u/WlattBoyz

A few years ago, I had no issues attracting women, but recently everything's been flipped on its head. People have always voluntarily told me how good-looking I am without prompting, yet when I go out & about whether I'm walking around campus, the city, or at the bars, I've noticed that girls don't look at me, try to make eye contact with me, interact/flirt with me, or compliment me anymore. I get no signs of attraction anymore. It wasn’t like this for all of high school + junior & sophomore years of college.

I used to get a ton of looks, stares, compliments, flirting & just random interactions with women, whether on social media or in real life, but beautiful women or even women I'm not attracted to no longer give me the same or any unprovoked attention as they used to give me. These attraction signals are not there anymore.

My face & body have matured but I've only gotten better-looking because my features developed (jawline, cheekbones, eyes, body, etc) than when I used to be able to attract women, but women's reactions to me have gone from "never seen a man before" to “he's just an average dude that doesn't warrant looking at". I know I can't be everyone's cup of tea, but I used to be most girls' type & it seems that now I'm nobody's. I feel so invisible & undesired.

I know that there is a higher concentration of people at college, that college is a different ballgame & that there are more options for girls, but they all just ignore me in copious amounts now & it's made me incredibly insecure & has really badly affected how I see myself. I'd really appreciate some insight because I'm really struggling with this. Is it a mental thing on my end? Lack of self-confidence, charisma? Is it because I'm no longer confident in myself & now I'm in my own head? I can't seem to get out of it without getting validated by women, but I can't seem to get women to validate me, so I'm stuck in a negative loop that I so badly want to break out of

I signed a joint tenancy lease for a house with several other tenants. The lease has specified room allocations in Schedule A for each of the individual tenants denoted on the lease. I am the only tenant whose lease allocation says “upstairs of house.” There are two bedrooms beside each other on the second floor upstairs, but the lease doesn’t specify which of those two upstairs rooms I am assigned to, it only specifies that I am assigned to the “upstairs” but it doesn’t denote which bedroom upstairs (there’s a large one near the stairs & a smaller one towards the porch). There are 4 other tenants with specific assigned rooms who’ve adhered to it, such as A gets the main floor front room, B gets the main floor middle room, C gets the main floor back room, D gets the basement left bedroom. The issue is that another tenant, tenant E, who on our joint lease is specifically assigned to the basement right bedroom, has moved his belongings into the larger of the two upstairs rooms instead, thereby violating our joint lease. I consulted multiple different legal clinics & paralegals who concurred that the phrasing of my room assignment is ambiguous because it doesn’t specify which room upstairs is assigned to me so logically I could claim either room upstairs (not both). They further informed me that because it’s NOT a joint lease that doesn’t specify room allocations, tenants can NOT occupy a room that they are not designated to on the joint lease. They also informed me that this is indeed a violation of the lease. Tenant E’s position is that he already moved his things in there & to just let him stay there because he’s already set up. I attempted to compromise & resolve this matter with the other tenant (despite me not having to because the lease technicalities are on my side but wanting to out of goodwill) by offering for me to occupy that particular room because it’ll be my last year there because that’s when my portion of the lease ends, & he still has 2 more years on the lease after that so he can occupy that room for the duration of the 2 years after I leave. I’ve also offered to help him disassemble, move, & reassemble his furniture so he isn’t left to deal with the move himself. I’ve explained to him that his signed allocation is the basement right room, while mine is the upstairs of the house as denoted on our jointly signed lease. I’ve also tried to find a compromise rather than just making this adversarial. He doesn’t agree and wants to stay in the larger upstairs room. I tried reaching out to tenant E but he didn’t respond for days & none of the other tenants had his number. I only received a message from him after giving him the benefit of the doubt for days & reaching out to the landlord when the wait got a little ridiculous. After waiting days for a response from the landlord, I was told that the rooms are assigned on a first come first serve basis despite that not being on the lease as the lease has specified room allocations.

At this point, I’m mainly wondering how can I get the landlord to enforce the lease without having to enforce the RTA/LTB? I want to resolve this without creating bad blood, but I also don’t think it’s reasonable for me to give up the room in an area only I am signed to simply because he wants to stay there when he’s not assigned to be there. (Then what’s the point of having a joint lease with specified rooms? What’s the point of signing a contract if elect not to follow it at our own leisure?)

