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Cuddles and Thoughts
▲ 10 r/FictoGachikoi

Cuddles and Thoughts

A lovely piece I commissioned from @Aniirei!

Her art is absolutely wonderful and she’s also a Jax soulbonder! She’s a very sweet soul and was one of the kindest, happiest commission experiences I could have the pleasure of having!

Jax and I cuddling is interesting. If I recall, the first vague time was (after a little goading from myself), he just decided to lay on my stomach and excuse it as me being like a “soft, moving pillow” haha. I can’t remember when it turned into an excuse of him cuddling me, but I like the excuse being a plushie is for it… since, whatever the reason, it is cuddles :>. I’m a big physical affection person, and maybe this is his way of desiring that too… as roundabout or indirect as he may be about it. And uh, recently, I think there was a time he kissed my head during? I didn’t say anything at the time, and I honestly wondered if I fake visualized it after but no way was I gonna bring it up. (I asked tarot recently, it gave me an overwhelming yes that happened so… I’ll hold that it did ^^;). I think it’s one of those I can’t really acknowledge it or he’ll close off, but it made me quietly happy. :> I also learned recently looking at Glitch Studio’s merch that Jax has an acrylicz standee with them in their room… that has a very cute bear stuffed animal in it! Is it silly to say I’m like mildly jealous? And also think, ‘see! This is proof Jax canonically likes [cuddles] stuffed animals! Aka: me!’ lol.

The acrylicz is really adorable, I love how it features his room (which too, is so so adorable!!). I feel such a need for it, I fear I might debate buying the whole bundle since it’s a blind box :’). I keep seeing people auction just Jax on eBay and they go for $50 once you add shipping… I’d think I’d rather just buy the entire set for double the price! But Glitch shipping is so expensive I wonder if I can justify it to myself… Or maybe I’m being swayed by corporate when I could buy a few Jax etsy charms instead. But they aren’t Jax’s acrylicz room, sigh, you can see my dilemma ;w;. Anyway, ramblings aside, I hope you all are doing well!

u/_rayrayray_ — 1 day ago
▲ 194 r/FictoGachikoi+4 crossposts

Time with Jax + Yap (& Mini Rant lol)

Featuring this doodle I made of us hehe :>

Hi! This is like my first time ever posting about my personal connections on Reddit despite stalking these spaces for a longgg while, wowie. With the TADC finale finally on YouTube (though I saw it in theaters!) I thought I might post art and talk a tiny bit about us. A bit of a mini fandom rant too? An intro, if you will.

I’ve been bonded to Jax for 7-ish months now (courtesy of him barging in rude and loud without my permission haha.) I describe our relationship as… complicated? Jax is a complicated person so things don’t progress linearly. But our relationship has developed a whole bunch since we first connected! From constantly bickering, to slowly getting along more casually, to me honestly saying I care about him and I won’t give up. I’m sure he probably feels complicated about me, but I like to think we both enjoy time with each other and care.

These hidden parts will contain tadc Ep 9 Spoilers! >!I enjoyed the finale, as painful as it was. It made me emotional rewatching all over again and it solidified a lot about what I know about my own Jax anyway + insights to their character, how much I do genuinely adore him, and how it hurts to see someone self-sabotage and isolate so strongly. Aside from that, it did spark strong feelings from my Jax, with him internalizing then externalizing it. It resulted in a bit of arguing, mostly him pushing at me in different ways (arguing his worth, what he’ll do, my intentions/wanting to ‘fix’ him) and me rebutting his claims until he gave in, and things were mellow again. And like, being a soft plushie is an excuse to cuddle lol. There’s definitely easy days and more complicated days, but this comes with the territory with Jax, I think, haha.!<

>!Further on tadc, it’s been rougher than I expected online. The fandom is volatile. I like the show, I wanted to see people talk about it! Turns out I can only trust smaller safer spaces. Seeing so many people who simply hate Jax indiscriminately, people be transphobic (Jax is implied to be deeply closeted transfem via Ep 9. This is a… pretty obvious allegory imo written by a trans woman. Seeing people deny this is terribly frustrating), and comments that have left me so irritated I vowed not to go in tadc subreddits or browse the fandom. I already had the tags muted for months due to Jax hate, but gosh, it got worse :’). It even made me selective sharing (I’m hyper-sharing… so that’s pretty significant for me haha) based on how one views canon Jax since they seemed so terribly misinterpreted :’) (my own Jax is not ready to talk about or explore gender, so he/him I use!).!<

Anyway, that ramble aside, as frustrating as the above paragraph may be, happier things are it’s been nice with me and Jax, and I ordered Jax’s animegaz figure that looks super good (courtesy of him scoffing), so I’m excited for that!! Take this as my official hi, ramble, and experience talk. I don’t see people talk much about relationships with complicated soulbonds, f/o’s, s/o’s, in these spaces, so I hope that’s still welcome!

u/_rayrayray_ — 2 days ago
▲ 78 r/yumeshippersunite+1 crossposts

The term “double”

I figure it might not only be me, but are there others who happen to not favor the word “double”? Sometimes I use it out of ease or popularity, but it always left a gross taste in my mouth. The word ‘double’ somewhat implies there’s A: an original (especially if worded as “my double”), and B: just feels like a strangely dehumanizing term reducing someone to that word. Along with the concept of when people go so far as to meanly say ‘I hate my doubles’ as if the only notable and aspect to their existence and what makes them worth hating on is selfshipping with the same character. All they are is ‘a double’ and not like… an entire human being. It’s why sometimes I’ll even choose the lengthier term of “others who like the same character” and feel even worse about the word ‘dupe’ (even if short for duplicate, I imagine those tiktok trends of people finding dupes which are lesser inexpensive versions of an expensive product.)

