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Edit to add: ok... now it's one day later and it turns out I'm a horrible, awful, disgusting person. I'm not being sarcastic, I mean that 😞. When my husband got home we searched again. He asked me if we've always had two blue throw pillows because he only remembers one and the two others I bought from TJMaxx. I said "don't gaslight me, I can prove it, I know I have pictures" and he apologized very sincerely and asked me to pull up pics of when we set it up in the living room.

There was only one pillow. Somehow my mind added another one. And I went on a rampage blaming his daughter, who, for all the quirks she has, is really a sweet kid. And I had no problem immediately blaming her and working myself up so hard.

I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself for this whole situation. Why did my mind betray me??? I honestly h4te myself for everything I said on here and thought in my mind. Damn grateful for his clear thinking and patience with me... I don't know how he loves me because I don't love me right now.

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OP: If it doesn't belong to her, she just doesn't give a flip. I just discovered one of our throw pillows is missing... we JUST bought this couch and it was very expensive for us. Yeah yeah yeah "$30 pillow is nothing"... but it's just the principle of it. It feels sneaky and disrespectful and now I have to walk on eggshells bringing it up to DH because she's his precious princess. If it got spilled on, I could have washed it. Like why wouldn't you just come up and say "hey I accidentally xzy". You're just going to get rid of someone else's things?? I notice EVERYTHING. She evidently thought no one would notice. I KNOW in the grand scheme of things it's no big deal, but it's a big deal to me.

My Dad posed a great question to the family text thread today and I wanted to bring it here for community conversation! We are a wordy family, but you don't have to be if you don't want to, but I would love to hear your thoughts!

Dad asked: "God gives you the chance to witness one miracle from any point in time, what are you choosing?"

I responded: "Without a doubt Exodus 17:6-
The Israelites were traveling through the desert and had just camped, but there was no water for the people or animals.

The people argued with Moses in fear and frustration, demanding water. In the biblical text, this prompts Moses to cry out to God for help.

God directs Moses to take his staff, gather the elders of Israel as witnesses, and strike a designated rock. Upon doing so, water flows out, saving aprox 2million men, women, children, and livestock from dehydration.

God tells Moses He will stand before him on the rock(!), providing a miraculous display of His provision and presence.

What captivates me about this miracle is that it reinforces one of the names of God- Jehovah Jireh- The Lord Our Provider. A true encounter with The One who transforms a lifeless/barren situation into a source of life (and a miracle that is not only repeated in Numbers 20:2-9 but referred to multiple times in later books of scripture as a reminder of God's provision, protection, and promise for his children)"

The other scripture references I could find pertaining to rocks/water/desert/provision are:
Psalm 78:15-16
Psalm 105:41
Isaiah 48:21
Habakkuk 3:9
Matthew 27:51

My Mom answered the raising of Lazarus.
My Brother answered either the Creation or the Resurrection.

What would you love to witness if God gave you a chance to see one of His miracles?

This happened a while back but I think it's probably relatable.
After work I stopped by a spot to get some food to go, and I ordered a Jack n Coke while I was waiting.

Some guy a few seats down the bar said to me "hey I'll buy that for you." I said "nah, thanks though". He insisted. I said "no really, thanks anyway". He sputtered "I'm not a creep, I'm a good guy!" I said "I'll still pay for my own drink thanks". Then I texted my husband to FaceTime me and he did.

When I got home, Hubs asked if everything was ok and I recounted the scenario. He asked "do you tell him you were married?" I said "I shouldn't have to! I declined THREE TIMES!"

Has this ever happened to you? How did you handle it?

Peeps with bangs- do you like/love them? What are your pros and cons?

Peeps with no bangs- do you consider getting them? What's your why/why not?

I'm 40f and have very fine ("lots of it" in my 20's/30's), below the shoulder above the nip, fairly straight hair. I can sometimes coax a wave if I apply myself lol. I've noticed as I hit menopause it's looking so thin at the tips and just kinda 'meh'. So I'm pretty sure the days of long full length are behind me.

