What’s the biggest reason clients disappear after one haircut?
Not talking about bad cuts — I mean clients who liked the service but still never come back.
Do reminders/loyalty systems actually help in real shops or is it mostly price/location?
What’s the biggest reason clients disappear after one haircut?
Not talking about bad cuts — I mean clients who liked the service but still never come back.
is it price or location?
If you’re using platforms like Booksy or Fresha… do you really own your clients?
Or does the platform?
Because:
You can’t fully control communication
You depend on their system
Your clients are one tap away from competitors
I’ve been building something different:
Barbershops having their own mobile app, where the relationship is directly between you and your client.
No middleman.
Just wondering — does this matter to you, or not really?
Serious question for barbers:
If your shop had its own mobile app (your name, your logo, your clients inside it), would you actually use it?
I’m building custom apps for barbershops where:
Clients book directly with you
You send offers anytime
Loyalty system keeps them coming back
No third-party taking control of your customers
I’ve been offering free demo apps just to show how it looks.
If anyone’s curious, I can build one for your shop so you see it yourself.
السلام عليكم
خليني أحكيلكم الخلاصة:
أنا كنت 22 سنة لما عرفتها، وهي كانت 18. حبّينا بعض وخططنا لمستقبلنا سوا.
اتخرجت من الكلية وأنا عندي 23 ودخلت الجيش سنة (وده إجباري عندنا).
دلوقتي أنا 24 وهي 20، وأنا بعمل كل حاجة عشان أتجوزها. هي قالتلي إنها مستنية نتجوز في أقرب وقت وكلمت مامتها في الموضوع.
كنا مبسوطين سوا، هي شغالة في الريل إستيت وأنا شغال سوفت وير إنجينير.
عشنا أحلى سنتين في حياتنا، وكانت دايمًا بتقول إني الأمان بتاعها وإنّي كل حاجة ليها وإنها مش قادرة تعيش من غيري.
اللي كان بينا كان حقيقي وجاد، وطبعًا كان فيه خناقات كتير، بس كنا بنحلها بشكل صح، رغم إنها نادرًا ما كانت بتعترف بغلطها، بس كنت بسامح.
في آخر 3 شهور من خدمتي في الجيش، كنت مضغوط جدًا (وده مش مبرر)، فبدأت أعصّب بسرعة على أي غلطة منها، كبيرة أو صغيرة، خصوصًا لما ما تعترفش بغلطها.
فكنت ساعات بعلى صوتي وأغلط فيها بالكلام، وده كان غلط كبير جدًا ومليش أي حق أعمل كده مهما كانت غلطتها، وكان المفروض أتصرف أحسن.
خلصت الجيش والدنيا هديت شوية، بس هي بقت شايفة إن ده أنا الحقيقي، وإن لو أنا بعلى صوتي دلوقتي، بعد الجواز ممكن أمد إيدي عليها، وده مستحيل وكمان حرام في ديننا إن الراجل يضرب ست، وأنا عمري ما مديت إيدي على بنت مهما كان.
أنا عارف إني كسرت إحساس الأمان اللي كان عندها، بس شايف إن علاقتنا تستاهل فرصة تانية.
(ببساطة اللي حصل كان 21 شهر حلوين جدًا و3 شهور وحشين، وهي شايفة إن الوحش أكتر من الحلو، وده مش حقيقي خالص).
هي كانت بتطلب تاخد 7 أيام بريك عشان تفهم نفسها وتعرف هي عايزة إيه، وأنا ما ادتهاش المساحة دي، عشان كنت شايف الموضوع مالوش لازمة، زي يعني إيه محتاجة مساحة عشان تعرفي إنك عايزاني؟ ما إنتي لسه بتقولي عايزة تتجوزيني وبنخطط كل يوم! ما فهمتش وقتها إنها كانت محتاجة وقت تستوعب.
طلبت تاني بعد كده بريك، وبرضه ما احترمتش ده، حاولت كام يوم بس ما قدرتش أستحمل أسبوع.
فطلبت نقابل بعض، ولما قابلنا بعض، لأول مرة طلبت فرصة تانية.
ادتهالي، وبعد 8 أيام حلوين جدًا من غير أي مشاكل، هي بنفسها أنهت كل حاجة وقالت إنها مش قادرة تتخطى اللي حصل قبل كده (العصبية وقت الخناقات)، وإنها مش عايزة تكون في علاقة دمّرتها نفسيًا وأثرت عليها جسديًا.
