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So I used to visit a shop run by an uncle whenever I felt hungry while returning from my workplace. Being an introverted person, I don't usually talk much with people. Though I always visited the same place for buying the same thing. I had heard last year that uncle had some problem in his leg and that's why he had closed the shop for a while. But in February and March this year, his shop was closed, even in April. So I was quite worried about his health. Also, as my office route had changed, I didn't know he had reopened it until a few days ago.

So today, ignoring my social awkwardness, I asked him why he had closed it. He said, “Beta, pair mein dikkat aa gayi thi aur toe katna pada.” And he said it so easily, without expressing pain or any other emotion. This just made me realize that life is not easy, and for many people, it is so, so tough. Jo hum apni takleefon ka gungaan gaate rehte hain, many people have much bigger problems. And we are actually so blessed in many ways.

Aaj mera thoda haath jal gaya and I am still feeling a little pain. And uncle ka toh toe hi cut ho gaya, but he is still doing his work single-handedly and also talking with people like nothing even happened.

This all made me realize ki life mein hume bas aage badte rehna hota hai — sometimes by walking, crawling, or sometimes running. It all goes on.

I wish I could have you

I wish that you had been near

Then the noises in my head would be less heavier

I wish I could say how my heart truly felt

How with each of your words it found you so familiar. Maybe you are just a life lesson to learn

A page in my story that i had to turn

**Yet still, every thought makes my feelings renew:**

**I wish from my soul I could just have you.**

I wish I could have you

I wish that you had been near

Then the noises in my head would be less heavier

I wish I could say how my heart truly felt

How with each of your words it found you so familiar. Maybe you are just a life lesson to learn

A page in my story that i had to turn

Yet still, every thought makes my feelings renew:

I wish from my soul I could just have you.

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So yesterday I was coming back from my workplace. So as usual I take e rickshaw for going to the metro station. And usually other people also take it. But yesterday one boy sat on the the same e rickshaw and after 2-3 min he started talking to me I was just using my phone . He firstly just asked about the how much price they take for the metro station. That's seem pretty genuine question.

Until he start asking me if I daily take it , or where do I work. He also asked that if there are openings in my workplace . What's was weird is he trying to build communication. Like asking what course I am doing , about how many exams it takes.

Now what's my question is to you guys especially girls. So I am just 21 and from my past experience like when I was 18 I remember I had gone to pickup my sister from school and there was a boy who cracked a joke and I was standing beside it so I smiled on it. But than he was asking about my name . I didn't replied that. Phir apna hi batane lga. And guess what it didn't stopped there. He freaking followed me for 3-4 days while I was going to my Computer classes.

Similarly kind of experience has bind me like I don't know how to understand the genuine professional and personal gap. I now keep poker face all around even when I am traveling or even with my cousins frnds etc.

Even on networking sites like linkdin too many people firstly ask for what course I am doing and they just ask those most basic questions which can be easily known by the website. And many of them don't even read about the profile description just start asking which course are you doing. When I was new there I use to reply with best of knowledge. But now I just tell them to research the basics by themselves. As the previous conversation usually ended by asking my insta profile which I obviously didn't gave.

These experiences have kind of confused me to know what's the intention of a person.

Not only of young boys but also of males in there 30-40s . I remember once at metro station one uncle asked me about metro route though the first thought came in my mind was nowadays you can easily check it on google.but still as he was in my father's age I told me. Afterwards he by nowhere started telling me about how he is unmarried at that age and have many houses and enough money etc etc. how he will keep the his lady happy and so so.

In my professional life I remember one of our client has some bank related work and two bank personnel visited our office for the documentation etc. One of them asked me for my number for communication of other documents needed. But I gave him only landline number of office which is as per rules. But as they asked like 2 times and were saying if it is busy and all. Though I just pass that conversation. I mean now my brain is thinking about does I have done right .

Like using personal number has been ok in work related also as I have seen people around me.

So this is what my issue is.

I seek guidance especially for other girls how they dealt with this type of issue.How do you girls differentiate between a genuinely friendly person and someone with an agenda?

How do you hold your ground without constantly feeling like you're being "rude" or "unapproachable"?

I have read books such as A book thief, kite runner, a man called ove, every last word, the hunger games, silent patient and couple of more. Also the last book I tried was

Alanna: The First Adventure Novel by Tamora Pierce. Now I want to read something as slowly stedy as A Man called ove and every last book. A book simple,slow yet meaningful.