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Something happened recently that has been bothering me, and I want to know how other people deal with things like this.

My WhatsApp is set to automatically download every document shared in groups. Recently, a resit timetable PDF was downloaded to my phone. I don't have any resit papers to write, but a friend borrowed my phone, saw the timetable, and assumed I had some papers to rewrite.

The thing is, I know the document was downloaded automatically, but I'm still worried about what he thinks of me. I don't want to explain myself letting him know more about me in terms of the University I attend nor the course I'm reading. Because he might need proof to believe me. What should I do??

When I first started learning IT, I used to post tech-related things on my status because I wanted to build a reputation for myself and show people what I was learning.

One day, some of my friends asked me to configure the gamepad settings for FIFA 21. I tried to do it, but I forgot to save the settings, so the gamepad still wasn't working. After about 10 minutes of trying without success, they called another guy to help. The moment he worked on it, everything started working perfectly.

That incident completely changed how they saw me. The other guy gained a solid reputation, while I lost the respect I had been trying to build. Ever since then, my friends have seemed to regard me as someone who knows little or nothing about IT.

Years have passed, but I still feel like they judge my technical abilities based on that one embarrassing experience.

Looking back, I know that making mistakes is part of learning, especially when you're just starting out. However, it's frustrating when people continue to judge your abilities based on a single failure rather than how much you might have learned and improved since then.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you deal with people who formed a negative opinion of your abilities because of one mistake?

I keep making phonological slips, saying a similar sounding word even though I know the meaning.

Instead of fixing it on the spot, I go silent and let my friend explain, Now I’m worried he’ll think I don’t know the right word.

Is this kind of slip common for most people?

Does staying quiet actually make others assume I’m unsure of the vocab?

About three years ago, I was texting with a friend and I meant to type “sell,” but I accidentally typed “sale.” He corrected me, but instead of simply accepting that it was a mistake, I started defending myself even though I knew I was wrong.

It’s been almost three years, but my mind still brings that incident back to me. I keep wondering whether he remembers it and, if he does, what he thinks of me because of it.

There have been other small mistakes too. For example, another time I meant to type “being” but typed “been.” I've made several little typing or wording mistakes like these when texting friends.

The frustrating part is that whenever I remember one of them, I feel embarrassed all over again. Then I start wondering whether my friends remember these mistakes, whether they think I'm unintelligent because of them, or whether they might tell other people about them.

I know these are very small mistakes, but my mind seems to hold onto them for years.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you learn to stop replaying old embarrassing moments and worrying about what other people think of you?

I need help!

As someone who learned IT on my own, I stopped learning for some time due to personal reasons.

Anyway, I joined a gym where many of the members were IT students. One day while training, a guy engaged me in a tech conversation I wasn't prepared for, it was more like questioning, and the fact is I've been off learning for a while now. I couldn't recall a lot of information on the spot, and I've also forgotten a lot of concepts.

Some of the guys there were laughing at me when I talked and when I tried to recall certain information, even though I told them I've been away from computers for some time now. I feel embarrassed. Should I quit the gym? How do I even gain my confidence back? Will this affect me when start learning career wise because I never know when I will meet them?

I have noticed I get really anxious about small mistakes.

For example, when texting a friend I will type "been" instead of "being", or "though" instead of "tough", or "God" instead of "Good" because of autocorrect.

I know the correct meaning, but in the moment my brain just picks the wrong one. After that I keep replaying it in my head and feel embarrassed, like the person will think I'm dumb or not respect me intellectually anymore.

I had a situation recently where I told a friend I was going through tough times but I typed "though times" by mistake. He corrected me. Now I'm worried he looks down on me.

Is this level of overthinking normal? How do you stop replaying small mistakes? And does anyone else mix up similar words often? I need an honest feedback

I have a friend who used to respect me intellectually. We could have conversations about different things, and I always felt that he saw me as someone intelligent and capable.

At one point, he was doing his internship at a hospital close to a school where I was doing my own internship. I actually didn't want him to know where I was doing my internship, but somehow he found out and apparently got information about me through one of the students.

From what I can tell, he may have heard about one of my worst days during the internship. I don't know exactly what the student told him, so I can't say for certain what information he received.

What changed afterward is what really hurts me.

He started making disrespectful comments toward me repeatedly, without directly telling me what he had heard. For example, if I passed by his shop while looking at my phone, he might say things like, "You're always playing. You need to learn sense."

He has also apparently told some of his friends about me. I know this because some of those people started behaving differently toward me and looking down on me. These are people I only got to know because they sometimes pass by his shop.

The two things that hurt me the most are:

I feel like I have lost his intellectual respect.

He used to see me differently, and now I feel like he thinks I'm incompetent or unintelligent because of something he heard about me.

I'm embarrassed that he may be telling other people about me.