فضلت أحاول أصلح، أعتذر، أوعد إني هتغير، أترجاها، وعيطت… وهي مصممة إن ده قرار نهائي.
قولتلها لو مش عايزاني قولي وأنا همشي، رفضت تقول، فضلت أضغط عليها، ولأول مرة في حياتنا قالتلي “أنا مش عايزاك”، وبعدها عملتلي بلوك من كل حتة.
اللي حصل إن آخر يوم من الـ8 أيام اللي ادتهالي كان يوم جميل جدًا، بصتلي في عيني وقالتلي إنها بتحبني، سألتها من قلبك؟ قالت آه.
وتاني يوم حصل البريك أب، وفضل الوضع كده 10 أيام.
بعد كده فضلت أحاول أتواصل حتى بعد البلوك، وكانت بتسمع بس متمسكة بقرارها.
مش موضوع إني ما احترمتش حدودها زي ما هي شايفة، أنا كنت بحارب عشان حبنا، عشان مش قادر أخسر كل حاجة بينا، الذكريات، الوعود… مش قادر أستسلم (رغم إنها استسلمت)، وكنت متوقع منها نفس الحاجة.
كنت شايفها أم لأولادي في المستقبل،
ومش شايف زوجة ليا غيرها،
ومش شايف حياتي من غيرها (وهي كانت بتشاركني بنفس الإحساس).
نكمل… بعد ما قالت “أنا مش عايزاك”، قولتلها أضمنلك إنك مش هتتأذي تاني لو رجعتي، قالتلي حتى لو متأكدة 100% إن حياتي هتبقى جنة كل يوم لو رجعت، وحتى لو طلعلك جناحات قدامي، أنا مش عايزة. (وجعتني جدًا).
بعد كده بيوم قررت أبطل أجري وراها وبدأت No Contact.
بعد 9 أيام No Contact بجد، وأنا بكلم نفسي عنها على شات الواتساب بتاعها (كنت بستخدمه نوتس عشان أنا معموللي بلوك)، فجأة وأنا بكتب الرسالة السابعة في اليوم، لقيت 6 رسايل وصلوا… يعني كانت فاتحة البلوك وأنا بكتب!
كنت وقتها بكلم نفسي وبقول إنها بتعاملني وحش، وهي شافت ده غالبًا، بس ما ردتش، وبعد ساعة عملت بلوك تاني.
دلوقتي بقاله 16 يوم من وقتها وما فتحتش البلوك تاني، رغم إني وقفت أكتب هناك وعملت نوتس لوحدي.
ليه فتحت البلوك أصلاً؟ وهل ممكن تعملها تاني؟
هي خدت روحي معاها،
أنا مش بعرف أنام،
أنا مش كويس خالص.
بعد كل ده…هل ممكن ترجع؟
* (قبل ما أبدأ No Contact، عملت فيك أكاونت وبعت رسايل طويلة وفويس نوتس اعتذار ومحاولات إصلاح، وكلمت صاحبتها المقربة وأخواتها، وهي بعد كده طلبت مني ما أكلمهاش ولا أي حد تاني تاني).
أنا بس كنت مؤمن إن علاقتنا تستاهل فرصة تانية عشان حبنا كان أكبر بكتير من الزعل.
* وأنا عارف إن الغلط كله كان مني
هي ما عملتش حاجة غلط.
Let me tell you the highlights
I was 22 when I first knew her she was 18 we fell in love & planned future together.
I graduated from college at 23 and joined the army service for one year(this is a must in our country).
Now I’m 24 she’s 22 I’m doing everything to marry her, she said she is waiting for us to get marry asap I and spoke to her mother about it .
We are happy together she is working in real estate I’m working as a software engineer
We lived the best 2 years ever while she used to say that I’m her safe place and that I’m her everything and that she can’t live without me.
What we had was real and serious and Of course We had a lot of conflicts but we handled it right although she rarely take accountability for her mistakes but I forgive.
So in last three months of my military service I had stressful days(not an excuse) so I started losing temper on every mistake she does big or small mostly when she doesn’t take accountability.
So I sometimes get angry and raise my voice + insult her which is a big terrible mistake and I had no rights to do that no matter what mistake she did i should’ve reacted better.
