What is the best way to disclose you are Trans when meeting new people or groups?

To start, I am a transgender woman and on the autism spectrum. I like making friends and joining groups, specifically online. I however am very sensitive to rejection and I am of the opinion I would like to disclose this early on rather than try to keep it a secret and possibly face bigotry later when I already invested time and emotional energy into people. That makes my rejection sensitivity worse. Does anyone here have ways or methods they have to disclose this without making it seem to blunt or like "it's part of your personality" for lack of a better phrasing. It is sometimes difficult to find the right words to say and when.

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u/Xanikk999 — 10 days ago
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Almost 7 months into my transition and wanted to celebrate with a new dress!

(40)(Trans Woman) Despite having lots of anxiety (always a problem I have on the spectrum) about how I appear dressed as a woman in public sometimes still I bought this dress and love how I look in it. It's more formal and knee length but I do think I really look like any other woman now. Do I look okay in this? Looking for some kind words. Also is this dress appropriate for a job interview?

u/Xanikk999 — 11 days ago
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(Trans Woman) Approaching 6 months on feminizing HRT and wore my dress in public for the first time! Do you think I pass well enough?

Hello I am a trans woman. I am 39 years old and feeling pretty good today! I took these two pictures after I went to pick up my prescription. This is the first time I went out wearing my dress in public. I changed up my outfit slightly for this photo as I am wearing leggings underneath my dress instead of tights this time (Its way too hot!). I wore my skirt in public before but not my dress before this. I did my make up before I headed out. I did not get any strange stares, snickering or rude comments. I feel like I absolutely do pass in the eyes of most strangers despite it being only almost 6 months into hrt (24 weeks). It took me so so long to get this far because I have lots of anxiety about what others think; I am on the autism spectrum and am constantly worried about things like that. I feel like it was so worth it cause now I feel like I could do this again without any worry!

u/Xanikk999 — 1 month ago
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(39)(Trans Woman) Will be hitting 6 months of mtf hrt in time for for my birthday next month!

Hello I am a transgender woman with adhd/autism and am 39 years old. I struggled so much in my previous life and I have to say coming out was the best thing I ever did for myself. I feel so so happy with my appearance right now and I just wanted to celebrate by showing my mom how I looked. I asked her how I looked. She said I looked pretty but I should keep my chin up and stop looking down at the floor so much. Gosh I feel so pretty right now after putting all this on and doing my make up and hair. I am so happy I am starting to look feminine. It is pure blissful gender euphoria and to top it all off my family is approving of it. I couldn't be happier right now!!!

Edit: I have a close up picture posted below. Link

u/Xanikk999 — 2 months ago

(39)(mtf transgender woman) I am 23 weeks in and I am extremely happy with my progress!

For clarification I am 23 weeks into mtf hrt. Do I look pretty at all? I know I got a long way to go but I have been trying really really hard and my transition is super important to me. I used to be depressed but not anymore!

u/Xanikk999 — 2 months ago
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(MTF) (39) Comparing my face. Me at 12 days versus me now at 22 weeks since starting HRT.

I have much better pictures showing my entire body but for this one I want to compare my face and my chest and shoulder musculature. I think it has changed despite it still being early but I am not sure exactly how to put it into words aside from the fact I now have developing small breasts. Besides that does anyone else think it looks more feminine compared to before? How would you describe it?

u/Xanikk999 — 2 months ago

Question about cryo traveler main dps rotation in stellar conduct

Could someone help me figure out the rotation I should use for my entire team if I am using cryo traveler as main dps with odette, qiqi and yae miko? It's a stellar conduct team. I want to know the exact order too. Do I start by setting up with yae miko to enable stellar conduct or do I start with travelers E then quickly switch out to start building frostglow stacks for example? Though perhaps obvious I do not want to assume what is correct because if I start with traveler here then E is still on CD when he comes up again but if I start with Yae Miko he is not building frostglow stacks at the start. I watched this video but I could not find the order of characters to start the rotation with. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N_P9hSBf2IM&t=460s

u/Xanikk999 — 2 months ago
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Trans Woman 5 months into HRT showing off a little!

Some background here: I am a 39 year old trans woman on the autism spectrum. I have only been on hormones for about 21 weeks. Nevertheless I have been practicing make up as best i can and now feel very very confident about my appearance. I am so happy with how I look now! I took this picture with no filter on my camera with my best use of make up instead. I am actually so confident with how I am feeling and so boosted with self esteem I absolutely would go out dressed like this despite being early in my transition. I feel very happy about how things are going all things considered. How does everyone here feel I look? I took the picture a bit far back so I could capture my legs in the photo as well.

u/Xanikk999 — 2 months ago

(39) 19 Weeks on HRT in my very first skirt!

The picture on the left was several months before I started hormones before my egg cracked and it was taken from my old phone. I just love actually embracing my identity as a woman now. I never imagined I could be so pretty living my true self. I am on the spectrum and fashion and femininity have somehow become a hyper-fixation for me. It's honestly the best decision I ever made! I have my 6th session of laser coming up and I am so impressed with how smooth my skin on my face is.

If I am so early into my transition I just can't imagine how good I will look in an entire year. I really am happier than I have ever been!

u/Xanikk999 — 3 months ago
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Trying on my first skirt. 4-1/2 months into MtF HRT. 39 Years old.

