u/Velvet-Dragon-Fire48

Currently in my early 20s and living with my (very toxic) parents and younger siblings. I'm unable to work (at least currently) due to my disabilities and mental health, and this alone means I'm unable to make any money, aside from on vinted and selling stuff online.

And the thing is, I'll never be in a relationship and nor do I want one, I'm aroace. But it absolutely scares me rigid that I'm broke af and unable to move out, plus I'll never be able to move out with a partner because I won't have one. Rent is so expensive but I really need to. I can't even afford private hrt yet without having to use my savings. My mental health is suffering from having to live with them and I hate it.

All from ao3

'it was all falling down and a long way from cheap' - hunted - the young ones

I Don't Want You - thegoodreverend - the young ones

Home Alone - Noelle (SilentFilmLover) - the young ones

Thank you

I'd be really grateful if someone can help me find these, especially the first one because I finally managed to remember the title

perhaps, perhaps, perhaps - binoculars - Bottom (uk)

something stupid - siradriandangerous - the young ones

Shame, Acceptance and Inexperience - stallion_duck_snmw - the young ones

The Talk: Take 2 - Noelle (SilentFilmLover) - the young ones

Restless Heart Syndrome - pickaxetothebrain - the young ones

Thank you

I'm not 100% sure on the title because it might have changed, but

'I want what I can't have' by EvilEd for The young ones fandom

I'm currently getting (or at least attempting) to get a diagnosis for what they think is most likely NCAH, and since I'm trans (presumed female at birth, now a trans man) too, I'm wondering if this is a treatment option that an endocrinologist might prescribe. In the last appointment I had I did ask them but was told I have to wait the 8 years on the NHS gender identity waiting list to even be prescribed this. Thing is, aside from transition reasons I reckon it would improve my health too, but he wouldn't even let me finish my point before shutting the idea down.

Has anyone here had a similar experience?

Think they're all mainly unfinished fics, but all from the same fandom. I'd be really grateful if someone could find these for me, thanks

Origins - spicylatina - The Young Ones (1982)

New Beginnings - filiussolis - The Young Ones (1982)

Over the Edge - nicoleb - The Young Ones (1982)

Despite saying my pronouns are he/him on the profile section I had to complete prior assessment, the whole thing is a mess of different pronouns and my deadname throughout which is shit. Tbf the deadname part isn't their fault as it's going by my legal name apparently (I haven't had it changed yet, nor does my transphobic mother know who was the informant) but it's still depressing to read when they use it about 10 times per paragraph, no joke.

I'm just relieved to get the diagnosis honestly but the report is a nightmare to read and just makes me sad. Has anyone else here had a similar experience?

I make a point of correcting her every single time, mainly for my own peace of mind, but it really does get to me. And tbh aside from a few friends who are genuinely supportive, I don't have a single family member who is decent in any way and it's depressing af.

She says it's "ridiculous to call me a 'he' when I don't sound like one"... apparently. I can't help being pre-T and aside from my voice not being that low I do pass most of the time which makes her misgendering worse in public at least. Funny though how she suddenly manages to use my correct pronouns when she's sitting in a doctor's appointment with me (my doctor is surprisingly supportive. But my mother elbows her way into my appointments every time on the basis of helping me incase I forget what to say bc I'm autistic. I am also an adult though, not a kid.)

Like how am I meant to get used to my correct pronouns when no one uses them? It makes my dysphoria worse too and idk what to do.

And the worst thing is it's usually said in "support" of trans men, as in someone explaining the entire concept to someone who has no idea like on a news interview I just saw on tiktok.

It's incorrect too, bc being a woman or man is a gender identity, not even a medical term. It completely excludes intersex trans people too. Even saying "biologically female" has a similar issue but not even that is as bad as the "biologically a woman" thing.

Plus it's dysphoria-inducing af.

Wondering what everyone else's take is on this

Two fics from small fandoms that I'm pretty sure were deleted:

'What Doesn't Kill You' - Storiesfromthebluebox - The Young Ones (1982) ...I think this one was a longfic but unfinished, on both ao3 and fanfic.net

And one called 'Pet Names' from the Bottom (UK) 1991 fandom on ao3, but unfortunately I can't remember the name of the author. I'm not 100% sure if that was the title either but yh

I'd be really grateful if anyone could find these

It's an unfinished 1 chapter fic from maybe pre-2017? But I'd be grateful if someone could find it

'Basterds Revision' - LONGSHOT101 - The Young Ones (1982)

Thanks

I'd be really grateful if someone could find this fic for me. I'm not entirely sure it was a finished fic if that makes a difference, once chapter at most - and from a small fandom

'Flaws' - betsybo (betsyboop is what the author is called now) - The Young Ones (1982)

Think it was uploaded around 2016 and it's a small fandom so I know my chances are minimal due to how far the archives probably go back. But thanks anyway

'I Used to Be A Girl' - niikolatesla - The Young Ones (1982)

So I'm trans and while I've already chosen a new first name (and middle) I'm also planning on changing my surname at the same time, primarily for family reasons. Thing is though, how do you choose one? Because usually surnames are family-related (which I definitely don't want)

Any advice is appreciated

Because it's not just women who are affected by it. It's widely considered an intersex condition anyway, and not to mention the amount of trans men who have it too.

(side note: I wasn't sure what flair to put this under, hope this is the right one)

It's shit. And incorrect. And very dysphoria inducing.

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Because everyone who has a period is feminine apparently, and this needs to be stated incase people forget. I mean, it's 2026 and people are still using this shitty phrase to describe menstrual products!?

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Also aside from anything else, the 'hygiene' part pisses me off too. Like periods are dirty or something

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