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So I used to fail all my courses cause I had a hard time writing and debugging code. Id understand the logic perfectly and could write the pseudo code, functions, loops etc and what they should do. But when I ran it everything would crash. Bascially id spend 1-2 hours writing code and 8 hours debugging syntax or be stuck and not know what to do. So what would end up happening is more often then not I'd run out of time during an exam/lab/assignment or would make one formatting error I couldn't see clearly and the entire output would crash and I'd fail the course.

Also there was a problem of you don't know what you don't know. So for exmaple if my class never showed me a hashmap it wouldn't ever occur to me in my dreams that this was a thing. So id sit there for many hours trying to figure out a problem with a solution that required a thing I didn't even know exist. I also didn't grow up around tech or programming so things like looking at documentation, stack overflow etc didn't even occur to me till second year. I also later in life realized while working I might be a little ADHD/autistic and would miss simple connecting words like "the","it","if" in reports paragraphs etc. My reports would get the message across clearly but it'd miss a few words here and there and id always have to double check.

The issue ultimately became that I would spend so much time thinking it through and was slow I just couldn't keep up. I started failing courses and getting discouraged cause my best effort would yield no results. If in the end my input wasn't perfect my output wouldn't be correct.

Eventually I gave up on CS entirely for the next 5 years and went onto another field because I realized being that slow would've never cut it professionally.

It was never really a logic or understanding issue for me I think(majored in civil engineering and did well in most of my unviersty math courses). Even for multiple choice questions where they'd give me a snippet of code and ask me for an output id usually get it right cause i could follow the logic. But when it came to writing and debugging it was a major issue since I never grew up coding and couldn't do it fast enough before the lab/assignment/exam time would run out.

Since AI I pretty much have all these obstacles taken care of. I can describe my logic to it and write clunky code and it'll fix any syntax and grammatical errors. If I hadn't seen anything like a hashmap it'll suggest it to me and I'll know to use it for next time. Then I can go line by line asking it to output and comment each line, ask questions where I may confused about the wording and then either use that code or improve upon the logic it provides.

I never one shot it and go line by line with AI correcting any logical errors I make and i run tests and incrementally verify every single thing. Basically my rule of thumb

I took a couple of courses as pre-reqs for OMSCS and aced them both when I definitely wouldve failed then without AI cause time would just run out.

But anyways it makes me feel like an imposter. I know for a fact without AI I could've never gotten to the answers on my own even if I "understood" the steps I needed to get there. Idk if this is vibe coding or if anyone can relate.

Hear me out.

Just by the sheer amount of people on earth im saying that there should be some absolutely cracked NEETs that are genuine wizards who somehow broke the system and made alot of money but still retained their NEET personality.

Howard Hughes isn't really a perfect example cause he was severely mentally ill but basically I mean someone like that. Someone who isn't functional at all in the traditional interpersonal sense but very smart and successful in a financial sense. Totally failing everywhere else except this area.

Yet we never see them.

My theory is that by mid 20s to 30s more or less your socioeconomic class is locked in especially upwards mobility. Maybe there are a few people that can change their life trajectory but it's extremely rare and uncommon. However I want to know from people older and from their personal experience what was the biggest predictor on what made someone go up/down the socio-economic ladder?

So assume I have a healthy weight, body fat and muscle mass. I eat clean, as reccomended by a cardiologist and my macronutrients for meals stay exactly the same.

Only thing I change is instead of eating chicken/beef/fish I now eat vegetarian sources like tofu, tempeh, TVP etc. My question then is does this help cholesterol?

I'm 30 and currently I have high cholesterol but no artery plaque buildup. i have a feeling that given all else equal, reducing animal products should help reducing cholesterol but I am not sure. Maybe I've just seen too much vegan propoganda.

Was wondering if there is any good peer reviewed science behind this?

Thanks

So my theory is if your struggling here especially if it's a first world country you pretty much don't "get it" when it comes to relationships and you will struggle in the country your visiting as well.

So if you do manage to get a relationship, especially if it's a third world country it's entirely on the leverage of your passport/wealth. You as a person on your own are simply are not sufficient enough given status equality so i don't know if that is sustainable way to make a relationship cause basically you're marrying a gold digger. That's my theory anyways.

However I could be wrong. As I get older and see more of the world im thinking maybe it genuinely is mostly a mismatch in the environment. Maybe it's totally reasonable and likely that you were a chud back home and now even when obviously leveraging your status the relationship you got ultimately worked out well.

Just wanted to hear a fresh prespective from those in that situation where they were struggling badly at home but turned it around abroad and had genuine long term success. Why do you think it worked out long term and your partner stuck arojnd?

So i don't need to give a P.E exam being from Canada and don't plan to. However I do think it's a great tool to keep my knowledge up to date whenever I have free time during work or lunch or what not.

