u/WeirdBluePerception

Hi everyone! I am scheduled for my ablation this week and have some questions.

A little backstory: I am a 49f who had their first episode 24 yrs ago when I was pregnant. I may have had it before then, but that feeling is what I thought was panic attacks. Turns out I was wrong. So for the past 24 years I'll have an episode once every 2 to 3 years. However I thought it was just panic attacks. 10 years ago I was officially diagnosed and almost like clockwork every 2 to 3 years one more episode , I'd have a full workup, they would catch nothing and then nothing for 18 months or so.

I never noticed a correlation anything or anything that caused it. About a year ago I started having more frequent episodes of SVT. The only difference is I could somewhat manage them with valsalva maneuvers. After a particularly bad episode I decided to go ahead and have this ablation done. My guy is supposed to be great and he explained everything in detail. He's unsure since they've never caught it on an EKG that where it is happening at. But I think he said he has done 14,000 of these procedures. So I fill like I am in good hands.

My issue is two things: I live alone and I have a dog. ( And I live on the 2nd floor).

It's hard enough to find someone to take me but I do not have the resources or anyone who can physically stay with me after this procedure.

How long did the actual surgical part take? I need to find somebody that can take a whole day off work and I want to let them know realistically how long they will be waiting at the hospital with me or can they go and go do stuff and then come back?

What about afterwards I know with the general anesthesia I'll be drowsy and stuff but I'm concerned about walking my dog. I don't have anyone that she trust as she's very skittish with people and hiring someone to just walk her would be very traumatic for both me and her. She does not like my neighbors and the only person that she really likes is my ex and he can't stay with me because he has his own dog at home.

I'm having the mapping and the procedure done at the same time. I was told I would they would go in through my chest and my groin. And I'm having General anesthesia.

I know they said all of these things before but I can't remember.

Any advice? I've been off of my metoprolol and I stopped taking my losartan for my blood pressure as well. No episodes but just mini episodes. They are gone in 10 sec or so.

I really don't know what to do about my dog situation. And my job was wanting me to come back to work in 2 days. My boss even said "you just sit at a desk" in the hopes of me returning ASAP. (She said her concern was my vacation and PTO. Whatever).

She already has me scheduled to come back to work on the Tuesday after my procedure (having it on Wed). I've let my doctor's office know how my workplace is being and the fact they're trying everything they can to get me to quit, I'm afraid if I end up not going to work on Tuesday even with a doctor's excuse and FMLA paperwork (I'm covering my ass), they would still find a reason to fire me.

Sorry this is so scattered but I am starting to freak out and actually cried when I read how they did the procedure earlier. Because I cannot stay overnight because I don't have anyone to watch my dog.

I can get more details later but I want to make this quick as I can.

I already talking to the department of Labor almost a year ago about health insurance violations that are researched and searched some more and found out that they're in non-compliance with three due to a certain parity Act.

I requested documentation from the person in our company who works for the plan administrator. It's been 6 months and I'm still waiting. They have gotten onto my email account and deleted the emails for the dates that I first initially requested this.

However, the whole boss of the entire place that I work received a complaint about me that was false about 2 months after I was hired.

He told the people that read the complaints not to tell me and one of the managers thought I should know. And she gave me the name on it who turns out to be my ex-husband's best friend. She didn't go into details but apparently almost all the managers in my entire place know about this and since then this director or whatever position he is has been very cold towards me treats me very rudely and just dismisses me. My ex-husband doxed me again in September. And of course I'm not supposed to know that I know but my director thought I should know this. And she said not to tell him.

I had a medical issue happened last week outside of my control. I had a doctor's excuse in all of this and when I came in today I was written up. I was told this was my last and a final warning no matter the infraction whatever it is in the next 12 months it would mean my termination.

He said it was because I had two previous two or three previous write-ups which I knew nothing about other than one that happened two weeks ago which honestly should have been in my boss's fault but whatever.

I know he wants me gone and it's a horrible place to work people are always teddling on each other it's just a miserable place. He's a cocky little bastard who thinks his shit doesn't stink and that he's always right and never makes any mistakes.

My HR person is very gossipy. And she also used to have my position. And she still has a key to my office. So when the companies HR person would call she would talk to our HR person first and they gossip and all of this and so my HR person knows that I've been talking to the department of Labor. So everybody knows but it's not been said out loud. I do think this is retaliation because right before apparently had been doing horrible work I've been having so many compliments, etc.

And then suddenly I'm getting work taken away from me I'm training people on stuff and today when I walked in no one would even talk to me in my department.