It makes me feel like my reputation has been damaged and that people who know me are now judging me based on one bad experience or someone else's version of events.

I know intellectually that everyone has bad days and that one bad performance doesn't define a person's intelligence or ability. But emotionally, I'm struggling to accept that someone who once respected me now seems to look down on me.

I'm also finding myself worrying about what other people think of me and replaying these interactions in my head.

So I'm looking for advice from people who have dealt with something similar:

How do you cope when someone loses respect for you because of something embarrassing they saw or heard about you?

Should I distance myself from him, or simply stop caring about his opinion?

And most importantly, how do I actually heal from the embarrassment and stop feeling like my reputation has been permanently damaged?

I've been off learning tech for a year now, so I've forgotten a lot of tech concepts.

Unfortunately for me, a lot of the guys at the gym are IT students, and one of them forced me into a tech conversation.

He kept probing me with questions.

I couldn't recall a lot of the tech tools, and some of the guys there were laughing at me, even though I told them I haven't used a computer for almost a year now.

Note: What kept me off was I didn't have a PC to be consistent with my learning.

Is it normal to forget a lot of stuff when you've not used the computer for a long time??

I feel discouraged!

So... I'm the shy type and not used to public speaking. I'm now doing my national service at a school close to a hospital my friend is also doing his.

Because I am not used to public speaking and don't have the confidence to begin with. My first class was a complete mess.

My friend got to know about it and even since then he's been disrespecting me.

NOTE: I didn't disclose that with him but I suspect he got the info from asking about me from a student or something.

He will make comments like: "You're growing you need to learn sense, You're growing you need to learn" etc. It's hurt me he don't see me like he used to see me.

What's even painful is he had discuss the issue with some close friends of his too. They all look down on me now.

My question is :

Do I need to win his respect back intellectually?

Should I care about the perception his friends have about me now because of him?

He had disclose some false academic history of me which is not the truth to his friends and some gym guys I attend the gym with... Should I care about that??

What should really do to gain my sanity back???

Part 2

Hey everyone, I need some perspective on this.

This same friend from my last post is also doing his national service close to a high school where I’m doing mine.

He ran into some students near a food market and asked them about my performance. I’m not a bad student, but I really struggle with public speaking. I tend to fumble a lot, and when you lack confidence you end up making a lot of mistakes.

After finding out about that, I feels like he lost respect for me.

Now whenever I visit his shop on Fridays and Saturdays, we’ll be having normal conversations about ladies, sports, etc. But the moment we have a different viewpoint, he makes remarks like:

`“You need to learn sense.”`

`“You’re growing o.”`

And it didn’t stop there. He started talking about me to his friends who come to the shop.

How did I find out? I visited his shop and some of his friends were there. I know them by face but we’re not close. In front of them he said something like: `“When he learns, he forgets.”`

Why would he do that in front of other people? It really hurts because:

He’s telling people who don’t know me personally, so they’ll just believe whatever he says.

How do I even heal from this? Should I confront him, cut him off, or just ignore it?

Also, how do I even heal from this??

Thanks for reading

From my little experience as a male in the education sector, you need to be extremely careful o.

I swear God ! They are kids but can read meaning into things you never had in mind!

Every joke, motivating reward... need to be careful thought about and calculated

The thing is when you're too professional it has a downside.

You need to create a friendly environment especially when you're using the 'student centered approach' of teaching.

Do you think if lion's have the intelligence of humans they will assume God looks like a human ?

Do think if dogs have the intelligence of humans they will assume God looks like a human ?

I don't think so.... Do you?

My submission is referencing the popular religions that assume God looks like a human but not a dog or bird. To me that's arrogance.

I appreciate you all ❤️

Imaging you're been forced to choose between the two disabilities: lost sight or hearing? And why?

Even though I get help whenever I find myself wrestling with my thoughts. I need actual friends here I can communicate directly with!

On Reddit everyone is special enough to gain attention.

I think the cheapest drug is religion with no side effects. Life is so harsh that confronting it sometimes can be brutal. That's my opinion. And I think that's the reason majority of people struggling gravitate seriously towards it unlike the rich.

How about you??

My opinion!

I think without religion and the opinion of others the purpose of living will be baseless for majority. Especially for people who seem not to find joy in living. People do things not truly because they want to...

Even people who seem to enjoy life do so because they have good feedback from others due to what they have and can do. Joy without others admiring is kind of rare.

As for religion is the med for the suffering,the unhappy and trouble minded. A hope for a life without consciousness. A medication with no side effects unlike other medications.

I've realised when you open up on Reddit without holding anything back, you turn to get a lot of feedback from good people! ❤️

Maybe my judgement is wrong. I don't know, maybe because I'm new... I'm yet to know the worst apart!

Is this normal? I feel embarrassed. Is not like I don't know how to spell but 80 high school kids all observing me makes me nervous.