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What are the best free practice exam reaourcess you can reccomend?

30m new to the city. Pretty much restarting my life from scratch. I want to make friends again but am also on the spectrum and socially not very good at first impressions so I kinda need a more focused approach.

Looking into my past the only way I've made friends is through seeing the same people over and over again over a long period of time and actually opening up and talking about random stuff not related to the activity itself.

So these mostly have been either work/school related where you were seeing the same people for months/years and talking about whatever random stuff. Both these social dynamics were at play so you ultimately make friends.

Since then ive joined many clubs and groups like yoga, salsa or random meetup events but it never works out. The main issue is you either don't see the same people frequently enough (random Meetups) and/or it's a rotating cast. In places where you do see the same people there is no common talking point (hot yoga/salsa) or time and pretty much everyone just does their one hour of class and leaves. You see the same people for months but barely say anything more then "hi" to them. So on paper these are "social" activities and maybe for very neurotypical people it clicks but to me these never made sense. Whatever I do must require people meeting frequently and having some free time to just chit chat about random stuff.

Open to hearing suggestions on what's worked for others. There's so many things I have no idea what to choose

30m new to the city. Pretty much restarting my life from scratch. I want to make friends again but am also on the spectrum and socially not very good at first impressions so I kinda need a more focused approach.

Looking into my past the only way I've made friends is through seeing the same people over and over again over a long period of time and actually opening up and talking about random stuff not related to the activity itself.

So these mostly have been either work/school related where you were seeing the same people for months/years and talking about whatever random stuff. Both these social dynamics were at play so you ultimately make friends.

Since then ive joined many clubs and groups like yoga, salsa or random meetup events but it never works out. The main issue is you either don't see the same people frequently enough (random Meetups) and/or it's a rotating cast. In places where you do see the same people there is no common talking point (hot yoga/salsa) or time and pretty much everyone just does their one hour of class and leaves. You see the same people for months but barely say anything more then "hi" to them. So on paper these are "social" activities and maybe for very neurotypical people it clicks but to me these never made sense. Whatever I do must require people meeting frequently and having some free time to just chit chat about random stuff.

Open to hearing suggestions on what's worked for others. There's so many things I have no idea what to choose.

Just wondering what it's like to have worked in complicated critical projects like the Hoover dam, three gorges dam, Golden Gate bridge etc. I think even amongst licensed engineers it's not many who can truly handle the pressure. Curious to know what it's like being there.

Just had this realization today interacting with a coworker. I used to be a very extroverted happy and joyful outgoing guy. With chronic sciatica that got worse this slowly got worse oevr the years. I began to withdraw and rest more and more to recover. This over the course of many many years compounded to changing me to a whole diffrent person.

Its not that I want to be cold unresponsive and depressed around others. But with the energy it takes to not have my back be writhing in pain leaves me with very little else left. This is me giving my new 100% and nothing more is possible. Nobody owes me reciprocity and its understandable that others would withdraw. Nobody needs that energy in their life.

Simialrly this applies everywhere.In my career, studies, fitness, realtionships etc i couldn't push as hard as I previously could. Certain factors compounded over many years to changing my actions that altered my life trajectory in ways I couldn't see in the moment but now see in hindsight. In all those things the real tragedy is that the person that could have been and what that person could have accomplished at his 100% had he not had chronic pain will never come to pass, and the new 100% will never be enough. He will always know.

So i have a friend who's sees the world as doers and non doers. He believes hard work will garuntee success because it kinda has in his life where hes been able to do slightly better then the average of our graduating class mainly cause he believed he worked harder then everyone. He grew up amongst rich politicians and beauracrats in his family and he admits he has that drive for power and control and wants to do everything to gain it.

Also i do think it gives him a level of arrogance and im certain he feels a level of comfort around me and other average people he grew up with because of relative status/wealth difference with the way he speaks. Its like he feels.like he can be himself cause he is around "lessers". If you get into an arguement he always keeps an "i am better then you" trump card and brings it up to back his arguements. (I.e. i am right because I have more money then you therefore it proves my point).

It soemtimes derails conversations cause he completely disocunts luck, timing, circumstances etc and genuinely has this truly hierarchical model of the world. It is to a point where not only does he see himself better then his peers but he also sees himself lesser then more wealthy and powerful people in a "temporarily embarrassed millionare" fashion. I myself am on the opposite end of this spectrum where i do bleieve in hardwork as an obligstion but ultimately see it as a very tiny input towards success. So find my friend hard to relate with even though hes overall a chill guy.

I have been close friends for many years but now i am not sure maintaining a relationship with said friend is beneficial or if its slowly better to cut him off.

Tl;dr: friend believes in a very hierarchical meritocratoc worldview where hardwork equates to.success and richer people are where they are because they worked harder then everyone else. Makes relstionship toxic and I'm not sure if I should keep it.