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（18M, 18F）We met through one of our classes and barely knew each other at first. Near the end of the semester, I told him I liked him. He seemed genuinely surprised and even asked me more than once if I was serious.

Instead of distancing himself after finding out, he was the one who reached out and added me on social media. He also told me he wanted to get to know me, so I naturally thought he was open to seeing where things might go.

We spent a few hours hanging out together and had a really good conversation. Afterward, I asked if he’d like to hang out again, and he immediately agreed. We even started making plans for what we could do together.

Later, after I expressed my feelings more clearly and shared what I was hoping for, he took some time to think and told me that he couldn’t see us in a romantic relationship and hoped we could just be friends. After that, we gradually stopped talking.

I’m not upset with him because he was honest, and he never came across as someone who was playing games or intentionally leading me on. That’s actually why I’m still confused.

（Just confuse）Why would someone actively choose to get to know someone after learning that person liked them, only to later decide they only wanted friendship?

（For a little more context, he’s generally a very quiet and reserved person and didn’t seem to have much experience interacting with girls. I don’t know if that changes anything, but I thought it might be relevant.）

I’m not looking for false hope or trying to convince myself that he secretly liked me. I’ve accepted what he told me. I’m simply trying to understand his perspective, because I still don’t fully understand what was going through his mind.

We met through one of our classes and barely knew each other at first. Near the end of the semester, I told him I liked him. He seemed genuinely surprised and even asked me more than once if I was serious.

Instead of distancing himself after finding out, he was the one who reached out and added me on social media. He also told me he wanted to get to know me, so I naturally thought he was open to seeing where things might go.

We spent a few hours hanging out together and had a really good conversation. Afterward, I asked if he’d like to hang out again, and he immediately agreed. We even started making plans for what we could do together.

Later, after I expressed my feelings more clearly and shared what I was hoping for, he took some time to think and told me that he couldn’t see us in a romantic relationship and hoped we could just be friends. After that, we gradually stopped talking.

I’m not upset with him because he was honest, and he never came across as someone who was playing games or intentionally leading me on. That’s actually why I’m still confused.

（Just confuse）Why would someone actively choose to get to know someone after learning that person liked them, only to later decide they only wanted friendship?

（For a little more context, he’s generally a very quiet and reserved person and didn’t seem to have much experience interacting with girls. I don’t know if that changes anything, but I thought it might be relevant.）

I’m not looking for false hope or trying to convince myself that he secretly liked me. I’ve accepted what he told me. I’m simply trying to understand his perspective, because I still don’t fully understand what was going through his mind.

（18F，18M）We met through one of our classes and barely knew each other at first. Near the end of the semester, I told him I liked him. He seemed genuinely surprised and even asked me more than once if I was serious.

Instead of distancing himself after finding out, he was the one who reached out and added me on social media. He also told me he wanted to get to know me, so I naturally thought he was open to seeing where things might go.

We spent a few hours hanging out together and had a really good conversation. Afterward, I asked if he’d like to hang out again, and he immediately agreed. We even started making plans for what we could do together.

Later, after I expressed my feelings more clearly and shared what I was hoping for, he took some time to think and told me that he couldn’t see us in a romantic relationship and hoped we could just be friends. After that, we gradually stopped talking.

I’m not upset with him because he was honest, and he never came across as someone who was playing games or intentionally leading me on. That’s actually why I’m still confused.

（Just confuse）Why would someone actively choose to get to know someone after learning that person liked them, only to later decide they only wanted friendship?

Do you think he was genuinely exploring whether romantic feelings might develop and later realized they didn’t? Or do you think he only ever intended friendship, despite choosing to invest time and effort into getting to know me?

（For a little more context, he’s generally a very quiet and reserved person and didn’t seem to have much experience interacting with girls. I don’t know if that changes anything, but I thought it might be relevant.）

I’m not looking for false hope or trying to convince myself that he secretly liked me. I’ve accepted what he told me. I’m simply trying to understand his perspective, because I still don’t fully understand what was going through his mind.

（Both18）We met through one of our classes and barely knew each other at first. Near the end of the semester, I told him I liked him. He seemed genuinely surprised and even asked me more than once if I was serious.

Instead of distancing himself after finding out, he was the one who reached out and added me on social media. He also told me he wanted to get to know me, so I naturally thought he was open to seeing where things might go.