Oh and then they had me fell out a new application. Turns out they probably want to fire me for " lying". My big boss was very adamant about me turning it in as a certain time. I do have a felony. It's very old and was retaliatory and small town politics. It does not even show up on multiple background checks (Amazon and another company).

I mean I left half of it blank. But it also says if you sign this you give us the right to do a background check. Which I found out is against the law and is a big violation in itself. Because they have to have it separate and I guess companies have gotten fines for sneaking the verbiage for a background check in for just a general application.

Other than falling apart and looking at updating my resume do I need to be doing anything else or do I need to tell them that I feel like this is being retaliatory. I have worked hard for this company and I've never had a complaint that was valid. I am weird and I am awkward very socially awkward. And people don't generally like me if they don't know me.

My immediate people love me. But that does not matter.

Oh and I'm still waiting on this documentation for my health insurance denials and I could probably take this to court at this point because they will not give me the documentation they were supposed to have done within 30 days. And yes I've documented all of this..

Any words of wisdom do I need to be letting them know that I filed a complaint or just keep it quiet or what should I do because they know but they don't know that I know they know.

This is something I've known for 20 plus years. He has done some sketch things in the past but we've remained friends off and on because it's never been directed at me. I guess he was upset because I wouldn't sleep with him. Or shower with him or do anything affectionate because I'm just not in the mood to be touched.

So the next day he wanted us to go out of town and I made reservations somewhere. After he leaves I realize he took my monthly MAT medicine that I just refilled and he took half of my fucking rent money. He knows I'm having a hard time paying my bills because I have a large expenditure every month that's taking more than half of my income. He automatically has blocked me so that tells me that he knows what he did.

He lives an hour away but I need hardcore help with this. He got someone fired at his last job because he was of another race and when that person threatened to beat his ass he called the cops on him and the cops called this guy and told him he better not show up in his town or he'd be arrested and never seen again.

Yeah he needs to kick rocks.

I was trying to price check last week. Had everything I wanted, but needed to sign up with Costco after I found out their discount info. So, I was on hold with Tmobile, as I was doing this and got disconnected. My phone would not come back on for like 30 min. It was a calamity of errors. We were in essence waiting on me to get my number from Costco. I had a new phone, 5G home internet, etc. She called and left a message. No way to get in touch with her.

The next day she called, but I was at work. I could not answer my phone, (plus I did not hear it until it went to voice mail). I really wanted her to get credit.

So today I attempted to just do it on my own. Well, I no longer have 5G available at my house. Which is nuts. I called Tmobile. The first person said its not available yet, clearly did not understand me when I said it was available last week.

2nd person overtalked me, and said I misunderstood.

3rd person understood and tried to get me to switch to something that would not meet my needs. I can't do Air or whatever its called until 5G is available bc I get to 1TB a month and the cap is 100GB. So after a few days I am screwed.

I went and checked on the business side after looking the internet for solutions. Low and behold I have 5G at my address FOR BUSINESS. But not for personal. So if I want internet I have to switch and pay MORE.

Can someone please help me. I keep throwing myself at your company and no one will take me. I am about to contact ATT bc I am giving myself until tomorrow when My credit will freeze back to do all of this. XFINITY has lost their damn mind by doubling and no promotions for existing customers.

Is this hopeless? Seems like no one will help me.

Here is the backstory:

Case 1: Arrears only $62.xx biweekly, child is 23, not enforced thru CS, but court (court people refuse to let me file to reduce or have it thrown out).

Case 2: Arrears only: I owe $1700, if I file taxes I could have this paid off. For reason I won't go into none of this would go to my kids and he's currently in jail. This would probably help bond him out so he wouldn't work. Currently $60.00 biweekly. (Kids 12 & 14)

Case 3: both arrears and CS. Only reason this was ever filed was because the person who has my children hates me. And because I refuse to leave and step out of my children's life. Truly this is what she has said on recorded lines. She has told the judge that she doesn't need the money and she truly doesn't.

I pay 276.xx CS and $56.xx arrears by weekly.

$62+ 60+ 276+ 56= $454. Bi weekly.

I make 18.25/hr. X 80= 1460 biweekly pre taxes/insurances/deductions

That's just my straight income. Occasionally I get what is called a percentage. That's if we have a certain income threshold that we meet. It's not guaranteed and again it depends on the revenue we bring in it has to be above a certain threshold before we get it. However the state in their infinite wisdom, count it as straight income. When it shouldn't have been. Because if we have no business or business is below a certain amount.

My last couple of paychecks after taxes and after all of my child support and deductions I received anywhere between $750 and $850. This include my medical dental etc.