I’m in Ontario if that matters. Just looking for some unbiased perspectives especially on how to have the landlord enforce the lease & have tenant E respect the lease without making this situation unnecessarily hostile? Not having the lease enforced otherwise that would set a precedent (internally) for any of us to violate the lease in any way for our own convenience.

I signed a joint tenancy lease for a house with several other tenants. The lease has specified room allocations in Schedule A for each of the individual tenants denoted on the lease. I am the only tenant whose lease allocation says “upstairs of house.” There are two bedrooms beside each other on the second floor upstairs, but the lease doesn’t specify which of those two upstairs rooms I am assigned to, it only specifies that I am assigned to the “upstairs” but it doesn’t denote which bedroom upstairs (there’s a large one near the stairs & a smaller one towards the porch). There are 4 other tenants with specific assigned rooms who’ve adhered to it, such as A gets the main floor front room, B gets the main floor middle room, C gets the main floor back room, D gets the basement left bedroom. The issue is that another tenant, tenant E, who on our joint lease is specifically assigned to the basement right bedroom, has moved his belongings into the larger of the two upstairs rooms instead, thereby violating our joint lease. I consulted multiple different legal clinics & paralegals who concurred that the phrasing of my room assignment is ambiguous because it doesn’t specify which room upstairs is assigned to me so logically I could claim either room upstairs (not both). They further informed me that because it’s NOT a joint lease that doesn’t specify room allocations, tenants can NOT occupy a room that they are not designated to on the joint lease. They also informed me that this is indeed a violation of the lease. Tenant E’s position is that he already moved his things in there & to just let him stay there because he’s already set up. I attempted to compromise & resolve this matter with the other tenant (despite me not having to because the lease technicalities are on my side but wanting to out of goodwill) by offering for me to occupy that particular room because it’ll be my last year there because that’s when my portion of the lease ends, & he still has 2 more years on the lease after that so he can occupy that room for the duration of the 2 years after I leave. I’ve also offered to help him disassemble, move, & reassemble his furniture so he isn’t left to deal with the move himself. I’ve explained to him that his signed allocation is the basement right room, while mine is the upstairs of the house as denoted on our jointly signed lease. I’ve also tried to find a compromise rather than just making this adversarial. He doesn’t agree and wants to stay in the larger upstairs room. I tried reaching out to tenant E but he didn’t respond for days & none of the other tenants had his number. I only received a message from him after giving him the benefit of the doubt for days & reaching out to the landlord when the wait got a little ridiculous. After waiting days for a response from the landlord, I was told that the rooms are assigned on a first come first serve basis despite that not being on the lease as the lease has specified room allocations.

At this point, I’m mainly wondering how can I get the landlord to enforce the lease without having to enforce the RTA/LTB? I want to resolve this without creating bad blood, but I also don’t think it’s reasonable for me to give up the room in an area only I am signed to simply because he wants to stay there when he’s not assigned to be there. (Then what’s the point of having a joint lease with specified rooms? What’s the point of signing a contract if elect not to follow it at our own leisure?)

I’m in Ontario if that matters. Just looking for some unbiased perspectives especially on how to have the landlord enforce the lease & have tenant E respect the lease without making this situation unnecessarily hostile? Not having the lease enforced otherwise that would set a precedent (internally) for any of us to violate the lease in any way for our own convenience.

