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My(F) boyfriend and I are the same age in our early 20s but while his parents aren’t crazy religious, my parents are. My parents always made me to go to church every Sunday and every time I try to argue against it just turns into a screaming match and I still go next Sunday, hell I’m apart of several bible groups I don’t want to be apart but since being a christian is more important than free will my parents don’t care that I hate it. With my parents being christians (I must state I know not all christians are like this) they’re very homophobic and have very traditional gender values. I remember my mom would complain my older sister started gaining weight and when she started going to the gym she complained my sister would get muscles and look too manly?? But one core memory I have was when I was extremely suicidal back in high school I cracked and told my mom, it turned into a lecture on how I’m going to burn in hell for suicide and thus why my mom made me be a part of all these bible groups to “cleanse my soul”.

My boyfriend’s family are catholics but they aren’t crazy religious. They’re pretty supportive of LGBTQ and only go to church on certain days like good Friday. The other day I asked my boyfriend how his family felt about swearing growing up and he said his family never made a big deal about it and told me “As an adult I’m allowed to say whatever I want as long isn’t straight up rude, it’d be stupid if my parents tried to control that” and it really made me think about how badly I’d get yelled at if I said crap in front my parents.

I made this post online on a forum geared towards writing which is a hobby I love and have loved doing for the past decade. I have this story I've been working on and wanting to make into a comic back in middle school, but since I'm now in uni and I don't have a lot of free time to draw I decided to make it into a novel instead. I've been working on said novel on and off for the past five years and decided to redraft and take it seriously a few weeks ago. In this post I wrote about my situation and joked how I don't really read novels in attempt to look for someone that's on the same boat as me. I expected to either get ignored or have one person comment a similar story to mine, imagine my shock when I woke up the next day to 20+ comments degrading me.

I guess it was partly my fault for not specifying what "I don't read" means, most of the comments assumed I've never picked up a book but I really meant I haven't picked up a book to read leisurely since high school (a few years ago). Anyways I got a lot of snarky comments just calling me stupid or how I'm wasting my time writing and I'm a shitty author, some even discrediting the creation of comics saying that making comics is a lot easier than writing novels. I know I shouldn't take what people say online personally but every time I work on my novel I can't help but remember the mean things I read and it makes me just want to stop writing. It's been weeks since I made and deleted that post and it's also been weeks since I last touched my novel, I used to be able to write pages in a day but now I can barely even write a sentence. A hobby I once did for comfort is now I hobby I try to avoid.

i know i shouldn't take what people say on reddit too seriously but id be lying if i said it didnt make me a bit sad i just need to get it out there to move on

last night i made a post about how i have this story i wanted to made into a comic but decided to make into a novel first since i dont have a lot of time or motivation to draw but i do to write (im a university student so im on my laptop 30 hours a week anyways). i joked how i don't read novels and mostly read webcomics and just wanted to find people that were in the same boat as and how their writing journey has been so far

i expected to either get ignored or get one response of someone being like "haha same! i struggled with x but i love y!" or something similar so we could chat, imagine my reaction when i woke up to a bunch of comments calling me stupid, saying making comics is easier than writing a novel, or how im wasting my time writing

when i said i dont read i meant i dont read as a hobby, ive read novels and literature, i just never liked them enough to make it a hobby. the comments i was getting really got to me especially how some insisted making comics is easier than writing a novel or how a hobby i love is a waste of my time because i dont follow rule x or y . i understand people need practice to get better but what if i wanted to get better with trial and error. i write for fun!

i just wanted to find someone to talk about my hobbies with and instead i got degraded which honestly kinda killed my passion for writing

the deuteragonist of my story, C, (M16) is a prince and is considered innocent, oblivious and would never hurt a fly but the reason why is because he almost murdered his older sister when he was 13 and still regrets it

growing up his older sister, A, got most of the attention and since C was the spitting image of his late mother he was often kept isolated in his room. C believed he was the next heir to the throne and he associated the throne with the attention he craved but it wasn't until A turned 16 she was sent off to a different country to receive training to become the queen, C felt betrayed and inferior to his sister. One day, when A was visiting home and he noticed her food was left unattended in the kitchen and he saw a window of opportunity. A was deathly allergic to cinnamon, C didn't realise what he was doing until he was holding the open jar of cinnamon over her meal and felt horrified by what he was about to do.

in the story the mc and deuteragonist both get abilities and C's ability requires him to work through his mental problems before he can use them since they're extremely powerful and tied to his emotions, the only way he can be released from his guilt is if he confesses to his sister to what he almost did.