I live in income restricted housing. Which means I am in my upper limit for income for my size of apartment. I have a one bedroom I can't even afford a two bedroom for my children if I ever were to get custody because I don't make enough to afford a two bedroom especially with the amount of child support. My child support amount was actually decreased because it is supposed to be over 800 plus arrears.

This is because I should make up 67 or 76% of the total payment of child support since my ex and me do not have custody right now they are living with his mother aka the devil. He had custody because when we split up he didn't like having 50/50 and thus being his hometown and his mom knowing every single person in that courtroom you can imagine things did not go the way of me. Especially when someone's car got stolen someone suddenly lost their job because of a well-timed phone call and so on and so on. So I had to move away to a place where they had buses and did not get to see my kids because he refused to follow the court order which was I got to pick the place. He refused to come anywhere near me because I did not have a vehicle, and he said if I wanted to see the kids I would have to do whatever he told me to do because he knew I couldn't afford to fight or to appeal the decision. Because he made the rules and he was in charge.

Long story short corrupt system, after the magistrate and I had to beg her in court with A list of my rent, light bills, etc showing her how much I made what I brought home etc because I knew I was about to get hit with a ton of money because that's what they were going for. The kids grandmother has told me and everyone has heard this in court is to make me as uncomfortable as possible so I will go away. Unfortunately the court does not care when they listen to this. The times that I'm permitted to bring this to court to listen.

So it was dropped significantly and I have to pay what I posted about. I had to confirmation hearing which is supposed to be when you don't agree with the magisterate's ruling. I tried to tell the magistrate in court and I tried to tell this judge that we had a pre hearing to try to come to a decision prior but the state's attorney would not let me ask one single question and as soon as I tried to ask, this was in a meeting with all parties involved, we were asked to leave because I was not permitted to ask questions. He did not like my tone he said and this is after my ex and my kid's grandmother had yelled at me. And this is not hyperbole.

This is after he made us wait an hour before he came to see us and then he disappeared for another hour. Then he got upset when I told him I had an appointment at a certain time and I needed to be there. I'm assuming he expected me to carve out 6 hours out of my day for him.

He had offered $350 for each of us. I was trying to tell him that my ex was was lying or not being honest about his income. He does a lot of under the table work. And he says he no longer does that which is a straight up lie. He has ads on Facebook offering to services. Then he also works for tips which he under reports. And I was trying to say that but I was not permitted to. Because I don't know. But it's funny how when I had the exact same job he did waiting tables He was allowed to say all of that.

Anyway, the judge said that I would be able to survive on everything even though my rent is almost $1,000 a month. My medication alone is 250. Car payments 400 car insurance is over a hundred, electric his skyrocketed to 150, student loans are about kids, I haven't even included food or doctor's appointments. Then I didn't know I needed to have heart surgery and time off work.

I literally cannot afford to survive and I have dipped into my savings which they don't know I have. I've had to hide that because I knew that their grandmother would get their stinky little fingers on it. My kids unfortunately have been manipulated to hate me and so I get zero time with them. Literally zero time. I'm filed an appeal that succeeded and so I get to have a new hearing. Of course I had to plead about my child support, my confirmation hearing in front of the same judge who denied me due process and was biased in my case because according to him me saying that my ex and my girl's father being in jail seven times in 3 months was a flat out lie. You're right it was it was just six times. And he just violated the sex offender registry three times. This is the same lawyer that called me a liar multiple times called me a drug addict and refused to send my drug test to a lab to confirm that I was on medication that caused false positives because he didn't need to know that because the drug test they do in the office is just as good if not better than the ones they spend a lot of money on. In labs. Who knew?

I'm sorry I made this so long. Has anyone ever had any success when you're kind of stuck in between a rock and a hard place with the amount of child support? The arrears I was told I did not get credit for. Because it should have been paid before and so they don't count that because it would be double dipping which makes zero sense because obviously I didn't pay it and I'm paying it now so how is it double dipping? No one can give me an answer to that and I'm being argumentative when I asked. I filed an appeal for child support but apparently they've lost it and the judge isn't due back in this county for several months. I've asked for a hardship appeal through child support and they've never heard of anything and they can't do anything to help me because it's been too soon. Even with the wrong amount being totaled they won't help me.

I'm about to run out of my savings once that happens I'm going to have to start deciding really hard questions. This month for example I can pay my rent which is 9:40 I can pay my electric which is $145. That brings me up to 1085. I will have approximately $315 in order to pay my electric in order to pay for medication in order to pay for my car insurance which is mandated by the state and I have to have it for my car payment My car payment is $421. My amounts are off but you get the idea.

I'm freaking out. I don't even have the money to put down for my heart surgery. I have a dog I cannot get rid of because she's the only reason I'm alive at this point. I would rather be homeless than lose her.

