan out dinners/lunches/snacks/desserts for us, and I make sure there is always some sort of quick food (hot pockets, frozen pizza, boxed mac and cheese type of thing) available for both of us. I used to ask him if there's anything he wanted from the store, but he always said no so I stopped asking. I've told him to help himself to anything, but he says he doesn't want to eat my food even though he kindly gives me $50 a month for groceries and almost always pays when we go out.

I'm also a very fortunate person when it comes to family. I work with my family and so 2 days a week I bring my parents lunch and they bring me dinner. Today was one of those days. My parents brought me a large steak salad. I told my boyfriend we could have the salad as well as leftover pasta from last night for dinner, which he was fine with. We were both gaming and time got away from us and he got too hungry. I told him to get up and get dinner and while he was doing that we started arguing about something silly. He ended up throwing a bag of lettuce down on the counter and said "make your own dinner I'm ordering myself food." He then started saying how I never have food in my apartment and that my "rabbit food" isn't going to do anything for him. He was complaining that he was hungry because he split a sandwich with me for lunch and he "did that to make me happy." He was saying I bring home dinner for myself and don't ever have anything for him. When I tried to argue back and say he could have had the pasta he replied "that shit just hurt my stomach" and then when I pointed out the pizza, hot pockets, etc. he said "I don't want any of that." I asked why he was acting like this and why he threw something, and he replied "because you pissed me off" and he just kept saying "what did I do to deserve this"

At one point I brought up that I was so put off by his behavior I wanted to end things (again we have had issues in the past). He ended up leaving and when he left he said "if you want to break up I don't care text me" to which I replied "if we're breaking up I want my spare key." Edit - I forgot to include this originally, but when he left he said "see ya". At that point I was done and told him so, and then he started saying that he didn't mean "see ya" to be rude, that his brain just panicked and he didn't know what else to say. He ended up throwing my key on the counter and left, he made it home safe but I don't know what to do at this point. Maybe I overreacted, but I just felt disrespected.

tldr - my boyfriend and I may breakup because I don't keep enogh food in the house for him

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for almost 5 years. My boyfriend has admitted to having anger issues, and we used to have horrible fights, but things in the past 2 years have improved a lot. We don't live together due to how far his job is from my apartment but he stays with me from Saturday night - Tuesday morning. We usually go out for dinner/lunch once or twice during those days, but every other meal I try to have something planned. I'm definitely a healthier eater than my boyfriend, i try to eat a lot of whole/"cleaner" (even though I hate this word) foods. I say this without judgement, due to the industry he works in he is used to eating one meal a day and whatever is quick and available. I grocery shop once a week and plan out dinners/lunches/snacks/desserts for us, and I make sure there is always some sort of quick food (hot pockets, frozen pizza, boxed mac and cheese type of thing) available for both of us. I used to ask him if there's anything he wanted from the store, but he always said no so I stopped asking. I've told him to help himself to anything, but he says he doesn't want to eat my food even though he kindly gives me $50 a month for groceries and almost always pays when we go out.

I'm also a very fortunate person when it comes to family. I work with my family and so 2 days a week I bring my parents lunch and they bring me dinner. Today was one of those days. My parents brought me a large steak salad. I told my boyfriend we could have the salad as well as leftover pasta from last night for dinner, which he was fine with. We were both gaming and time got away from us and he got too hungry. I told him to get up and get dinner and while he was doing that we started arguing about something silly. He ended up throwing a bag of lettuce down on the counter and said "make your own dinner I'm ordering myself food." He then started saying how I never have food in my apartment and that my "rabbit food" isn't going to do anything for him. He was complaining that he was hungry because he split a sandwich with me for lunch and he "did that to make me happy." He was saying I bring home dinner for myself and don't ever have anything for him. When I tried to argue back and say he could have had the pasta he replied "that shit just hurt my stomach" and then when I pointed out the pizza, hot pockets, etc. he said "I don't want any of that." I asked why he was acting like this and why he threw something, and he replied "because you pissed me off" and he just kept saying "what did I do to deserve this"

At one point I brought up that I was so put off by his behavior I wanted to end things (again we have had issues in the past). He ended up leaving and when he left he said "if you want to break up I don't care text me" to which I replied "if we're breaking up I want my spare key." Edit - I forgot to include this originally, but when he left he said "see ya". At that point I was done and told him so, and then he started saying that he didn't mean "see ya" to be rude, that his brain just panicked and he didn't know what else to say. He ended up throwing my key on the counter and left, he made it home safe but I don't know what to do at this point. Maybe I overreacted, but I just felt disrespected.

