u/admiralarborist

My one-year surfing anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks. Unsurprisingly, I still suck, but I'm becoming more and more competent every session. Over the christmas holidays I graduated from my foamie to a proper longboard. I can pretty consistently catch green waves and go down the line. I can't yet cutback or crosstep, but I can maneuver the board well enough not to hit anyone else in the lineup. I still could use some work with positioning and wave reading.

I love my longboard, but I'm getting pretty curious about what else there is out there to ride. I don't think I'll ever become a shortboard ripper at my age (24F, started at 23), but I think maybe a midlength would be cool for the experience? I'm thinking something around 7 foot 2. I'm 125lbs, 5 foot 4.

Now that Jackass is officially DONE, what was your least favorite stunt from the entire franchise?

I am suicidal. I have been before in my life, but I’m at a point now to where the thoughts and urges are the strongest they’ve ever been. I should probably talk to a professional about it, I know.

The problem is… I know that this might lead me down a road I don’t want to go. I don’t need to go to the hospital. I don’t want medication for my depression. I just need to talk to someone qualified because I don’t want to put this burden on my loved ones. I’ve answered “no” to all of the suicide questions on depression forms just to avoid this, but it hurts to lie and I’m thinking maybe there is a chance that I will make some sort of progress towards not going through with it if I talk to someone. But as soon as they hear that I’ve been researching methods and have a plan, they’ll treat me like a crazy person.

Is there any way that I can just be honest with someone?

I won’t act like I’m immune to this way of thinking. I have been dreading turning 25 ever since my 23rd birthday, but the closer I get to that age, the more I’m… just fine with it? And it made me wonder why I was even afraid of it in the first place.

I’ve noticed a lot of this sentiment within the past 5 or so years on social media. There’s a lot of posts like “it’s so embarrassing to do (regular activity that you might enjoy) when you’re 25+ dude like just give up.” Or, along the same lines: “if you haven’t done (X activity) by 25 then just give up.” Why is 25 the cutoff? What is it about 25 that gives us all the heebie-jeebies?

I don’t know if it’s always been like this either. I’ve been on social media for a very long time and I can’t remember millennials (just using them as an example bc they’re directly ahead of us) participating in this sentiment. It seems like a very Gen Z thing.

This isn’t just something I’ve experienced online, though. I have noticed others in my friend group also becoming antsy about approaching 25.

What gives? Where did this sentiment come from?

I’m 24. College grad, but i seriously regret my degree. It’s in a field that is notoriously hard to make anything out of. I wish i had picked something different, but hindsight is 20/20. I didn’t realize how bad my job prospects were until i had the degree in my hands. I had one 6 month internship in my field 2 years ago, but nothing since. Applying for jobs leads to almost nothing. I’ve had a couple of interviews, but despite having great interview skills (I’ve been told as much), I never get hired.

As such, I decided to put my all into helping a family member start and run their business. Unfortunately, after almost 7 months of working together, I just cant do it anymore. I wasn’t aware of it before, but that family member (who I thought I was close to before) is an absolute nightmare. They’re severely lacking in empathy: yelling, screaming and cursing out other employees (sometimes in front of our customers!) I feel like I have to save us from a lawsuit every week. No matter how much I try to raise my concerns, at the end of the day, it’s their business and they have told me point blank that they do not care if other people find them abusive or offputting. We’ve argued until our faces turned blue about their behavior… nothing is going to change them.

My mental and physical health has taken a huge downturn over these past 7 months as well. I’ve always had depression, but it’s exacerbated to a rate that genuinely concerns me. It’s been months since I’ve gotten any proper sleep over worrying about this job. I am in therapy but it’s not really helping.

I know I need to leave this job, but my prospects are so low. I’ve been looking for full time employment for almost 3 years now and haven’t been able to land anything. Like everyone, I have bills to pay and I can’t just cut off my only stream of income.

What can I do? I feel trapped.

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/drivinganxiety/s/hdHmHTSsbn

A big THANK YOU to everyone who sent their well wishes. Something must have worked, because today I officially got my drivers license at 24 years old. 8 years of anxiety finally conquered. I can’t even begin to describe how happy I am right now!

i'm 24. had a huge fear of driving forever, but I finally took the plunge this year and bought myself a car. having my own car has increased my confidence exponentially, but I am still nervous to take my test tomorrow! please send good vibes or any advice you have. California based

I love DoHo. It’s the perfect place to learn to surf. Everyone is so friendly, and nobody minds sharing waves. Pretty much everyone is a beginner and we all get along. Are any of the other beginner breaks like that? I’ve been wanting to go somewhere new.

I was diagnosed with lupus when I was 10 years old. Was never an athlete until I went into remission about 7 years ago. Picked up surfing and now I love it. You can ask me questions about that or anything else. I don't shy away from dirty questions unless they're too creepy. Just be respectful.

I'll be honest, this has been an ongoing issue in my relationship for a while. My (24F) partner (24M) shows absolutely no sexual interest in me when we're apart. And when we're together, I always have to be the one to initiate. Sometimes, he prefaces meetups with "hey I don't want to have sex" and it drives me crazy and makes me feel unwanted. I have a really high libido and I think he seems to have a high libido for everything that is not me (writing and drawing porn, gooning to fictional characers, lol). He swears he wants me and wants to have sex, but his actions don't show it.

I just need a reality check and examples from other couples so I know how to move forward. Thank you in advance.