So I finished military and things got calmer but she just thinks that this is the real me and if shout now then later when we get married I’ll will hit her or beat her which is impossible even forbidden in our religion (that a man hit a woman) + I never hit a girl no matter what religion.
I know I broke the safety feeling she had with me but I believe our relationship deserves another chance .
(So basically what happened was 21 beautiful months and 3 bad months . She thinks that the bad was more than the good which is not true at all. )
She kept asking for 7 days break to know what she wants and understand herself I didn’t give her that space cause I thought that its none sense like wdym want space to know that you want of course you want us you just said I want to marry you and we planned future together everyday . I didn’t understand at the moment that she wanted time to process.
She did ask gain later for another break which I didn’t respect either , I tried for few days but couldn’t handle a week
So I asked to meet and when we did , for the first time I asked for another chance .
She gave it to me but after beautiful 8 days with no problems she took the chance that she gave me and said that she wants to end everything cause she can’t get over of what I did before(anger in fights) and that she don’t want to be in a relationship that destroyed her mentally and affected her physically so I kept trying to fix the relationship and apologizing,promised to change, begging, cried, she still said its final decision, I told her if you don’t want me just say it and I’ll go , she refused to say it , I kept pressuring her and for the first time in our life she said I don’t want you and then she blocked me everywhere .
So basically what happened was in the last day of the 8 days chance that she gave in the last was very beautiful day were she looked me in the eyes said she loved I asked if she meant it from her heart she said yes
So yeah the next day the discard/breakup happened and it continued for 10 days.
after that I kept trying to communicate even after the blocking she listened but stayed with her decision.
It’s not that I didn’t respect her boundaries as she thinks , its just I kept fighting for our love cause i can’t lose everything we had all our memories and promises just like that , I can’t give up (although she did) but I kept fighting cause I expect the same from her +
I saw her as the mother of my future children ,
I couldn’t see anyone as my wife but her
I can’t see my life without her (she used to feel the same way)
Let’s continue… after the I don’t want you thing I said I guarantee you’ll never get hurt again if you came back she said I don’t want even if I’m 100% it will be paradise everyday if I came back and even if you got wings infront of me I don’t want .(hurted like hell)
But Yeah one day I decided that I will stop chasing and started nc after 9 days of real no contact all of a sudden while I was talking to myself about her in her WhatsApp chat which I used as a notes since I’m blocked anyway , all of a sudden while I was typing the 7th msg for the day(I daily type like maybe 20msgs) I saw that 6 msgs went through, which means she unblocked while I was typing talking to myself about her mistreating me lol, but she said nothing and an hour later she blocked again. Now it’s been 16 days since this happened (the unblock block) and she never unblocked again although I stopped typing in her chat and made myself another note . Why did she unblock tho? And will she do it again?
She took my soul with her
I don’t sleep at night
I’m not doing ok at all.
After all that , Do you think she will come back ?
+ (before I started no contact I did do create fake account sending paragraphs and voice messages of apologies and attempts to fix everything, and reached out to her best friend and her siblings which she later asked to not reach out to her or anyone again.)
(If you’re going to attack me just don’t)
I know the wrong is all on me
She did nothing wrong.
Let me tell you the highlights
I was 22 when I first knew her she was 18 we fell in love & planned future together.
I graduated from college at 23 and joined the army service for one year(this is a must in our country).
Now I’m 24 she’s 22 I’m doing everything to marry her, she said she is waiting for us to get marry asap I and spoke to her mother about it .
We are happy together she is working in real estate I’m working as a software engineer
We lived the best 2 years ever while she used to say that I’m her safe place and that I’m her everything and that she can’t live without me.
What we had was real and serious and Of course We had a lot of conflicts but we handled it right although she rarely take accountability for her mistakes but I forgive.
So in last three months of my military service I had stressful days(not an excuse) so I started losing temper on every mistake she does big or small mostly when she doesn’t take accountability.
So I sometimes get angry and raise my voice + insult her which is a big terrible mistake and I had no rights to do that no matter what mistake she did i should’ve reacted better.
So I finished military and things got calmer but she just thinks that this is the real me and if shout now then later when we get married I’ll will hit her or beat her which is impossible even forbidden in our religion (that a man hit a woman) + I never hit a girl no matter what religion.
I know I broke the safety feeling she had with me but I believe our relationship deserves another chance .