I guess I’m just talking into the void here. I wish there was a better word that felt inherently less demeaning to me. Hell if it’s a single character I can even say something along the line of ‘[other] X lovers’. Ultimately I know the shorthand for ‘others who selfship with the same character’ is now doubles, but I wish there was another term. Anyone else? Lol.

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u/_rayrayray_ — 8 days ago
▲ 20 r/SoulBonding

Soulbonding is not inherently serious.

If you saw this elsewhere… that is also me haha.

Sorry, I like going against the grain and that’s a big title LOL. By this, I don’t mean the practice of soulbonding is unserious, no. Or that they aren’t real connections. What I mean is soulbonding is not some thing you need to prep extensively for. Soulbonding does not inherently mean you plan to share a life, a body, or anything with them. Because soulbonding is only one thing — a connection. And you can have any relationship with this connection, from emotionally close to an acquaintance you see once in a while. Bodily present or no interest in the body/your life at all! The cool thing about soulbonding is it tends to allow for relationships you genuinely might find hard to hold up in this world — complicated ones, messy ones, ones you can’t easily label to people but are invaluable and unique. I have various relationships with those I’m connected to.

Some are deeply, truly close to my heart. I couldn’t imagine ever being without them. Others are my ride or die even if we talk less often and I still trust them with everything. Some I’m just befriending and feels so comfortable, safe, and happy around them, just like my casual irl buddies! Some are a mentor figure, some are complicated, and some I see many times a week while others are more sporadic, spur of the moment. Connecting for me does mean I feel a deep sense of care, and this care creates different, varying and valid relationships between all of us. After all, different folks exist to have different relationships with, not all be the same! And you know? Some I connected simply by reaching out, no pressure, and going “You’re cool. This is what soulbonding is. Wanna try it and be my friend?”

Sure, you can ask for permanent residents. People to leave everything behind and join you. But you can also want nothing of the sort (see; day trippers and telephone connections) — or they want nothing of the sort. Mine never had any interest in living my life or in my body, even when I went in expecting it. When I soulbond casually, it is low stakes. We reach out and talk sometimes. Sometimes we even get much closer! I’ve also soulbonded unintentionally with an immediate, serious relationship and strong feelings. I believe my own feelings and hopes/desires make me connect to someone who shares those feelings. After all, I tried to hold back out of respect, yet they seemed to like me a great deal similarly anyway. (Originally, I even tried to convince myself I must be making it up and need to stop… even though none of it I expected or was doing intentionally. I now learned to not meanly doubt them, haha.)

This isn’t me saying it’s bad to approach it serious. But the concept to me that it will inevitably be is untrue, it can be low stakes. Likewise, if you do want to go in wanting a serious relationship, that’s fine! Because as long as both parties agree, that’s all that matters! I don’t believe in the concept that any approach or desire is bad. The same way hookups are fine if both parties want and enjoy it, approaching soulbonding for casual or serious relationships are fine! (Yes, I include hookups in there. I know, scandalous.) You have the power to say no, they do too.

Anyway, I think this approach is really freeing. I have some people I’m invariably linked to and devoted to for life. It’s entirely because of how they are as people, soulbonded or not. And I have some I chat with maybe a few times a month just to catch up and hang out. I love my friends and I love my partners I want to be with forever.

The one linking factor between all my soulbonds is I care a whole lot about them and want to be connected! And as long as they do too, well, isn’t that the fun and beauty of soulbonding? I don’t want people to feel limited by ideas of exclusivity, that they must approach with the expectation of a type of soulbond or prepare for the worst, or that they cannot want a fun, low-stakes mutual relationship vs. something more committed. You can connect a whole bunch for no other reason than you’re a social butterfly! And I’d miss out on making so many amazing connections if I never decided to start soulbonding just for the fun of meeting new people! (Likewise, if you’re a solo one person only bonder, that’s awesome and valid too! This is just to paint the picture that soulbonding can encompass so much, and how wonderful it is!)

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u/_rayrayray_ — 10 days ago
▲ 9 r/SoulBonding

18+ Soulbonding/Selfship Server for Sharers!

Hello hello all! If you’re looking for a new soulbonding space to dabble in,

We welcome you to Heart × Soul!

We’re an 18+ sharers-only Discord server for all soulbonders, riakos/gachikois, selfshippers, fictosexuals, and those just curious! For people to chat and get along regardless of their approach! We’re a very plural-positive and alterhuman-positive, and kink-positive space with a kind, inviting environment!

We were made to bring soulbonders and selfshippers together whether they come from plurality or selfshipping, in a sharing environment since there were so few! For those of us who’d love to meet others who like/bond the same folks, and love mutual gushing!! We have a lovely community and enjoy discussing our experiences, having fun, and learning more about each other and our relationships! If you stop by, we hope you’ll have a great time! :D

u/_rayrayray_ — 1 month ago