I feel like it looks pretty good. I am very happy with how I am looking! Dressing feminine and looking feminine makes me happy!

How do I look with it for where I am in my transition? I am also rocking a pony tail in the back but it's hard to see here and I didn't want to tie up all my hair so I could still have some bangs, I feel like I almost have enough courage to wear something like this in public. Having had 5 sessions of laser on my face has certainly helped with self esteem.

u/Xanikk999 — 3 months ago
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18 Weeks into MTF HRT and I already feel like I look good in a dress!

I am a 39 Year old transgender woman on the autism spectrum. My very first dress I ordered came today as well as all the make up products I ordered (This photo is without make up though). I honestly had no idea I would look this good in a dress for 18 weeks in. I feel ecstatic about my transition! This has done so much for my self esteem and confidence today. I am a very happy trans woman! Best part is I'm sure it will only get better as time goes on!

u/Xanikk999 — 3 months ago
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I am extremely worried about my future as a transgender woman in the US

I am looking to the mid-terms with fear in my mind. I am extremely worried that that the current administration and GOP will use some sort of excuse to cancel them or cheat and launch a self-coup to act even more authoritarian. I don't have faith rule of law will stop this and most of all I am worried what they would do to transgender people if they consolidate all power. Even if our lives aren't at immediate risk in such a scenario I am extremely worried they will make it completely illegal for even trans adults to continue to access HRT. I don't have the skills needed to be a desirable immigrant another country would want.

Does anyone else have similar worries?

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u/Xanikk999 — 3 months ago

17 weeks into HRT today compared to when I just started

(Current me on the right at 17 weeks today) I am a 39 year old transgender woman on the spectrum. I was always very depressed and had very low self esteem. I just really wanted to have a womans body but kept it too myself for far too long and it ate away at me. I finally started HRT this year and my self esteem has skyrocketed. I am no longer depressed all the time. I am happy as hell and this is the best decision I ever made!

u/Xanikk999 — 3 months ago
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Starting to feel happy with how I look! (trans woman)

So I think I have reached a point where I am starting to feel very happy with how I look! I am a 39 year old trans woman on the autism spectrum. I have only been on hormones for about 4 months but already the changes I have had have given me incredibly confidence and self esteem I never had before transitioning. My mental health has never been better and I have access to emotions at the depth and intensity I didn't before. It is truly amazing how it feels like I can now be happy. It's only going to get better too as 4 months is very early.

u/Xanikk999 — 3 months ago
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(Trans Woman) Finally starting to feel good about my face!

Took this today! Im feeling happier with my face the longer i am on hrt it seems. Just hit week 14! I also have my 5th session of laser this week for my face! Feeling super good. Happy Pride Month everyone!

u/Xanikk999 — 4 months ago
▲ 22 r/Falcom

Judith feels like she has untreated ADHD

Spoilers for daybreak 1, 2 and Horizon.

After playing these games and almost reaching chapter 2 in horizon I feel so bad for Judith. I have ADHD and I am also on the autism spectrum and I really relate with alot of her social issues. I really REALLY feels like she has some sort of ADHD and is not being treated for it with meds. I have the same exact issues with attention, listening, daydreaming and focus she has if I don't take my stimulant medication. I feel really bad the game doesn't acknowledge this. It's really bad in particular in my opinion because nearly all of her social issues could be solved if she was given adhd meds. To sum it up I wish the game would really acknowledge her issues are not a result of being lazy or a character flaw. She really would benefit if she was being treated. I can't help but feel sorry for the way she's treated as I really think she is trying hard at this.

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u/Xanikk999 — 4 months ago
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What is the worst purely negative RNG event in your opinion?

I once had the artisan troupe hold festivals on my world. An event fired off at random after several years that straight up destroyed one of my colonies. It actually removed it from the planet. This is straight up pure negative and it pissed me off so much I just reloaded. There was no counter-play here other than to just decide not to utilize festivals anymore which is what I do. Losing an entire colony beyond my control is very detrimental to how I enjoy the game.

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u/Xanikk999 — 4 months ago
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Transgender woman 3 months into HRT. Happy Pride Month!

Hello people! I am a 39 year old transgender woman. I have lived with gender envy, gender dysphoria and depression for a long time. Getting my facial hair removed and starting hormones to align myself with the gender I have always wanted to be has been the most gender euphoric and the best decision I have ever made! I am so happy with the progress I made so far. I feel more emotionally expressive than I have ever been which feels very novel for me (I am on the autism spectrum). I can finally laugh and cry and relate with everyone in a way I didn't feel before. I am so much happier and less depressed! Happy pride month everyone!

u/Xanikk999 — 4 months ago
▲ 209 r/trans

Gender Euphoria triggering erections?

(transgender woman) Does this happen to anyone else? I sometimes get very brief erections when I get very excited about gender euphoric moments like noticing my breasts have become more firm. I'm 3 months in and this seems very strange to me because otherwise I no longer have any sort of spontaneous erections and my libido is at zero.

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u/Xanikk999 — 4 months ago

Happy Pride Month! 3 months into MTF HRT!

39 years old and I feel great! I used to be really depressed but it feels like a fog has been lifted once I started hormones.

u/Xanikk999 — 4 months ago