I've been wanting to bring it up to my collarbone, and I'm watching a movie (Triangle- Prime) where the main female character has the exact cut I want and these cute af bangs... now I'm wondering...?

To cut bangs or not to cut bangs?

(I don't think I've ever typed or read the word "bangs" so many times in my life)

Dog accidentally skull-crashed me this morning before work (bruised goose egg on my forehead for all the world to see), smashed my finger after work (massage therapist so tomorrows clients will be hell), work itself was just exhausting and LONG (everybody just talk talk talked all session). Luckily I married the best man in existence and he just brought me dinner and a glass of wine while I hermit myself away under the covers and lose myself in Netflix. *sigh*

Did you have a bad day? Let it out below, I will commiserate with you

Him: you 😏

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Me (childfree 40f) DH (43m) SD (14)

DH's birthday and mine are one day apart. Due to work conflicts, we have never been able to take our birthday weekend off together, until this year. I booked a cute little getaway for our birthdays, and have been so excited to surprise him with that, and give him his big gift once we get there.

StepDad's birthday is the same as mine... what are the friggin odds...

This year BM caught DH early and told him they're going out of town for StepDads birthday so we would have Kiddo. Context- she's a really good kid, funny, respectful, zero drama, literally a stepmoms dream kid... but...

Sigh. I'm already terrible at sharing anything, especially precious time with the LOML who works a crazy, crazy schedule. Now we're going to have a very romantic secluded getaway with a third wheel.

How do you overcome feelings of guilt/selfishness in situations like this?

My two mixed breeds (9 and 4) are rescues, my older girl came from trauma, based on her first few years with me (adopted her at 1yo)- anxious, afraid of so many things, BB wounds on her body, shy, and aggressive towards other dogs. My younger girl was literally chosen as a puppy by my older girl, And unfortunately she has learned that seeing other dogs equal aggression display.

They are such loving couch potatoes. But when they see other dogs they get leash-pulley and snarley. It means that every time we walk outside I am in constant situational awareness mode. Which I know I should be anyways but it's never just a calm walk around the block.

We live in an apartment complex and today makes the THIRD time an unleashed dog has come careening towards us yapping its head off. I do what I always do: shorten their leashes and stand between them and the intruder, eye contact and strong stance to try and discourage approach.

Unfortunately- my girls redirect their frustration on each other and with their shortened leashes they are right in each other's faces.

Today's scene, if anyone looked out their window, they would have seen me bullfighting a wretched papillon from every angle while my girls redirect at each other and the two owners chase that unleashed hellion all over the parking lot and hillside while yelling "SORRY!" a thousand times.

This whole scene is SO FRUSTRATING for a responsible dog owner in a community living setting. Now my girls will be anxious for a few hours before settling down. How effing hard is it to get a long line for your dog?? Not all dogs are comfortable with other dogs!

And before you downvote me- yes, I've spoken with trainers, the three I've sought out locally don't handle dog aggression... which I think is bunk.

I'm going to try something with a chicken that I did for my 13lb Thanksgiving turkey. With the turkey I did a 250° oven for two hours, then covered tightly with foil and back in at 350° for three hours. It was fork tender!

Can I do the same thing with a whole chicken, but do 250°/1hr then 350°/2hrs?

What do you think of that timing?

I started carnivore-ish (some berries and dairy) January 15. I've lost 16lbs and have zero cravings for carbs or sugar, zero acne breakouts anymore, so all that's a win. Mental clarity, great sleep, etc..

But ever since Feb my facial skin is rough as crap and feels like every pore has a little cap on it. I exfoliate every 3 days, have always had a great skincare regimen and use a really great, really clean line of skincare. I read about oxalate dumping, but I don't know exactly if that's what I'm dealing with or how long that lasts? Has anyone else dealt with this? Am I missing something?

I'm very well hydrated, use electrolytes daily, no gut issues or bathroom issues, and get a decent amount of fat via butter, tallow, and fatty cuts of meat.