(TEXAS) What do i do now, already filed police report this occurred in my apartment. Apartments didn’t catch shit. I blame myself for not getting the shield a long time ago.🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️ just need some advice on what to do where to go from here.
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So people are asking for a little bit more info. I used to weigh 530 pounds. I lost 130 naturally over three years. I slacked off a little bit. Decided to take reta as a tool. I am trying to be better at tracking my calories. But I average about 2300- 2500 cal a day. Obviously there’s some days where I eat a little less. I am very active. My career keeps me on my feet daily. I go to the gym and lift 4 to 5 times out the week and I go walking every day. At least 30 minutes.
My wife and I are both 26 years old, and we’ve been in each other’s lives since we were 18. We basically grew up together.
A few months ago, I made a very stupid and childish mistake. I did not have a physical affair, but I crossed boundaries that never should have been crossed. There were two separate women. To one, I sent a message that simply said, “Good morning beautiful.” She never responded. To the other, all I did was react to a story with heart-eyes emojis. Looking back, it was immature, disrespectful to my marriage, and completely inappropriate. I take full responsibility for it.
My wife found out, and that’s when everything began to fall apart. I am genuinely remorseful for what I did. I know I broke trust. I know many people will say I deserve the consequences of my actions, and honestly, I understand that. I’m not here to minimize what I did or pretend it wasn’t wrong.
Since then, my wife has made it clear that she wants a divorce and has remained consistent in saying that. At the same time, I recently found out that she had already been talking to another man. Finding that out has been painful and confusing for me.
What makes this even harder to understand is that despite saying she wants a divorce and despite talking to another man, she has continued to pursue physical intimacy with me and we still have sex. Because of that, I genuinely don’t know where we stand. On one hand, she says she wants the marriage to end. On the other hand, we are still intimate and spending time together.
I’m not posting this to excuse my actions. I know I messed up. I know my decisions played a major role in getting us here. I’m not looking for sympathy or validation. I know I was wrong.
I just don’t know where to go from here.
Part of me wants to fight for my marriage because I still love my wife deeply. Another part of me feels hurt, confused, and unsure whether there is anything left to save. I’m trying to accept responsibility for my actions while also making sense of everything that has happened since.
For those who have been through something similar, what would you do? How do you know when it’s time to keep fighting and when it’s time to let go? What would be the healthiest next step for someone who knows he made a serious mistake but doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life wondering if he gave up too soon?
A few months ago, I made a terrible decision and sent a text message to another woman. It was one message, and she never responded, but that doesn’t matter. My wife found it, and that’s where the problems in our marriage really began. I am genuinely remorseful and take full responsibility for what I did. I know I broke trust, and I know many people will say I’m a piece of shit for it. Honestly, I understand that. These are consequences of my own actions.
Since then, my wife has told me that she wants a divorce and has been consistent about that position. I recently also found out that she had already been talking to another man. Learning that has been painful and confusing for me.
What makes the situation even more difficult to understand is that despite saying she wants a divorce and talking to another man, she has continued to pursue physical intimacy with me and still has sex with me. Because of that, I don’t know what to make of where we stand. On one hand, she says she wants the marriage to end, but on the other hand, we are still intimate.
I’m not posting this to excuse my behavior or avoid accountability. I know I messed up. I know my actions played a major role in getting us here. I’m not looking for sympathy or a way to justify what I did. I just genuinely don’t know where to go from here.
Part of me wants to fight for my marriage because I still love my wife. Another part of me feels hurt, confused, and unsure whether there is anything left to save. I’m trying to accept responsibility for my actions while also making sense of everything that has happened since.
For those who have been through something similar, what would you do? How do you know when to keep trying and when to let go? What would be the healthiest next step for someone who knows they made a serious mistake but doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life wondering if he gave up too soon?
A few months ago, I made a terrible decision and sent a text message to another woman. It was one message, and she never responded, but that doesn’t matter. My wife found it, and that’s where the problems in our marriage really began. I am genuinely remorseful and take full responsibility for what I did. I know I broke trust, and I know many people will say I’m a piece of shit for it. Honestly, I understand that. These are consequences of my own actions.
Since then, my wife has told me that she wants a divorce and has been consistent about that position. I recently also found out that she had already been talking to another man. Learning that has been painful and confusing for me.
What makes the situation even more difficult to understand is that despite saying she wants a divorce and talking to another man, she has continued to pursue physical intimacy with me and still has sex with me. Because of that, I don’t know what to make of where we stand. On one hand, she says she wants the marriage to end, but on the other hand, we are still intimate.
I’m not posting this to excuse my behavior or avoid accountability. I know I messed up. I know my actions played a major role in getting us here. I’m not looking for sympathy or a way to justify what I did. I just genuinely don’t know where to go from here.
Part of me wants to fight for my marriage because I still love my wife. Another part of me feels hurt, confused, and unsure whether there is anything left to save. I’m trying to accept responsibility for my actions while also making sense of everything that has happened since.
For those who have been through something similar, what would you do? How do you know when to keep trying and when to let go? What would be the healthiest next step for someone who knows they made a serious mistake but doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life wondering if he gave up too soon?
A few months ago, I made a terrible decision and sent a text message to another woman. It was one message, and she never responded, but that doesn’t matter. My wife found it, and that’s where the problems in our marriage really began. I am genuinely remorseful and take full responsibility for what I did. I know I broke trust, and I know many people will say I’m a piece of shit for it. Honestly, I understand that. These are consequences of my own actions.
Since then, my wife has told me that she wants a divorce and has been consistent about that position. I recently also found out that she had already been talking to another man. Learning that has been painful and confusing for me.
What makes the situation even more difficult to understand is that despite saying she wants a divorce and talking to another man, she has continued to pursue physical intimacy with me and still has sex with me. Because of that, I don’t know what to make of where we stand. On one hand, she says she wants the marriage to end, but on the other hand, we are still intimate.
I’m not posting this to excuse my behavior or avoid accountability. I know I messed up. I know my actions played a major role in getting us here. I’m not looking for sympathy or a way to justify what I did. I just genuinely don’t know where to go from here.
Part of me wants to fight for my marriage because I still love my wife. Another part of me feels hurt, confused, and unsure whether there is anything left to save. I’m trying to accept responsibility for my actions while also making sense of everything that has happened since.
For those who have been through something similar, what would you do? How do you know when to keep trying and when to let go? What would be the healthiest next step for someone who knows they made a serious mistake but doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life wondering if he gave up too soon?
Edit: many people want more context me and her are both 26. 1 year and 2 months into marriage but we have been in each others lives since we were 18 as friends. The text message i sent was “Good morning beautiful 😍 “ lame and stupid i know.
Hi everyone,
This is my first year teaching Government, and honestly, I’m feeling a little overwhelmed trying to build everything from the ground up. I don’t have many resources to start with, so I’ve been spending a lot of time creating lessons and materials as I go.
I was hoping some of you might be willing to share any resources you’ve found useful—Google Drives, curriculum maps, pacing guides, lesson plans, activities, assessments, or anything else related to Government. I’m definitely not looking to copy anyone’s work; I’d just love to see examples and gather ideas that can help me get started and grow as a teacher.
I’d really appreciate any advice, recommendations, or materials you’d be willing to share
Edit: i also forgot to mention im in Texas so looking for anything that could possibly align with TEKs. Ty again.