A loves C, she's strong both physically and mentally. A never wanted to be queen but she realised how soft hearted C was she knew she had to be queen. Originally I wanted her to forgive C right away but it doesn't make sense realistically.

okay so i saw some theories that marinette might get akumatised in the finale hence why she gave alya her miraculous but what if she just pulls a light yagami

before she gets akumatised she hands over guardianship to alya so she forgets that she was ladybug so when she gets akumatised and cerise keeps pushing her to admit she's ladybug she has no clue what she's talking about and tries to steal the miraculous like every other akumatised villian does and once alya and chat noir deakumatise her alya hands back guardianship and tikki and alya explain everything she forgot (if she doesn't automatically remember after becoming guardian again)

and its also the reason why chat noir seems stressed in the teaser because his girlfriend got akumatised

got an interview for arts coop and holy cow im SO NERVOUS 😭😭😭😭

ive been asking my friend whose already in coop for advice and they just gave me the be confident and that they mostly ask STAR questions but if i'm being honest im not really good at interviews in general, i think ive done about 9 job interviews and only passed about 4 of them (im sure i did fine in some of the ones i failed but i kept stuttering while recording an online interview)

i feel confident i'll sound and act professional since its in person and i have a decent amount of work experience in food service and childcare but i feel like compare to other people getting interviewed that probably have years in research, charity, office, etc. experience i give such nothing burger and nothing i say will have any real substance or hook

am i really going to have to sell myself? how do i sell myself if i have nothing to sell compared to other candidates?

also i don't have references and i dont believe i can get one in a reasonable amount of time should i be worried about that?

I'm trying to apply for this competitive grad school and the recommended gpa is a 3.5/B+/85% but the thing is i got an 80% in one class and just barely got a B, a 79% in another class which got me a B (one percent away from a B+), and a 80% in a class im in right now and somehow that's an A (not complaining though)

I'm pretty sure that's probably some logically reason why transcripts are only in grade letters but man does it give me high cortisol when i thought an 80 was good only to get slapped with a 3.0 final grade that drags down my gpa 😢

I wanted to like the story so bad when it first came out almost a year ago because i love stories with children in it but the first three episodes pissed me off so much, i hate how everyone in the webtoon acted like mc's mom was an angel when she abandoned her son to struggle while she ran a kindergarten for some of the countries richest' kids and they all basically bashed mc for not thinking the same way about her

did why she abandon him get explained? was it satisfactory? is the story now worth reading?

the main character (F16) of my story has a massive burn scar that covers half of her body that she got when she was a few months old (its a fantasy story hence how she even survived lol), it covers the right of her face, partially blind in her right eye, only has 8.5 fingers (right hand lacks a pinky and a portion of her ring finger, her whole right hand is scarred and has no nails), and her right foot is disfigured but shes gotten accustomed to walking and has a "normal" gait.

the premise of the story is that shes a regular human but gets infected with a disease and gets an ability and is moved to a secret society to hide her. prior to her infection she she uses creams and takes pills to manage her scar and every few months she gets skin grafting surgery since she's going through puberty. After her infection she gets better vision in her right eye (still somewhat blurry) and no longer needs to use her medications or get her surgeries anymore (she's able to manage the pain better and her body can now grow skin on its own like her unscarred skin can) but her scars are still present.

i plan on making this story a comic and the genre is action/slice of life/ a bit of romance and subplot is her becoming more confident with her scar but theres some minor details i would like to know

1. how would cuts/bruise/wounds look on her scars, especially burns as well
2. how would blushing look like on scarred skin
3. she has a water ability so could her skin get wrinkly from water like unscarred skin
4. can she sweat/cry out of her left eye
5. prior to her infection would she struggle with bending her arms/fingers
6. what seems like a plausible reason that a professional wouldnt exactly raise their eyebrow too (her adoptive father tells her she was burned by accidentally getting poured with boiling water even though she was burned by a regular flame)

additionally does anyone know any content creator or blogger that has scars similar to my mc that I could read for reference?

thanks in advance!

i (20) come from a strict religious family so i barely have sex with my boyfriend but when i do i usually start getting post nut clarity about the possibility of getting pregnant but the thing is, its very unlikely

we always use condoms, we always check if theyre still good, go once, most times pull out, i always plan it to be at max three days before or after my period, and i have pms (pcos) so that reduces my chances significantly (my doctor told me this directly), and if by all odds i were to get pregnant ive educated myself on what to do next and on resources is my city i could reach out to but i STILL get anxiety about getting pregnant that sometimes affect my functioning until i get my period

to other women that experience this feeling too how do you cope, i just want some words of advice that can calm me down whenever this happens😭

sorry silly question but right now im taking three summer courses one may june, one july august, and one may august and all of them are three credits each so nine credits in total
i noticed in my tuition thats due on may 20th my technology fee was charged based on nine credits instead of six which comes to 71.19 instead of 47.46 but im debating if i should keep or drop the july august class
so if i drop the july august class before it begins but after may 20th will i get reimbursed for the 23.73 i didnt have to pay had i dropped it before may 20th?