What do I do about my brother?
I, F-18 have a brother, M-10 who has been shitting his pants his entire life.
He knows how to go to the bathroom but refuses to.
He is not special needs or anything of the sort.
He is not disabled in any way.
He plays baseball, goes to school every day, and has a good social life.
He doesn’t do any of this at school or baseball.
He waits until he gets to the car and then releases.
My mother and grandmother (our caretakers) condone this behavior and tell me off every time I tell him he stinks.
It has gotten to the point where I find pellets of shit on the floor and chairs in my home.
The chairs smell.
The couch smells.
The carpet smells.
The car smells.
Everything smells of shit.
My friends who come to my house refuse to sit on chairs unless they are in MY room.
It has gotten to the point where I get in more trouble for telling him he smells of feces than he does for defecating in his pants and on everything.
He spends all day playing Roblox and poops his pants instead of getting up and going to the bathroom.
I have tried to take away video games, his favorite thing, but when I tried to take them away my mom just changed passwords, made new accounts, etc. (Fixed the problem for him and let him continue this behavior)
I don’t know what to do anymore.
I have told my mom many times that he should be tested for autism — give an excuse for this behavior and find a way to TREAT IT.
My mom won’t do anything.
EDIT: He is unfortunately outgrown child diapers and my mother won’t let him wear the adult ones.
He has to throw away at least three pairs of boxers a week because of the copious amounts of shit in them. My mom can’t keep up with the amount of poop she scrapes out so ends up throwing them away.
Sometimes he throws them in cabinets (the cabinets where I keep my body wash, soap, etc. or behind things and it stinks the entire house up.)
He knows when he does it and isn’t afraid to be told to change. This is just how he lives now.
If he is playing Roblox or sitting in a chair and I smell it, I ask him to change. He fights it and won’t get up unless I force him out of the chair and into the bathroom. The smell is so bad all the time I’ve thrown up more times than I count.
If he is sitting in a chair and I don’t smell it, but ask him to get up, he will slide off the chair and try to hide the smell long enough for him to get away and not be told to change.
He isn’t ashamed to poop his pants. Me and my brother (M-16) make fun of him every day and all he does is laugh it off.
There is a lot more that he does that I don’t want to mention.
Is it that bad for reprimanding my brother and telling my mom she isn’t parenting correctly? I just want a normal brother.