u/aboringhooman

I graduated almost a year ago, now working as an office worker for a healthcare company in BGC. So far parang wala akong interest mag boards kasi ayoko na mag medtech.

I realized that during internship. Bukod sa overworked and underpaid, it's draining. But I'm worried pagsisihan ko in the future na hindi ako nagtake ng boards. I also don't know if it's worth it to sacrifice my time and work para sa ID na hindi ko naman balak ipractice.

To those who never did, kamusta kayo? How's your career? Any regrets or realizations?

Problem/Goal: Foreigner partner wants me to visit his country to meet his family in Central America (NOT USA, so E-Visa is okay already for Filipinos but NO DIRECT FLIGHT —layovers need transit visa). Problem is ...I have no travel history.

Context: I've never been abroad. Been working in a US Healthcare company here in PH for 8 months, with 50k bank savings at the moment. Trip will be sponsored by him. Balak namin mag leave ako for a month sa end of the year, but I'm so scared to try kasi baka ma offload lang ako at masayang ang pamasahe (more than 100k ang flight ticket roundtrip —cheapest one I saw was around 148k).

Previous Attempt: None yet. But he's visted PH na last year and he stayed with me for a month.

Is this major major red flag if macomplete ko naman basic requirements such as COE, Proof of leave, Payslip, Bank Statements, Affidavit of Support, Itinerary, etc?

If ever hindi talaga possible, which country is the cheapest to go to kahit for a day or two lang, for the sake of passport stamps/having a travel history? Parang day tour lang sa baguio ganern haha

I really miss him 🥺 We've been dating for 3 years and I still haven't met his family in person due to my very weak passport and travel credentials jusko

TL;DR: 4-year LDR PH + El Salvador. Trying to close the gap but choosing between marriage in my country vs me moving there with no travel history and a lot of anxiety. Looking for advice from people who actually did it.

Me (Asia) and my boyfriend (Latin America) have been together almost 4 years LDR with a 16-hour time difference. We’ve only met once in person because flights were expensive and we saved for years just to make that happen.

We’re trying to finally close the gap but both options feel terrifying.

Option 1: He comes back to PH, we get married here, he goes home and petitions me later. Feels more stable, especially because I have zero international travel history. Problem: expensive, more back-and-forth, and I’ve never met his family in person. He also thinks his family would side-eye him for flying across the world and getting married immediately.

Option 2: I fly to El Salvador as a tourist (first international trip ever lol pray for me and Philippine immigration), get married there, adjust status, and never go back. But then what happens to my job? I can’t quit before leaving because that feels like speedrunning an offload. And if I get stopped at immigration, I’m scared it’ll complicate future plans too.

Extra complication: he still lives with his parents because housing is expensive. He did save around $4k before for our visit here, and he keeps reassuring me he’ll do his best to give me the same life I’m used to—but I’m scared of becoming one of those people who moved countries powered entirely by love and vibes.

For people who successfully closed the gap in international relationships: how did you decide it was the right time? Did you visit first? Get married first? Wait until finances were stronger?

TL;DR: 4-year LDR PH + El Salvador. Trying to close the gap but choosing between marriage in my country vs me moving there with no travel history and a lot of anxiety. Looking for advice from people who actually did it.

Me (Asia) and my boyfriend (Latin America) have been together almost 4 years LDR with a 16-hour time difference. We’ve only met once in person because flights were expensive and we saved for years just to make that happen.

We’re trying to finally close the gap but both options feel terrifying.

Option 1: He comes back to PH, we get married here, he goes home and petitions me later. Feels more stable, especially because I have zero international travel history. Problem: expensive, more back-and-forth, and I’ve never met his family in person. He also thinks his family would side-eye him for flying across the world and getting married immediately.

Option 2: I fly to El Salvador as a tourist (first international trip ever lol pray for me and Philippine immigration), get married there, adjust status, and never go back. But then what happens to my job? I can’t quit before leaving because that feels like speedrunning an offload. And if I get stopped at immigration, I’m scared it’ll complicate future plans too.

Extra complication: he still lives with his parents because housing is expensive. He did save around $4k before for our visit here, and he keeps reassuring me he’ll do his best to give me the same life I’m used to—but I’m scared of becoming one of those people who moved countries powered entirely by love and vibes.

For people who successfully closed the gap in international relationships: how did you decide it was the right time? Did you visit first? Get married first? Wait until finances were stronger?

TL;DR: First-time Filipina traveler visiting foreign long-term partner abroad. Possible plan is tourist visit -> marriage abroad -> spousal/residency processing if legally allowed there. Stable job in PH, legitimate 3-year relationship, partner already visited PH before. Worried about PH immigration/offloading and whether this setup could be considered misrepresentation. Sourcing for thoughts and opinions.

Hi. I’m a 27F Filipino with a PH passport (valid until 2030) currently working for a US healthcare company’s Manila GBS earning around 40k/month. My partner (28M) is from Central Latin America and we’ve been together for 3 years. We already met in person when he visited the Philippines last year for a month.

We’re now discussing how to permanently close the distance. One option is for me to visit his country as a tourist (he will sponsor the trip), then possibly get married there and process spousal/residency papers if allowed under their laws.

My concern is PH immigration/offloading since I’m a first-time traveler, female, traveling long-haul to visit a foreign partner. I know those are usually considered “high-risk” profiles by BI.

I want to keep everything legal and consistent. I’m confused about:

* whether entering as a tourist but later getting married abroad is considered misrepresentation,

* whether it’s risky if I resign before traveling,

* what documents I should/shouldn’t bring,

* and how much I should disclose during immigration interview.

For context, we already consulted in his country and they said the process is legally doable, but we haven’t formally started yet kaya di pa naman alam full process.

I’m honestly just anxious about getting offloaded after spending a lot on flights/processes. Would appreciate any opinions from people familiar with PH immigration and international marriage/spousal processes.

I'm 26F, earning around 32k/monthly net. BUT IT'S REALLY HARD FOR ME TO TRAVEL in and out of the country. With bills, building up my savings and emergency funds on priority, mahirap talaga magtravel at the moment.

But I kept seeing people working in corporate but they travel every single month or every few months. Possible ba talaga yun while building savings? I feel like there's something wrong with how I budget or my spending lifestyle that's why I can't achieve it.