(So basically what happened was 21 beautiful months and 3 bad months . She thinks that the bad was more than the good which is not true at all. )
She kept asking for 7 days break to know what she wants and understand herself I didn’t give her that space cause I thought that its none sense like wdym want space to know that you want of course you want us you just said I want to marry you and we planned future together everyday . I didn’t understand at the moment that she wanted time to process.
She did ask gain later for another break which I didn’t respect either , I tried for few days but couldn’t handle a week
So I asked to meet and when we did , for the first time I asked for another chance .
She gave it to me but after beautiful 8 days with no problems she took the chance that she gave me and said that she wants to end everything cause she can’t get over of what I did before(anger in fights) and that she don’t want to be in a relationship that destroyed her mentally and affected her physically so I kept trying to fix the relationship and apologizing,promised to change, begging, cried, she still said its final decision, I told her if you don’t want me just say it and I’ll go , she refused to say it , I kept pressuring her and for the first time in our life she said I don’t want you and then she blocked me everywhere .
So basically what happened was in the last day of the 8 days chance that she gave in the last was very beautiful day were she looked me in the eyes said she loved I asked if she meant it from her heart she said yes
So yeah the next day the discard/breakup happened and it continued for 10 days.
after that I kept trying to communicate even after the blocking she listened but stayed with her decision.
It’s not that I didn’t respect her boundaries as she thinks , its just I kept fighting for our love cause i can’t lose everything we had all our memories and promises just like that , I can’t give up (although she did) but I kept fighting cause I expect the same from her +
I saw her as the mother of my future children ,
I couldn’t see anyone as my wife but her
I can’t see my life without her (she used to feel the same way)
Let’s continue… after the I don’t want you thing I said I guarantee you’ll never get hurt again if you came back she said I don’t want even if I’m 100% it will be paradise everyday if I came back and even if you got wings infront of me I don’t want .(hurted like hell)
But Yeah one day I decided that I will stop chasing and started nc after 9 days of real no contact all of a sudden while I was talking to myself about her in her WhatsApp chat which I used as a notes since I’m blocked anyway , all of a sudden while I was typing the 7th msg for the day(I daily type like maybe 20msgs) I saw that 6 msgs went through, which means she unblocked while I was typing talking to myself about her mistreating me lol, but she said nothing and an hour later she blocked again. Now it’s been 16 days since this happened (the unblock block) and she never unblocked again although I stopped typing in her chat and made myself another note . Why did she unblock tho? And will she do it again?
She took my soul with her
I don’t sleep at night
I’m not doing ok at all.
After all that , Do you think she will come back ?
+ (before I started no contact I did do create fake account sending paragraphs and voice messages of apologies and attempts to fix everything, and reached out to her best friend and her siblings which she later asked to not reach out to her or anyone again.)
(If you’re going to attack me just don’t)
I know the wrong is all on me
She did nothing wrong.
Let me tell you the highlights
I was 22 when I first knew her she was 18 we fell in love & planned future together.
I graduated from college at 23 and joined the army service for one year(this is a must in our country).
Now I’m 24 she’s 22 I’m doing everything to marry her, she said she is waiting for us to get marry asap I and spoke to her mother about it .
We are happy together she is working in real estate I’m working as a software engineer
We lived the best 2 years ever while she used to say that I’m her safe place and that I’m her everything and that she can’t live without me.
What we had was real and serious and Of course We had a lot of conflicts but we handled it right although she rarely take accountability for her mistakes but I forgive.
So in last three months of my military service I had stressful days(not an excuse) so I started losing temper on every mistake she does big or small mostly when she doesn’t take accountability.
So I sometimes get angry and raise my voice + insult her which is a big terrible mistake and I had no rights to do that no matter what mistake she did i should’ve reacted better.
So I finished military and things got calmer but she just thinks that this is the real me and if shout now then later when we get married I’ll will hit her or beat her which is impossible even forbidden in our religion (that a man hit a woman) + I never hit a girl no matter what religion.
I know I broke the safety feeling she had with me but I believe our relationship deserves another chance .
(So basically what happened was 21 beautiful months and 3 bad months . She thinks that the bad was more than the good which is not true at all. )
She kept asking for 7 days break to know what she wants and understand herself I didn’t give her that space cause I thought that its none sense like wdym want space to know that you want of course you want us you just said I want to marry you and we planned future together everyday . I didn’t understand at the moment that she wanted time to process.
