u/anon567126

Hi all!

I’ll keep this short and sweet. So my mom lent a friend $17,000 recently and he has just paid her back in cash. We’re trying to find a way to allocate the money into investments and are trying to do so with avoiding as many tax penalties as possible.

We’ve already decided that she will open and max out a Roth IRA (she’s 68), but we don’t know where to put the rest. Is this the right move? Can you recommend anything else?

For context we are in New York, she already has a 401k which she doesn’t take withdrawals from from her previous employer. She also gets about 26k in social security income yearly.

TIA

To keep a long story short my (28F) boyfriend (30M) has been struggling with depression for a very long time since he was a teenager. He ended up falling into bad habits like p*rn addiction and we*d but has since overcome them which I am very proud of.

The problem is we have been together for 4 years now, and from those 4 years, the last 2 have been incredibly difficult with his depression. He went to school for physical therapy, which if you didn’t know does not have a high ROI for the amount of student loans required. Because of this, he works 7 days a week. The first four days are ten hour shifts, and the last three are 8 hours and 2 6 hours. We try to make time for each other but it’s very difficult because during the week he is so tired that he just comes home and sleeps. This leads to him feeling like crap on the weekend, not cleaning his apartment, and feeling like he needs time for himself since all he did during the week was go straight to bed.

I don’t know what to do. The first two years of our relationship was wonderful because he was in school and worked part time doing some odd jobs but he had strict rigor and was able to have time for everything including us.

We get along well for the most part, I love him and he is my best friend, but I am out of options. He takes adder*ll and bupropion which were prescribed by a neurologist and not a proper psychiatrist and I have been begging him to see one for months now to get this re-evaluated. The problem is he kind of self diagnosed himself saying that he has ADHD and depression, and the doctor went with it.

I’m no psychiatrist but aren’t these meds made to work by giving you the energy boost that you need? It seems like it doesn’t work for him. Because of this we’ve broken up off and on, he’ll feel better for a little bit, we’ll get back together, and then we are back at square one. I decided I’m going to stop answering him completely and not feed into this cycle anymore. He says he loves me but is it wrong to use that as leverage? My ultimatum is going to be to speak to a real psychiatrist or go to therapy. Or I’m going bye bye.

I would really love some feedback, any medication recommendations, and if this sounds familiar to anyone who has gone through a similar situation. I am at a loss. I truly do love who he is when he isn’t depressed, but idk how to help him.

TLDR: F28 with a M30 boyfriend who feels good when he is in a routine for two weeks but one thing will throw him off into a depressive state. What to do?

Hi all!

I am precepting a new grad nurse and we were going over what happens during codes. We touched on ambu bags and “bagging” a patient that’s vented during a code. My question is, how would you best explain in depth why we choose to bag someone vs just keep them on a vent? I want to make sure she fully understands when it’s appropriate and when it’s not.

TIA