u/abovetheatlantic

I just noticed a pattern in myself that I really don’t like.

I had a phone call today where I had the perfect opportunity to ask for something I genuinely wanted.

There was no real risk in asking and nothing to lose.
The thought came into my mind during the conversation. I knew I wanted to ask. But somehow it kept circling around in my head instead of coming out of my mouth. Before I managed to say it, the conversation was over.

And suddenly I realized: I do this often. I almost claim the prize. I almost become successful. I almost get the relationship.

So instead of fully owning it, I think one more time. I ask one more person. I sleep on it one more night. And then it‘s gone. But at least I can say I almost got it. 🙄

And I realized that almost feels safer than actually having what I want.

Does anyone else experience this? What could be the reason for this?

I am genuinely looking for input on how to overcome it.

I visualize often, and sometimes I use a guided meditation on YouTube.

The number of meditations to „get a text message from a certain person“ or „be on their mind“ astonishes me.

Visualization works. That has been proven over and over by science and it’s used by world-class athletes, formation pilots, musicians and many other people performing in high-stakes environments.

Do you really think the visualize every tiny step on the way to their end goal (or end state, to use Neville‘s words)? Tying their shoes? Getting in the bus? Opening the venue door?

So why visualize getting a text from somebody when what you really want is a stable, committed relationship?

This is your reminder to put your focus back on your desired outcome, not the bridge.

Happy weekend! ✨

Dear writer community,

I am very new to Substack, just published my first story. My account is about stories from my job (flight attendant), often related to mindset, with the aim to inspire people.

Before Substack, I posted on LinkedIn. Now my question is, do I still post on LinkedIn what I write on Substack? Or does one compete with the other? Or can LinkedIn even get me followers on Substack?

I opened up a Substack because I have an active Instagram account and those people don’t get to read my stories usually and because I want to become more independent of big platforms. With Substack, I at least get people‘s email addresses.

Thank you!

My last post has performed extremely well, and it’s still leading to likes and I am still getting new followers from it.

I posted it a week ago.

Should I refrain from posting something new because that could eat into the success of that post? Or will the two be displayed „independently“?

Many thanks.

After four years of flying exclusively with uniform trousers, as an experiment, I wore the skirt for the first time yesterday.

I was the first time in my life wearing a skirt. 😅 I felt so self-conscious. The feedback was overwhelmingly positive though.

I feel like this job has allowed me to push myself outside my comfort zone in so many ways. That’s one of the reasons I love it (I worked in corporate until age 35).

Anyone else experiencing something similar, that this job is so unique because it challenges you in so many ways?

I‘d love to hear your personal growth stories!!! ❤️

I hope this post is ok as I am not selling anything.

I’ve been struggling to track what I eat and how my gut reacts across time zones, so I built a small web app called Gut Feeling it logs meals, gas, gut pops (like the bubbling feeling without gas), and mouth ulcers on a clean timeline, and because it stores timestamps in both local and UTC time it actually makes sense when you’re flying across time zones.

It’s free, no sign-up required, works offline, and you can install it like a real app on your phone by opening the link in Safari (iPhone) or Chrome (Android), tapping the share button, and choosing “Add to Home Screen.”

Would love to know if this is useful to anyone else?

You can find it on yourgutfeeling.app. Any feedback is highly appreciated so I can further tune it and make it accessible to more people.

I’ve been struggling to track what I eat and how my gut reacts across time zones, so I built a small web app called Gut Feeling it logs meals, gas, gut pops (like the bubbling feeling without gas), and mouth ulcers on a clean timeline, and because it stores timestamps in both local and UTC time it actually makes sense when you’re flying across time zones.

It’s free, no sign-up required, works offline, and you can install it like a real app on your phone by opening the link in Safari (iPhone) or Chrome (Android), tapping the share button, and choosing “Add to Home Screen.”

Would love to know if this is useful to anyone else?

You can find it on yourgutfeeling.lovable.app. Any feedback is highly appreciated so I can further tune it and make it accessible to more people.

I hope this post is ok as I am not selling anything.

I’ve been struggling to track what I eat and how my gut reacts across time zones, so I built a small web app called Gut Feeling it logs meals, gas, gut pops (like the bubbling feeling without gas), and mouth ulcers on a clean timeline, and because it stores timestamps in both local and UTC time it actually makes sense when you’re flying across time zones.

It’s free, no sign-up required, works offline, and you can install it like a real app on your phone by opening the link in Safari (iPhone) or Chrome (Android), tapping the share button, and choosing “Add to Home Screen.”

Would love to know if this is useful to anyone else?

You can find it on yourgutfeeling.app. Any feedback is highly appreciated so I can further tune it and make it accessible to more people.

Dear community, I eat mostly vegan and would like to know if I can easily find tofu and/or tempeh in the supermarkets of Ponta Delgada?

And do you have restaurants for vegetarian or vegan food you can recommend all across the island?

Many thanks! 🙏🏼

EDIT: thank you all so much for your quick replies! Flying off on Friday!

Dear community,

I am an avid clod plunger. I work as a flight attendant and have just been assigned a EWR flight out of standby. I would love to try Othership in Flatiron.

Can someone please share they referral code with me so we both get 22% off? 😊

Thank you!

Hey everyone,

I recently got into building apps, and I’ve been working on my first one.

The idea is super simple:
It’s for people who can’t do a push-up yet and want to build up to it.

Instead of jumping straight to floor push-ups, the app lets you:

• track push-ups at different elevations (wall → table → bench → floor)
• log sets, reps, and height
• see your progress over time as you gradually lower the height

Basically: progressive push-up training without feeling discouraged from day one.

I realized most fitness apps assume you can already do proper push-ups, which isn’t the case for a lot of people (including me), so I wanted to build something more beginner-friendly.

Right now I’m close to finishing a first version and I’m looking for a few people who might be interested in:

• testing it
• giving honest feedback
• telling me what actually sucks / what’s useful

I’m not trying to build something fancy, just something that solves a real problem and is actually usable. I want the app to be free, but in return I need honest feedback.

If that sounds interesting, let me know please and I will send you the link to the app (web-based, but you can create a shortcut on your mobile) in a few days.

Would also love to hear more generally:

• is this something you’d use?
• what would you expect from an app like this?

Thank you so much!