u/Worried_Butterfly_30

So I'm sure we've all heard the "what-if" i die in childbirth would i choose the babies life over my own thing. Well i had asked my boyfriend what he thinks about this situation (before i said my own opinion) if it were to happen years down the road and he said he'd want to save the babies life over mine...

I know i shouldn't be hurt over this because I know he means well and i know that the babies life is important too. but idk i just feel hurt that he just automatically said the babies over mine and i don't know what to do about it. Cause i don't want to seem selfish but like i genuinely think i would want to live and the baby sadly pass, which i guess sounds bad of me but the catholic teachings don't say anything about this situation its all what ever you see fit. but idk ig if my boyfriend would rather the babies life then maybe I should rethink how I'm thinking. I don't even know how to tell him my thought process on it because i feel like thag makes me seem like an awful and selfish person compared to him.

Is it bad that I'm hurt by him saying this and that i would want to live over my child?

So for context I'm 19 and a female. Ive struggled with emetophobia since i was literally in elementary school (second grade) and it just keeps getting worse and worse since i keep avoiding it more and more (I know it feeds off avoidance). My phobia is also a mix of PTSD from a traumatic throw up experience when i was younger (or maybe the phobia grew out of the PTSD).

I struggle so much with eating at restaurants, especially in ones that someone told me they got sick from one time. I love traveling and I went out of the country once and couldn't eat for 10 days (other than light food) because i was too scared to get sick while being out of the country. I lost 10 pounds in 10 days because of this fear on that trip... I've also had friends throw up at my house and i literally kick them out and don't treat them with an ounce of empathy because i am terrified of being near them.

I love traveling, I work with kids, I want to be a mother someday, and maybe even a teacher for younger kids. The only thing stopping me is my emetophobia. kids throw up all the time and i wouldn't be able to care for them how i wish i could. And traveling isn't as fun when the whole time you are worrying about how your next meal will go.

This being said i need help on how to get better. i know therapy is a big help but I'm already in therapy for my depression, an anxiety disorder, and ADHD (i know i got a whole heck of a lot of things wrong 😭) but i don't think my therapist is trained it phobia's or PTSD but i love her a lot and shes so good for other things so i want to figure out how i can start doing things myself and maybe my therapist can do some more research and help me eventually too but I need baby steps to do right now!

Okay so about 2 ish years ago I was talking to this guy, we went on one date and I thought it went well so we continued to talk for about 9 months. He was in the military so part of that 9 months was me waiting for him to get out of basic.

I thought he liked me that entire time because we would flirt and he would talk to me nonstop everyday (besides obviously the time he was in basic, and yes i waited for him while he was in basic, he said he would write to me but then when he got back casually said he "lost" his address book). Two months after he got back from basic I told him i liked him, and he straight up said "oh I've been talking to someone else for a while, i don't like you". So obviously as one does i cried because i wasted 9 months on this guy, but i got over it and we stayed friends for another 9 months talking everyday blah blah blah.

He says I'm one of his closest friends, but then one day I get a bf, I sent him a picture of him and I and then he immediately blocked me on every single site possible.... I've never been more confused in my life, he said he didn't like me, so why is he mad??

Not posting this because I still like him, cause i obviously don't and love my bf more than anything. I'm just genuinely curious why the heck he blocked me. I thought we were good friends and I liked talking to him, we were friends for a solid year and six months, so i don't understand it. Idk if any guys might understand his thought process and why he did that, because I as a woman cannot

Okay so about 2 ish years ago I was talking to this guy, we went on one date and I thought it went well so we continued to talk for about 9 months. He was in the military so part of that 9 months was me waiting for him to get out of basic.

I thought he liked me that entire time because we would flirt and he would talk to me nonstop everyday (besides obviously the time he was in basic, and yes i waited for him while he was in basic, he said he would write to me but then when he got back casually said he "lost" his address book). Two months afyer he got back from basic I told him i liked him, and he straight up said "oh I've been talking to someone else for a while, i don't like you". So obviously as one does i cried because i wasted 9 months on this guy, but i got over it and we stayed friends for another 9 months talking everyday blah blah blah.

He says I'm one of his closest friends, but then one day I get a boyfriend, I sent him a picture of my boyfriend and I and he immediately blocked me on every single site possible.... I've never been more confused in my life, he said he didn't like me, so why did he get mad when i sent him my boyfriend??

Not posting this because I still like him, cause i obviously don't and am in an amazing relationship, I'm just genuinely curious why the heck he blocked me. I thought we were good friends and I liked talking to him, we were friends for a solid year and six months, so i don't understand it.

I am F(19) and my friend who we will call Emma is F(18)

So Emma and I have known each other since we were very very young from church and used to be in this trio friendship with another girl named Abby. That trio had its ups and down but they would almost always leave me out and it was not fun for me in the slightest so i kind of left the trio and me leaving made the other two fall apart as well. But Emma and I stayed friends.