She did ask gain later for another break which I didn’t respect either , I tried for few days but couldn’t handle a week
So I asked to meet and when we did , for the first time I asked for another chance .
She gave it to me but after beautiful 8 days with no problems she took the chance that she gave me and said that she wants to end everything cause she can’t get over of what I did before(anger in fights) and that she don’t want to be in a relationship that destroyed her mentally and affected her physically so I kept trying to fix the relationship and apologizing,promised to change, begging, cried, she still said its final decision, I told her if you don’t want me just say it and I’ll go , she refused to say it , I kept pressuring her and for the first time in our life she said I don’t want you and then she blocked me everywhere .
So basically what happened was in the last day of the 8 days chance that she gave in the last was very beautiful day were she looked me in the eyes said she loved I asked if she meant it from her heart she said yes
So yeah the next day the discard/breakup happened and it continued for 10 days.
after that I kept trying to communicate even after the blocking she listened but stayed with her decision.
It’s not that I didn’t respect her boundaries as she thinks , its just I kept fighting for our love cause i can’t lose everything we had all our memories and promises just like that , I can’t give up (although she did) but I kept fighting cause I expect the same from her +
I saw her as the mother of my future children ,
I couldn’t see anyone as my wife but her
I can’t see my life without her (she used to feel the same way)
Let’s continue… after the I don’t want you thing I said I guarantee you’ll never get hurt again if you came back she said I don’t want even if I’m 100% it will be paradise everyday if I came back and even if you got wings infront of me I don’t want .(hurted like hell)
But Yeah one day I decided that I will stop chasing and started nc after 9 days of real no contact all of a sudden while I was talking to myself about her in her WhatsApp chat which I used as a notes since I’m blocked anyway , all of a sudden while I was typing the 7th msg for the day(I daily type like maybe 20msgs) I saw that 6 msgs went through, which means she unblocked while I was typing talking to myself about her mistreating me lol, but she said nothing and an hour later she blocked again. Now it’s been 16 days since this happened (the unblock block) and she never unblocked again although I stopped typing in her chat and made myself another note . Why did she unblock tho? And will she do it again?
She took my soul with her
I don’t sleep at night
I’m not doing ok at all.
After all that , Do you think she will come back ?
+ (before I started no contact I did do create fake account sending paragraphs and voice messages of apologies and attempts to fix everything, and reached out to her best friend and her siblings which she later asked to not reach out to her or anyone again.)
(If you’re going to attack me just don’t)
I know the wrong is all on me
She did nothing wrong.
Let me tell you the highlights
I was 22 when I first knew her she was 18 we fell in love & planned future together.
I graduated from college at 23 and joined the army service for one year(this is a must in our country).
Now I’m 24 she’s 22 I’m doing everything to marry her, she said she is waiting for us to get marry asap I and spoke to her mother about it .
We are happy together she is working in real estate I’m working as a software engineer
We lived the best 2 years ever while she used to say that I’m her safe place and that I’m her everything and that she can’t live without me.
What we had was real and serious and Of course We had a lot of conflicts but we handled it right although she rarely take accountability for her mistakes but I forgive.
So in last three months of my military service I had stressful days(not an excuse) so I started losing temper on every mistake she does big or small mostly when she doesn’t take accountability.
So I sometimes get angry and raise my voice + insult her which is a big terrible mistake and I had no rights to do that no matter what mistake she did i should’ve reacted better.
So I finished military and things got calmer but she just thinks that this is the real me and if shout now then later when we get married I’ll will hit her or beat her which is impossible even forbidden in our religion (that a man hit a woman) + I never hit a girl no matter what religion.
I know I broke the safety feeling she had with me but I believe our relationship deserves another chance .
(So basically what happened was 21 beautiful months and 3 bad months . She thinks that the bad was more than the good which is not true at all. )
She kept asking for 7 days break to know what she wants and understand herself I didn’t give her that space cause I thought that its none sense like wdym want space to know that you want of course you want us you just said I want to marry you and we planned future together everyday . I didn’t understand at the moment that she wanted time to process.
She did ask gain later for another break which I didn’t respect either , I tried for few days but couldn’t handle a week
So I asked to meet and when we did , for the first time I asked for another chance .