Someone please, does anybody have any idea please. I'm real honestly worth more dead than I am alive at this point. She hate it difficult. And she wants more money She wants more money so I will suffer more She said it's taken too long. She saw my tally of what I pay each month and was upset that I spend $60 a month for lunch. That's with a discount because I eat at work because I get a discount so I don't eat at home. So I don't have to buy groceries for dinner. On weekends I don't eat a big mea.l I buy a crackers and cheese. Or I'll spend $10 and go get a couple of cheap hamburgers from the local burger place and eat on those for the weekend or get a $7.99 pizza and eat on it all weekend. I can't keep living like this.

I've seen people on here know the type of SVT they have, and how do you know before your procedure? Mine personally happens at such random intervals but it's only been picked up not by any heart monitor other than the ambulance and the ER.

My first episode was when I was 26, so 24 years ago, when I was pregnant. At the time the doctor told me that he thought I just was having an issue with having too much fluid in my body and couldn't handle it. I believe I had several episodes while I was pregnant. And I remember having episodes throughout the years but they weren't that common. The past 10 years or so I would have an episode maybe every two years sometimes every 3 years never shorter distance never longer. Would be doing the random things working or sitting on the couch or even asleep and it would wake me up.

Now I've had so many episodes in the past six to eight months but they've all been self-manageable. I just have to get somewhere where I can do valsalva maneuvers or carotid massage or duck my head into ice water or sometimes just kind of wait it out. Because my insurance sucks and I can't afford to go to the ER. Previously I've gone to the ER every single time and it's always taking adenisone 6mg to cardiovert me. However the last time I went by ambulance, I was at work, and I was actually arguing with the paramedics about not going to the ER and they told me I had no choice, lol, it took 18 mg. But it worked. But every time before I would try to like do a massage on my carotid or bear down and it wouldn't convert.

I have decided to have the ablation and saw my cardiologist last week. Due to the increase of frequency. So now I'm waiting for a call for an appointment with the EP.

So how do they know type because I've been told maybe I have several different types since I can manage mine now and I couldn't before.

I made one last good attempt effort since I saw the promotions had changed and I called Xfinity. The first person I spoke with didn't really handle my issue but explained why I was being charged more. I don't appreciate my account being changed to a different plan without asking me first regardless of why but I understand so I'm just going along with it at this point. I've had so many issues with Xfinity I'm just resolved to just deal with it at this point.

And I spoke to someone who I thought was really nice and understood my situation as my income has become extremely limited due to a situation out of my control and it's only half as much as it used to be. As is everyone else's. She said that I don't qualify for a new plan and wanted to know why my speed was at 500. It was because I didn't increase it it was just automatically increased out of the kindness of whoever controls the speed of the internet.

I said that Xfinity was going to lose me as a customer I've been with him for a few years now if they wouldn't offer the same rate as a new customer and I find that crazy they're willing to lose money and a customer to T-Mobile because they don't want they want older customers established customers to pay more. What kind of business model is this?

This person agreed and said Oh I can get you to only pay $46 for $300 MB or whatever they're called. So I went along with it even though that still kind of more than I would pay at T-Mobile. And I'm not getting a new phone like I would there but whatever. I hate switching.

We get through all the steps I'm crying because I'm saving like double what it was going to be and I need internet for school and the bill comes down and it's 56 instead of 46 and she explains it that it's because of me not getting it the discount is not applied on the statement that she sent me.

And I looked at my email. And I noticed that what was supposed to be for 5 years at $46 for $300 is 80 and no discount applied anywhere. And I just signed a contract right now. And I'm freaking out. I still had another month I believe or at least a few days. Can somebody please help me Because I literally had a heart "event/episode" yesterday,, I need heart surgery, I can't afford the copay and deductible and medications and knowing that I don't even have someone to drive me to the hospital and stay while I have something terrifying done, is freaking scary and exhausting.

And I am truly scared, then add this bill and someone I thought was helping me, may have lied. I feel defeated and want to give up.

Please help.

There is 3 or 4 of us in our office in the same dept, underneath a larger umbrella. We're pretty self-contained We bring in a lot of revenue. I was told when I was hard my position was one thing and it became something that I wouldn't have left my other job before. With that being said I'm the low man on the totem pole despite having more experience than my most next level manager.

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However, there's something about her I can't put my finger on it. Like I like her and she's so friendly with everybody but I just feel like she just doesn't sneaky behavior and I don't know if that's me being paranoid or what. But she acts like she comes from this place of warmth and love and I don't feel that. Yesterday she overreacted to something and then today in front of clients she completely demeaned me and talk down to me like I was scum. Just because I said I hadn't heard that you know I didn't know what to do so I was just trying to explain myself about this one situation.