We spent a few hours hanging out together and had a really good conversation. Afterward, I asked if he’d like to hang out again, and he immediately agreed. We even started making plans for what we could do together.

Later, after I expressed my feelings more clearly and shared what I was hoping for, he took some time to think and told me that he couldn’t see us in a romantic relationship and hoped we could just be friends. After that, we gradually stopped talking.

I’m not upset with him because he was honest, and he never came across as someone who was playing games or intentionally leading me on. That’s actually why I’m still confused.

（Just confuse）Why would someone actively choose to get to know someone after learning that person liked them, only to later decide they only wanted friendship?

Do you think he was genuinely exploring whether romantic feelings might develop and later realized they didn’t? Or do you think he only ever intended friendship, despite choosing to invest time and effort into getting to know me?

（For a little more context, he’s generally a very quiet and reserved person and didn’t seem to have much experience interacting with girls. I don’t know if that changes anything, but I thought it might be relevant.）

I’m not looking for false hope or trying to convince myself that he secretly liked me. I’ve accepted what he told me. I’m simply trying to understand his perspective, because I still don’t fully understand what was going through his mind.

We met through one of our classes and barely knew each other at first. Near the end of the semester, I told him I liked him. He seemed genuinely surprised and even asked me more than once if I was serious.

Instead of distancing himself after finding out, he was the one who reached out and added me on social media. He also told me he wanted to get to know me, so I naturally thought he was open to seeing where things might go.

We spent a few hours hanging out together and had a really good conversation. Afterward, I asked if he’d like to hang out again, and he immediately agreed. We even started making plans for what we could do together.

Later, after I expressed my feelings more clearly and shared what I was hoping for, he took some time to think and told me that he couldn’t see us in a romantic relationship and hoped we could just be friends. After that, we gradually stopped talking.

I’m not upset with him because he was honest, and he never came across as someone who was playing games or intentionally leading me on. That’s actually why I’m still confused.

（Just confuse）Why would someone actively choose to get to know someone after learning that person liked them, only to later decide they only wanted friendship?

Do you think he was genuinely exploring whether romantic feelings might develop and later realized they didn’t? Or do you think he only ever intended friendship, despite choosing to invest time and effort into getting to know me?

（For a little more context, he’s generally a very quiet and reserved person and didn’t seem to have much experience interacting with girls. I don’t know if that changes anything, but I thought it might be relevant.）

I’m not looking for false hope or trying to convince myself that he secretly liked me. I’ve accepted what he told me. I’m simply trying to understand his perspective, because I still don’t fully understand what was going through his mind.

（This is a real situation I personally experienced. I used ChatGPT to help organize my thoughts and make my writing clearer. ）

We met through one of our classes and barely knew each other at first. Near the end of the semester, I told him I liked him. He seemed genuinely surprised and even asked me more than once if I was serious.

Instead of distancing himself after finding out, he was the one who reached out and added me on social media. He also told me he wanted to get to know me, so I naturally thought he was open to seeing where things might go.

We spent a few hours hanging out together and had a really good conversation. Afterward, I asked if he’d like to hang out again, and he immediately agreed. We even started making plans for what we could do together.

Later, after I expressed my feelings more clearly and shared what I was hoping for, he took some time to think and told me that he couldn’t see us in a romantic relationship and hoped we could just be friends. After that, we gradually stopped talking.

I’m not upset with him because he was honest, and he never came across as someone who was playing games or intentionally leading me on. That’s actually why I’m still confused.

（Just confuse）Why would someone actively choose to get to know someone after learning that person liked them, only to later decide they only wanted friendship?

Do you think he was genuinely exploring whether romantic feelings might develop and later realized they didn’t? Or do you think he only ever intended friendship, despite choosing to invest time and effort into getting to know me?

（For a little more context, he’s generally a very quiet and reserved person and didn’t seem to have much experience interacting with girls. I don’t know if that changes anything, but I thought it might be relevant.）

I’m not looking for false hope or trying to convince myself that he secretly liked me. I’ve accepted what he told me. I’m simply trying to understand his perspective, because I still don’t fully understand what was going through his mind.

（This is a real situation I personally experienced. I used ChatGPT to help organize my thoughts and make my writing clearer. ）（btw we both over18）