She gave it to me but after beautiful 8 days with no problems she took the chance that she gave me and said that she wants to end everything cause she can’t get over of what I did before(anger in fights) and that she don’t want to be in a relationship that destroyed her mentally and affected her physically so I kept trying to fix the relationship and apologizing,promised to change, begging, cried, she still said its final decision, I told her if you don’t want me just say it and I’ll go , she refused to say it , I kept pressuring her and for the first time in our life she said I don’t want you and then she blocked me everywhere .
So basically what happened was in the last day of the 8 days chance that she gave in the last was very beautiful day were she looked me in the eyes said she loved I asked if she meant it from her heart she said yes
So yeah the next day the discard/breakup happened and it continued for 10 days.
after that I kept trying to communicate even after the blocking she listened but stayed with her decision.
It’s not that I didn’t respect her boundaries as she thinks , its just I kept fighting for our love cause i can’t lose everything we had all our memories and promises just like that , I can’t give up (although she did) but I kept fighting cause I expect the same from her +
I saw her as the mother of my future children ,
I couldn’t see anyone as my wife but her
I can’t see my life without her (she used to feel the same way)
Let’s continue… after the I don’t want you thing I said I guarantee you’ll never get hurt again if you came back she said I don’t want even if I’m 100% it will be paradise everyday if I came back and even if you got wings infront of me I don’t want .(hurted like hell)
But Yeah one day I decided that I will stop chasing and started nc after 9 days of real no contact all of a sudden while I was talking to myself about her in her WhatsApp chat which I used as a notes since I’m blocked anyway , all of a sudden while I was typing the 7th msg for the day(I daily type like maybe 20msgs) I saw that 6 msgs went through, which means she unblocked while I was typing talking to myself about her mistreating me lol, but she said nothing and an hour later she blocked again. Now it’s been 16 days since this happened (the unblock block) and she never unblocked again although I stopped typing in her chat and made myself another note . Why did she unblock tho? And will she do it again?
She took my soul with her
I don’t sleep at night
I’m not doing ok at all.
After all that , Do you think she will come back ?
+ (before I started no contact I did do create fake account sending paragraphs and voice messages of apologies and attempts to fix everything, and reached out to her best friend and her siblings which she later asked to not reach out to her or anyone again.)
(If you’re going to attack me just don’t)
I know the wrong is all on me
She did nothing wrong.
Let me tell you the highlights
I was 22 when I first knew her she was 18 we fell in love & planned future together.
I graduated from college at 23 and joined the army service for one year(this is a must in our country).
Now I’m 24 she’s 22 I’m doing everything to marry her, she said she is waiting for us to get marry asap I and spoke to her mother about it .
We are happy together she is working in real estate I’m working as a software engineer
We lived the best 2 years ever while she used to say that I’m her safe place and that I’m her everything and that she can’t live without me.
What we had was real and serious and Of course We had a lot of conflicts but we handled it right although she rarely take accountability for her mistakes but I forgive.
So in last three months of my military service I had stressful days(not an excuse) so I started losing temper on every mistake she does big or small mostly when she doesn’t take accountability.
So I sometimes get angry and raise my voice + insult her which is a big terrible mistake and I had no rights to do that no matter what mistake she did i should’ve reacted better.
So I finished military and things got calmer but she just thinks that this is the real me and if shout now then later when we get married I’ll will hit her or beat her which is impossible even forbidden in our religion (that a man hit a woman) + I never hit a girl no matter what religion.
I know I broke the safety feeling she had with me but I believe our relationship deserves another chance .
(So basically what happened was 21 beautiful months and 3 bad months . She thinks that the bad was more than the good which is not true at all. )
She kept asking for 7 days break to know what she wants and understand herself I didn’t give her that space cause I thought that its none sense like wdym want space to know that you want of course you want us you just said I want to marry you and we planned future together everyday . I didn’t understand at the moment that she wanted time to process.
She did ask gain later for another break which I didn’t respect either , I tried for few days but couldn’t handle a week
So I asked to meet and when we did , for the first time I asked for another chance .
She gave it to me but after beautiful 8 days with no problems she took the chance that she gave me and said that she wants to end everything cause she can’t get over of what I did before(anger in fights) and that she don’t want to be in a relationship that destroyed her mentally and affected her physically so I kept trying to fix the relationship and apologizing,promised to change, begging, cried, she still said its final decision, I told her if you don’t want me just say it and I’ll go , she refused to say it , I kept pressuring her and for the first time in our life she said I don’t want you and then she blocked me everywhere .