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So show me I could go back to my office I was being dismissed. Not said quite like that, But that tone.

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Quite literally has everybody here snowballed. She told me yesterday that my work was horrible and I'm about to get fired. And I said why has no one brought this up and she couldn't explain herself. This morning after I came back to my office I'm just trying to cool off you know not say anything so I'm trying to get back to what I was doing. She comes in and ask if it's been a rough morning and I said no it's been great until now. I figure why not be honest.

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Didn't start yelling finger pointing, literally pointing her finger, Tell him we were going to talk about it right now. I said no I want to call off let me cool off and she kept telling me no we're going to talk about it right now. Will she rain up to HR got the whole director of this place as she is alliance building in my opinion because she does this. And then comes down and tells me to go home and throws up the whole I'm your boss and if you're not going to do what I say and talk to me then you're going home. And I said I'm waiting on our boss to get here. So she runs out there and meets our boss before I do because I'm not playing these games. I am a grown ass woman I don't need to be talked down to by her.

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I heard her on the phone yesterday talking about me I'm assuming to our boss because that's what she does something about me essentially maybe getting fired. And this will be a new start blah blah blah.

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We just had a sit down with our boss and wanted to hear both sides and as I'm trying to speak she interrupts saying this No I'll wait until you're done and then just I just snickered when she said something because it was so absurd. I'm getting tired of being talked down to like I'm a piece of shit I cannot literally cannot afford to lose my job right now but I'm not going to bend over backwards for someone that treats me like this.

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I was told I asked too many questions. That it's not important what I ask because I check stuff and I don't want another department head to get an attitude with us like she always does so I'm just trying to be protective. But I just feel like that comment in itself that I asked too many questions. Because I genuinely want to know. I've been yelled out a lot especially this week. I don't feel like I can take any time off at all to deal with stuff in my personal life.

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How should I react to the rest of this day. I'm sitting in tears, And I felt like she has gone to everybody in his talk shit about me. Between this and the fact that she plays this act and I don't understand. I don't know what to do. I have no savings to fall back on I struggled much a month as it is. They left to go to a meeting and said we would finish discussing this later.

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Any advice other than getting a resume ready how I'm to get through today to deal with this crap. I also have a thing and a pill with insurance company that my employer provides because they are violating federal law and ask for a certain document in February and I still have not received it So I feel like they're kind of pushing me out the door because I've not been written up but somehow my work is bad It doesn't make sense.

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I’ve had a weird history at this job from the beginning. Years ago, my ex-husband and one of his friends apparently filed some kind of complaint against me when I first started there. I was never supposed to know about it, but someone told me later. Then last year somebody actually doxxed me and sent a letter to my GM trying to get me fired over political opinions I posted online. Nothing vulgar, just opinions they didn’t like. I never post where I work, so they had to dig hard.

Since then, I’ve always felt like there’s this underlying bias against me from certain people in management. My department director has always supported me and knows I work hard, but the manager directly above me feels very different. I’m overqualified for my position, and honestly I think she sees me as a threat.

The other day things got messy at work. Someone needed something done urgently, and while I was finishing another task, I asked a coworker to handle it. She agreed, then sat there eating her lunch at the speed of erosion while complaining there wasn’t already a template made so she wouldn’t have to type anything herself. I finally said I’d just do it because explaining it to her would take longer than doing it myself.

Meanwhile my manager is hovering, saying once she “takes something off my plate” it’s no longer my concern. But the whole issue was that the thing needed to be done ASAP and instead everybody was standing around discussing it while nothing was happening.

I was already under insane stress because I have two court dates this week involving my kids, plus child support issues that honestly have me terrified I could lose my housing. I got overwhelmed, started crying, and was told to go calm down in the bathroom. Then my director eventually sent me home.

As I’m packing up to leave, suddenly I’m told I’ve apparently been making “tons of little mistakes” for the last three weeks. I asked why nobody had brought this to my attention before, and they insisted they had. I genuinely do not remember these conversations at all.

Now here’s the part freaking me out: I was basically told if I go to both court dates, I may not have a job afterward. I have PTO. We are not busy right now. I even planned to come in after one hearing and work the weekend to make up time. Meanwhile another manager just came back from a three-week international vacation during one of our busiest periods.

So now I’m wondering if this is the beginning of them building a case against me or trying to push me out. Especially because there’s already politics over future promotions, and I know I’m not the preferred person for advancement even though I’m more experienced than some people above me.

Am I overthinking this, or does this sound like the kind of situation where a company is quietly preparing to fire somebody?