I want to preface this with: I know this is EXTREMELY DUMB and I promise I'm much more mature in most other aspects of my life

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for almost 5 years. My boyfriend has admitted to having anger issues, and we used to have horrible fights, but things in the past 2 years have improved a lot. We don't live together due to how far his job is from my apartment (he still lives at home for now because it's near work) but he stays with me from Saturday night - Tuesday morning. We usually go out for dinner/lunch once or twice during those days, but every other meal I try to have something planned. I'm definitely a healthier eater than my boyfriend, i try to eat a lot of whole/"cleaner" (even though I hate this word) foods. I say this without judgement, due to the industry he works in he is used to eating one meal a day and whatever is quick and available. I grocery shop once a week and plan out dinners/lunches/snacks/desserts for us, and I make sure there is always some sort of quick food (hot pockets, frozen pizza, boxed mac and cheese type of thing) available for both of us. I used to ask him if there's anything he wanted from the store, but he always said no so I stopped asking. I've told him to help himself to anything, but he says he doesn't want to eat my food even though he kindly gives me $50 a month for groceries and almost always pays when we go out.

I'm also a very fortunate person when it comes to family. I work with my family and so 2 days a week I bring my parents lunch and they bring me dinner (I realize this is unusual and I'm very grateful). Today was one of those days. My parents brought me a large steak salad. I told my boyfriend we could have the salad as well as leftover pasta from last night for dinner, which he was fine with. We were both gaming and time got away from us and he got too hungry. I told him to get up and get dinner and while he was doing that we started arguing about something silly. He ended up throwing a bag of lettuce down on the counter and said "make your own dinner I'm ordering myself food." He then started saying how I never have food in my apartment and that my "rabbit food" isn't going to do anything for him. He was complaining that he was hungry because he split a sandwich with me for lunch and he "did that to make me happy." He was saying I bring home dinner for myself and don't ever have anything for him. When I tried to argue back and say he could have had the pasta he replied "that shit just hurt my stomach" and then when I pointed out the pizza, hot pockets, etc. he said "I don't want any of that." I asked why he was acting like this and why he threw something, and he replied "because you pissed me off" and he just kept saying "what did I do to deserve this"

At one point I brought up that I was so put off by his behavior I wanted to end things (again we have had issues in the past). He asked if he should stay or go and I replied "that's up to you, I'm too angry to decide right now" because I needed to cool off. He ended up leaving and when he left he said "if you want to break up I don't care text me" to which I replied "if we're breaking up I want my spare key." He threw my key on the counter and left, he made it home safe but I don't know what to do at this point. Maybe I overreacted, but I just felt disrespected.

I want to preface this with: I know this is EXTREMELY DUMB and I promise I'm much more mature in most other aspects of my life

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for almost 5 years. My boyfriend has admitted to having anger issues, and we used to have horrible fights, but things in the past 2 years have improved a lot. We don't live together due to how far his job is from my apartment (he still lives at home for now because it's near work) but he stays with me from Saturday night - Tuesday morning. We usually go out for dinner/lunch once or twice during those days, but every other meal I try to have something planned. I'm definitely a healthier eater than my boyfriend, i try to eat a lot of whole/"cleaner" (even though I hate this word) foods. I say this without judgement, due to the industry he works in he is used to eating one meal a day and whatever is quick and available. I grocery shop once a week and plan out dinners/lunches/snacks/desserts for us, and I make sure there is always some sort of quick food (hot pockets, frozen pizza, boxed mac and cheese type of thing) available for both of us. I used to ask him if there's anything he wanted from the store, but he always said no so I stopped asking. I've told him to help himself to anything, but he says he doesn't want to eat my food even though he kindly gives me $50 a month for groceries and almost always pays when we go out.

I'm also a very fortunate person when it comes to family. I work with my family and so 2 days a week I bring my parents lunch and they bring me dinner (I realize this is unusual and I'm very grateful). Today was one of those days. My parents brought me a large steak salad. I told my boyfriend we could have the salad as well as leftover pasta from last night for dinner, which he was fine with. We were both gaming and time got away from us and he got too hungry. I told him to get up and get dinner and while he was doing that we started arguing about something silly. He ended up throwing a bag of lettuce down on the counter and said "make your own dinner I'm ordering myself food." He then started saying how I never have food in my apartment and that my "rabbit food" isn't going to do anything for him. He was complaining that he was hungry because he split a sandwich with me for lunch and he "did that to make me happy." He was saying I bring home dinner for myself and don't ever have anything for him. When I tried to argue back and say he could have had the pasta he replied "that shit just hurt my stomach" and then when I pointed out the pizza, hot pockets, etc. he said "I don't want any of that." I asked why he was acting like this and why he threw something, and he replied "because you pissed me off" and he just kept saying "what did I do to deserve this"

At one point I brought up that I was so put off by his behavior I wanted to end things (again we have had issues in the past). He asked if he should stay or go and I replied "that's up to you, I'm too angry to decide right now" because I needed to cool off. He ended up leaving and when he left he said "if you want to break up I don't care text me" to which I replied "if we're breaking up I want my spare key." He threw my key on the counter and left, he made it home safe but I don't know what to do at this point. Maybe I overreacted, but I just felt disrespected.