This past year Emma went MIA on me and would barely ever respond and the only times she did she was telling me boy drama (she's still in high-school and i am not), or she would ask to hangout and we'd make a whole plan and i would schedule my day around it and then when the time came and passed she just never responded to her phone.

Like the most recent time was this past Friday she said she couldn't wait to hang out with me and missed me all year so we planned to hang out after i got off work but that time came and passed and a half hour later she said "hey sorry i was at a dress fitting i can hang out now!" So I'm just there thinking why the heck would you make plans at a time you knew you were busy?? But i tell her okay where do you want to hang out and what do you want to do? And she doesn't respond for 50 minutes and by the time she does she goes "omg sorry i have soccer in an hour so i can't hang out anymore!" So i was just there sitting around waiting for her to tell me when and she just ghosted me.

Not to mention everytime we hang out she treats me like I'm her doll that she can just do whatever she wants with and i have no say in anything, but i don't have that many friends and i am not good at ending friendships (it took me 4 years to get out of my last toxic friendship and even then i blamed myself).

Would it be overreacting if i just ended it or kind of ghosted her back or should i still just forgive her everytime she does something like i do now?

So my boyfriend is turning 20 soon and i need gift ideas. He likes spiderman, video games, cats, Invincible, legos, loves changing his hair color every month and doing fun things with it, he goes to college, he's 7 foot tall, he just broke his leg (idk if theres gift ideas that would help with any of that lmao), he loves food, we're catholic, he likes horror movies and anything scary (our anniversary is on halloween haha) and idk stuff like that. If you have any ideas for him i would much appreciate it!

Some gifts i got him already in the past: drew his cat who passed, got him his favorite snacks, drew us as jack skelengton and the girl from it, made him a kiss hoodie, got him a dr pepper/ghost face hoodie, i draw a card for him on every major holiday or birthday (I'm very artsy if you can't tell lol), and made him couple coupons with fun things on them.

TL;DR what do i give my boyfriend for his birthday, he's 20.

I am F(19) and my bf is M(19).

My boyfriend wanted to get his hair done one day by this girl who lives on campus. So, to make me more comfortable, she invited me to come with him so he's not alone in a girls room. My boyfriend said he wanted me to come with so he could talk to me and such while getting his hair done, so I did.

i get there and I'm talking to her and my bf blah blah blah and then the roomate of the girl comes in and the one doing his hair looks at her and gives her a weird look.

After the look the roomate nods and disappears into the bathroom (which is connected to the suitmates room). The girl doing his hair looks right at me and says "hey do you want to meet our suitmates? They like photography like you" so I nodded, more friends wouldn't hurt. When her roomate came back she looked at me and said she was ready in the other room and at first I was like huh why isn't the suitmate coming here instead?? why am I going over there to her??

But anyways I get led through the bathroom by the roomate and the two suitmates are there sitting on their beds looking awkward. Then the roomate walks back out and shuts the door behind her. So I say hi to them a little scared and I started talking photography but it sounds like she knows nothing and instead keeps asking questions about me and my boyfriend then she stands up and is like "hey I'm so sorry you seem so sweet, but I'm your boyfriends ex and I wanted to make sure he wasn't cheating on me with you. We broke up four days ago around 11 PM and ive been in my bed crying since." And my initial thought is are you actually kidding me he might have been cheating on her with me?? but then I thought wait a minute he was with me at 11 pm that day theres no way he could have broken up with her. Then she goes on a tangent about how my boyfriend is the worst thing that has ever happened to her and that I should break up with him. And I mean I had no reason not to believe her so I started crying and walked out, back to my dorm.

I called my roomate and shes told me "girl's lie all the time to get you to break up with them so they can get them back" she ended up texted my boyfriend for me and told him he needed to get here stat he ran back to my dorm because he thought I was sick or something and instead saw me sitting on my bed teary eyed and looking ugly as ever and then I drop the bomb and say "your ex was in the other room" and his entire face drops and he looks almost scared. So I start listing off the things she told me. I told him she said they broke up the same day we got together and he awkwardly laughs and straight up says "uh no we've been broken up for 2 and a half weeks, I can literally show you texts from when it happened" and I told him that she said he had a kid and wouldn't tell which he said was totally a lie along with plenty other things. So idk if its asshole-y for me questioning him or if I'm fair in questioning everything? Like i feel bad for it yk?

So my boyfriend is turning 20 soon and i need gift ideas. He likes spiderman, video games, cats, Invincible, legos, loves changing his hair color every month and doing fun things with it, he goes to college, he's 7 foot tall, he just broke his leg (idk if theres gift ideas that would help with any of that lmao), he loves food, we're catholic, he likes horror movies and anything scary (our anniversary is on halloween haha) and idk stuff like that. If you have any ideas for him i would much appreciate it!

Some gifts i got him already in the past: drew his cat who passed, got him his favorite snacks, drew us as jack skelengton and the girl from it, made him a kiss hoodie, got him a dr pepper/ghost face hoodie, i draw a card for him on every major holiday or birthday (I'm very artsy if you can't tell lol), and made him couple coupons with fun things on them.