I signed a joint tenancy lease for a house with several other tenants. The lease has specified room allocations in Schedule A for each of the individual tenants denoted on the lease. I am the only tenant whose lease allocation says “upstairs of house.” There are two bedrooms beside each other on the second floor upstairs, but the lease doesn’t specify which of those two upstairs rooms I am assigned to, it only specifies that I am assigned to the “upstairs” but it doesn’t denote which bedroom upstairs (there’s a large one near the stairs & a smaller one towards the porch). There are 4 other tenants with specific assigned rooms who’ve adhered to it, such as A gets the main floor front room, B gets the main floor middle room, C gets the main floor back room, D gets the basement left bedroom. The issue is that another tenant, tenant E, who on our joint lease is specifically assigned to the basement right bedroom, has moved his belongings into the larger of the two upstairs rooms instead, thereby violating our joint lease. I consulted multiple different legal clinics & paralegals who concurred that the phrasing of my room assignment is ambiguous because it doesn’t specify which room upstairs is assigned to me so logically I could claim either room upstairs (not both). They further informed me that because it’s NOT a joint lease that doesn’t specify room allocations, tenants can NOT occupy a room that they are not designated to on the joint lease. They also informed me that this is indeed a violation of the lease. Tenant E’s position is that he already moved his things in there & to just let him stay there because he’s already set up. I attempted to compromise & resolve this matter with the other tenant (despite me not having to because the lease technicalities are on my side but wanting to out of goodwill) by offering for me to occupy that particular room because it’ll be my last year there because that’s when my portion of the lease ends, & he still has 2 more years on the lease after that so he can occupy that room for the duration of the 2 years after I leave. I’ve also offered to help him disassemble, move, & reassemble his furniture so he isn’t left to deal with the move himself. I’ve explained to him that his signed allocation is the basement right room, while mine is the upstairs of the house as denoted on our jointly signed lease. I’ve also tried to find a compromise rather than just making this adversarial. He doesn’t agree and wants to stay in the larger upstairs room. I tried reaching out to tenant E but he didn’t respond for days & none of the other tenants had his number. I only received a message from him after giving him the benefit of the doubt for days & reaching out to the landlord when the wait got a little ridiculous.

At this point, I’m mainly wondering about two things:

1. How can I get him to compromise and actually work with me on this without having to enforce the RTA/LTB? I want to resolve this without creating bad blood, but I also don’t think it’s reasonable for me to give up the room in an area only I am signed to simply because he wants to stay there when he’s not assigned to be there. (Then what’s the point of having a joint lease with specified rooms? What’s the point of signing a contract if elect not to follow it at our own leisure?)

2. The landlord said that if we can’t resolve this between ourselves, they will lock the larger upstairs room and have me occupy the smaller one. If the lease says that I am the only one assigned to the “upstairs of house” but doesn’t specify that I’m assigned to the smaller room, can the landlord unilaterally decide that I get the smaller room and lock the larger one? Wouldn’t there need to be some actual basis for that written in the lease agreement? (There isn’t.)

I’ve already spoken with paralegals familiar with tenancy law who told me that the fact this is a joint lease with room allocations matters, no changes can be made without a written amendment on the lease agreed to by all parties, a room cannot be chosen unilaterally for me based on the phrasing of my allocation, and that the other tenant being assigned the basement right room is the only thing that should matter to tenant E. They told me that had tenant E & I both been signed to the “upstairs of house” (verbatim from lease), then perhaps he might have a claim to either upstairs rooms but he is not so he does not. They also suggested that having them send the tenant/landlord an official letter noting this lease violation and asking them to correct it, but I don’t wanna do that unless I’m absolutely forced to do so. I’ve attempted my best to operate in good faith & yet my very attempts at solving an issue are being rebuffed. I’ve operated in good faith throughout everything & tried my best but it’s not fair & it’s not cool for me to accept something that I didn’t sign to for someone else’s convenience who is refusing to even let me have that convenience so that they can enjoy it for double the time when my lease ends.

I’m in Ontario if that matters. Just looking for some unbiased perspectives especially on how to approach the roommate and the landlord without making this situation unnecessarily hostile but having the lease enforced otherwise that would set a precedent (internally) for any of us to violate the lease in any way for our own convenience.

I’ve been struggling with figuring out what my hair needs for years & I’m still seriously struggling to figure it out. Could anyone share any tips or anything that helped you?

I went to my local home TD branch at 1PM today & while I was in line, who I assume was a manager told me & everybody else waiting that their systems are down & for us to come back later. I deposited $300 cash into the ATM before leaving at around 1:20-1:30PM & it’s now been 4 hours since my deposit but it still hasn’t shown up in my balance. I went back to that TD branch explaining to them the details of my deposit & how there were 2 TD employees helping me at the ATM because of their systemwide errors & outage to prove my deposit as well as the cameras in the ATM & at the branch, but they told me that they’re gonna “investigate” & get back to me within 5 business days. What the hell, has anything like this happened to anyone else? (Located in the GTA in Ontario, Canada)

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