So basically what happened was in the last day of the 8 days chance that she gave in the last was very beautiful day were she looked me in the eyes said she loved I asked if she meant it from her heart she said yes
So yeah the next day the discard/breakup happened and it continued for 10 days.
after that I kept trying to communicate even after the blocking she listened but stayed with her decision.
It’s not that I didn’t respect her boundaries as she thinks , its just I kept fighting for our love cause i can’t lose everything we had all our memories and promises just like that , I can’t give up (although she did) but I kept fighting cause I expect the same from her +
I saw her as the mother of my future children ,
I couldn’t see anyone as my wife but her
I can’t see my life without her (she used to feel the same way)
Let’s continue… after the I don’t want you thing I said I guarantee you’ll never get hurt again if you came back she said I don’t want even if I’m 100% it will be paradise everyday if I came back and even if you got wings infront of me I don’t want .(hurted like hell)
But Yeah one day I decided that I will stop chasing and started nc after 9 days of real no contact all of a sudden while I was talking to myself about her in her WhatsApp chat which I used as a notes since I’m blocked anyway , all of a sudden while I was typing the 7th msg for the day(I daily type like maybe 20msgs) I saw that 6 msgs went through, which means she unblocked while I was typing talking to myself about her mistreating me lol, but she said nothing and an hour later she blocked again. Now it’s been 16 days since this happened (the unblock block) and she never unblocked again although I stopped typing in her chat and made myself another note . Why did she unblock tho? And will she do it again?
She took my soul with her
I don’t sleep at night
I’m not doing ok at all.
After all that , Do you think she will come back ?
+ (before I started no contact I did do create fake account sending paragraphs and voice messages of apologies and attempts to fix everything, and reached out to her best friend and her siblings which she later asked to not reach out to her or anyone again.)
(If you’re going to attack me just don’t)
I know the wrong is all on me
She did nothing wrong.
After blocking me I still kept trying to fix our relationship,begged,cried, cause what we had was real and didn’t want to give up on our love easily cause I expect the same from her . But Yeah one day I decided that I will stop chasing and started nc after 9 days all of a sudden while I was talking to myself about her in her WhatsApp chat which I used as a notes since I’m blocked anyway , all of a sudden while I was typing 6 msgs went through, which means she unblocked while I was typing talking to myself about her mistreating me lol, but she said nothing and hour later she blocked again. Now it’s been 16 days since this happened and she never unblocked again although I stopped typing in her chat and made myself another note . Why did she unblock tho? And will she do it again?
After blocking me I still kept trying to fix our relationship,begged,cried, cause what we had was real and didn’t want to give up on our love easily cause I expect the same from her . But Yeah one day I decided that I will stop chasing and started nc after 9 days all of a sudden while I was talking to myself about her in her WhatsApp chat which I used as a notes since I’m blocked anyway , all of a sudden while I was typing 6 msgs went through, which means she unblocked while I was typing talking to myself about her mistreating me lol, but she said nothing and hour later she blocked again. Now it’s been 16 days since this happened and she never unblocked again although I stopped typing in her chat and made myself another note . Why did she unblock tho? And will she do it again?
After blocking me I still kept trying to fix our relationship,begged,cried, cause what we had was real and didn’t want to give up on our love easily cause I expect the same from her . But Yeah one day I decided that I will stop chasing and started nc after 9 days all of a sudden while I was talking to myself about her in her WhatsApp chat which I used my notes since I’m blockeb anyway , all of a sudden while I was typing 6 msgs went through, which means she unblocked while I was typing talking to myself about her mistreating me lol, but she said nothing and hour later she blocked again. Now it’s been 16 days since this happened and she never unblocked again although I stopped typing in her chat and made myself another note . Why did she unblock tho? And will she do it again?
Share your story specially if the dumper was female. (It’s been 2 months no contact for me.)
I want female avoidants to explain from their experiences , what do you feel after discarding a 2 year relationship which you were deeply in love with the male that you discarded all of a sudden.
So basically I’m a mobile app developer I reach out to barbershop owners to build them a booking mobile app with royalty program, I text them “hey are you the owner” if they say yes I send my pitch and offer free demo , only few says yes and when I build their demo it’s a matter of pricing and I never closed a deal yet and here’s my problem I want all of them to accept my free demo , any advice?