u/Typical-Comfort2556

I was newly hired as a Library Media Technician (basically just a part time librarian) at an elementary school. Their last librarian left in what I think was the middle of the year and they have only had substitutes in since then. I have login information, but that’s about it and no other school in my district uses this database. I’m slowly learning how to use it, but I don’t understand how I’m supposed to change the grade levels for my student patrons. Does anybody have any advice?

My husband and I have been together for 8 years, and married for nearly 3 months.
When we first starting dating I was a little kinky, exploring various aspects of BDSM and such, and he explored lightly with me. Overall, our sex life was exciting and very fulfilling. The past few years our libidos have switched off, sometimes mine being higher, sometimes his, normal long-term stuff. The few months before our wedding we expressed very little interest in having sec with me, citing both body image and stress to not wanting to sleep with me despite initiation and lack of pressure. I respected this (of course) but did a lot of research on how to give a phenomenal blowjob, in part because I wanted to make sure when his libido picked back up, I would be able to satisfy him, and in part because it really excites me. He has always been a man who really enjoyed receiving oral.

His libido still isn’t super high, but when we do have sex now, all he really desires is head because it’s so good now. It’s gotten to the point where he gets kind of soft when we transition into full penetrative sex, or he finishes so fast. Also, he kind of forgets to engage in foreplay with me because he gets put into the moment way
I know communication is key and we are working on it. Just hard when it seems like head is genuinely the only thing that gets him off now.

TLDR: head so good, it’s backfiring

Edit: would LOVE to remind some of yall that my flair is no input. I’m aware of the solutions, but I’m just venting because I’m frustrated! Emphasis on venting because it’s not a brag that overly enthusiastic whereas my partner is not.

I (27F) was diagnosed with anxiety/depression when I was 15 years old and going through the worst mental health crisis I had ever gone through (as most mentally ill teenagers will have experienced). Since then I’ve gone through CBT therapy, moved out, gone low contact with my family and even gotten married.

My mental health has been up and down through this time, as it always does, but ever since my wedding I’ve been crashing WAY harder than I have in years, and I don’t even know the real trigger.

I’m obviously aware of MULTIPLE factors of what’s going on, but that’s not really the point I guess.

I’m in the middle of doing things I know I shouldn’t. Isolation, mild self destruction, the like. But what really sucks is that my friends don’t seem to notice/get irritated with my behavior. They know I’ve struggled with my mental health most of my life, but haven’t seen it bad. If I act anxious, they get annoyed and call me out, saying they aren’t sure why I’m acting so freaked out over minor issues. I’ve been trying to stay social (something I know I need to keep from getting *really* depressed) but I’ve been quieter, something they say is weird. If I try to push myself to talk then they act like I’m being “too much” or really annoying.

I know some of it is in my head, but they’ve started avoiding me more, ignoring me when we are out, etc.

I’m just frustrated and lonely and can feel myself slipping into old attitudes and behaviors more and more. I’m fighting it actively, trying so hard and leaving myself exhausted every single day.

Where are we getting our seasonal fresh produce from? Tired of grocery store fruit smh.

Does anyone else hear all the cop cars and helicopter?? Near main st.