u/aesthetic_avii

I figured out it's because knowing something is wrong doesn't magically stop us from doing it🤔

Especially in relationships, we all know we shouldn't overthink, double text, stalk our partner ex's profile or bring up the same old arguments

and yet somehow we end up doing exactly that

Most of our actions come from habits and emotions, not logic.

So let's try this

If you keep making the same mistake, try asking What Triggered Me?

Once you figure out the trigger, changing the pattern becomes much easier

Nobody fixes years of habits overnight.

Just try to do a little better each time

Reddit what would you like to add on this?

I was thinking about this lately and it suddenly hit me. somewhere inside us suffering feels like proof that what we lost mattered

Letting go can feel as if we're saying, "It wasn't important"

so we hold on not because it helps, but because it honors the memory

The truth is, moving on doesn't erase the value of what happened.

It simply means you're no longer paying for it every single day

Reddit what do you think about this?

I know this is considered a flex these days, and I know a lot of people will probably call me old fashioned for saying this.

don't get me wrong, I absolutely believe in having boundaries. If someone is repeatedly disrespecting you or affecting your peace, you should walk away.

But I don't think we should get so comfortable cutting people off over every single mistake.

I've actually noticed this becoming much more common after COVID. it feels like people became so used to smaller circles and isolation that now replacing conversations with distance feels normal

the problem is, when you keep doing this, eventually you won't have many people left to share your life with. You'll end up with one or two people, and that's it. But those one or two people won't be available for you 24/7

They Have Their Own Lives Too

I also think this quietly kills creativity. When you have different people in your life, every friendship serves a different purpose.

You party with one friend, have deep life conversations with another, discuss your career with someone else, and maybe just laugh about random things with another person. that's the beauty of having different kinds of relationships

But if your entire social life depends on just one or two people, how do you even separate those roles?

How do you expect the same person to be everything for you?

Let's see if you're one of them

Imagine Italy's Prime Minister is having one of the worst days of her life. Instead of trying to solve the problem... Modi ji quietly hands Meloni a Melody and just says

“i can understand what you're going through ”

weirdly enough that one sentence would probably change how she sees him because when people are emotional, they're usually not looking for solutions first

They're looking for proof that someone actually gets what they're feeling. that's what psychologists call the law of emotional validation

people don't always remember who gave the smartest advice. They remember who made them feel understood

and that's one of the fastest ways to build trust. So next time someone opens up to you... Don't rush to fix it...

Let them know you understand first.

Advice can wait. Just don't overuse this

You'd be surprised how quickly people start feeling comfortable around someone who genuinely makes them feel understood.

She said she doesn't feel like she's doing great in life because she saw updates of one of her friends who is pursuing an MBA in Singapore

When she told me this i was like Bro You're sitting in that classroom and staying in that hostel which is the dream of so many people. you're living a life that countless others aspire to

and yet, you're comparing yourself just because one of your friends is doing an MBA in Singapore

you know what? When we keep comparing ourselves to others, our happiness is one thing that gets affected, but I don't even want to talk about that

the other thing, which I feel is even more important, is that constant comparison lowers our self esteem. and when our self-esteem goes down, we're no longer able to give our best...

Let's say you had the ability to crack a ₹24 lpa job. But because your self esteem was low and you doubted yourself so much, you ended up cracking only a ₹12 LPA job

reddit can you see the difference?

If we wait to feel motivated, energized or ready before taking action, our emotions end up controlling our behavior. eventually the task starts feeling bigger which it's not!

A better mindset is to focus on the next small action rather than the feeling. like start before you feel ready. most of the time motivation follows action, not the other way around

instead of asking, am i ready? we should ask what's the tiniest step I can take right now?

reddit what do you think about this?

If someone is really good at sales, whether it’s a product, a course, or a service, it says a lot about their communication and understanding of people

It’s not just talking, it’s psychology. You have to understand how people think, what they need, and how to connect with them

And honestly, not everyone can do that well. That’s why I think good sales skills are rare and valuable

Reddit what's your opinion on this??

I think this is something we should think about

you can reach success fast get money from a viral video, build a good body in 100 days, get attention and followers… but then slowly slip back into old habits

Spend the money on random stuff. Lose discipline. get tired of the same audience they once wanted

We talk a lot about Getting There. Not enough about staying there. Because honestly, starting is exciting. Maintenance is boring. And that’s where most people fall apart

Reddit what do you think about this?

Just to clear it up, YouTube doesn’t pay you directly per view. It depends on ads, audience country, niche, watch time, etc. So 1 million views doesn’t mean a fixed amount

Roughly speaking, you might earn somewhere around ₹15K-40K (sometimes more, sometimes less), but that’s just from ad revenue. And honestly, that’s not even where most creators make real money

The bigger income usually comes from sponsorships, brand deals, affiliate marketing and long form content monetization rather than just views alone

So if you’re an upcoming creator, don’t obsess over views = money. Focus on building an audience, improving content, and creating opportunities beyond just ads

All The Best💪🏼

I think it means feeling everything...

and still deciding not to react.

What do you think

Even though the future would be worth it, what will we do if we don't have the body to enjoy it.