u/aliensuperstars_

É isso. Não deixaram esse homem fazer o que ele realmente queria, então ele foi lá e fez questão de provar o óbvio Não foi a toa certas mudanças de jogadores rs.

Agora temos quatro anos pela frente, e honestamente eu tô esperançosa.

Lunch: Yukon gold potatoes, orange bell pepper and zucchini, an over easy egg, berries and a peach raspberry bubblr over ice

UPDATE: I said in the post "I can't get past this" and I mean that. Maybe that was missed by some folks. I'm not trying to condoning his racism. I am allowed to be sad that a person I'm physically attracted to is racist and therefore I won't date them. I'm not arguing with people in the comments because there obviously isn't anything to argue about. I'm on the same page.

I want to start this by saying I know this is a sensitive topic that people are passionate about. I would love if things could stay cordial.

I (29f) matched with this guy (29m) on hinge last week, we hit it off instantly over text, had a few phone calls before our date (a requirement for me) and I really felt a connection. We went mini golfing and when he showed up I noticed he had a window sticker on his car that was in the shape of Alabama and said "Bama grown" on it but the whole thing was a confederate flag pattern. I immediately was a bit bummed but I am really trying to give people a chance (more on this later). After mini golf we went thrifting and chatted for like 2 hours.

He walked me to my car and I rolled down my window to chat for a few before I left. I mentioned (in a light hearted tone) that I wouldn't be getting back in his truck with that sticker on it and we had a good conversation about it. He explained that he sees the flag as a sign of his southern heritage and that he doesn't display it with ill intent. I explained that perception matters just as much as intent and that the flag carries some pretty negative connotations.

A little background about me: I grew up in a conservative house, not religious conservative but 2nd ammendment, American flag on the porch conservative. I went to college, got my degree in women's studies, and have changed my views considerably. My family is not MAGA, but still conservative for the most part. No one in my family is homophonic, racist, sexist, anything like that, but they are strong believers in the 2nd ammendment and are proponents of less government. I hold different beliefs than my family on most hot button issues regarding politics. We are in the pnw so not exactly red country 😅

A little background on my views about dating: I have been in the dating scene for what feels like forever. I have had times in dating where I was really into the social media stuff of "if he wanted to he would" "if he doesn't pay, open the door, xyz cut him off immediately". I've left dates after 10 minutes because I didn't feel a connection or didn't think he was a good fit and I've cancelled dates before they happened because of yellow or red flags. I'm not saying this isn't a valid way to date by any means it just doesn't feel like it's working for me.

I am trying something new where I actually give people a fighting chance instead of cutting them off after 1 negative thing. I feel insane even saying this, because it's not revolutionary, I'm just retraining myself from years of cutting men off for not being perfect. I have gone on some really great dates lately with people who I would have cut off immediately in the past and am enjoying less rigidity in dating for me. All of this to say, that is why I didn't leave immediately upon seeing the flag.

The conversation about the flag was respectful, he listened to what I had to say and he said if we continued to see each other he would take it off his truck. However, even the fact he had it up just feels icky to me.

I'm feeling conflicted about the whole thing because I know that if I was dating how I was before I wouldn't have this dilemma because I already would have cut it off but I really felt a connection and he expressed he did too. The spark during our first kiss was actually electric but I'm not sure I can get past the flag. (I am sure I can't get past it I'm just bummed to lose the connection). I haven't felt a connection/attraction this good in a long time.

Maybe this is more just venting rather than wanting advice but if anyone has thoughts I'd like to hear them. Please don't be rude.

girl chill 😭

aunt abby and uncle sam don't mind lol

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eu preciso desabafar. esse pride month no twitter tá rendendo porque a quantidade de lesbofobia que eu tô vendo tá inacreditável, mas esses aqui me pegaram bastante: pessoal ficou tão progressista que tão lutando pelo direito de incluir homens na lesbianidade, e só veem a gente como estética.

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lesbica é mulher (cis ou trans)/não-binário que se sente atração por mulheres (cis ou trans)/não-binários. eu até odeio quando vem com aquele papo "não-homens atraídos por não-homens" (genuinamente vai pra merda kk). eu sei que tem homens trans que se entendiam como lésbica antes de se entender como homem, e bom, você pode ter carinho pela comunidade, mas a partir do momento que você se identifica como homem, você não pode ser lésbica. é bem simples, não é "restrição". e ai tem esse pessoal nos últimos prints. só veem a gente como estética mesmo. como que você tem atração por homem e quer se chamar de lésbica? só porque a bandeira é bonita? essas merdas de bandeiras importam TANTO ASSIM? não que essas pessoas sejam responsáveis pela homofobia alheia, mas a gente já é acusada de ser lésbica porque não achou o homem certo, ou que a gente é amargurada com homem, e ai vem esse pessoal online tirar onda com a nossa sexualidade. 🙃

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eu sei que vai vir gente com papo sobre rótulos, mas genuinamente foda-se, por que vocês queem incluir homens na única sexualidade que nao é sobre eles? heterossexualidade/bissexualidade/panssexualidade tá ai pra isso, ou só seja unlabeled ou queer. podem até usar o termo "sáfica" também. só excluam lésbicas dessa bagunça (lembrei até que tem um tal de 'bi lesbians' kk 😃), e pelo amor de deus, ouçam a gente quando a gente fala que não gosta disso. não custa NADA. agora toda vez que uma lésbica reclama de alguma coisa, tão chamando elas de terf (existe lésbicas terfs sim, e merecem ser criticadas pela transfobia, mas agora tão chamando todas as lésbicas reclamando de lesbofobia de terf, tipo kk)

he still not nude tho 😡

also, i only need to finish the fishing part of community center too lol

the thing is, i wasn't even trying, i think i'm just so used to this game that i'm just quick now.