u/ashphodeldimixtry

I'm here to do an experiment. I've posted the same backstory ans question in both the trans ans detrans sub to see what they say. I've identified as a transgender man for 5 years and my mom thinks that I'm suffering from a different mental illness that is causing what i perceive as gender dysphoria. Imo she is wrong, i really believe that i am a man but she has asked me to question this so i am questioning. She thinks that the people supporting me are creating an echo chamber that doesn't allow me to question and just blindly supports. I'd like to go on hrt and i really believe i am a transgender man. Do you guys think that's possible? Or what can I do to question this. I feel like using hormones is the only way i will be happy. I want to be percieved as a man and whenever i am percieved that way I feel happy and euphoric as opposed to when i am percieved as a woman i feel revolted. And this is specifically to gender as well like i don't hate all of my body just mainly the feminine parts such as chest and voice, not even genitals honestly i don't mind them. Do you guys think i am trans and if not what issues could i explore that would explain the specific feelings about gender i have. I am genuinely looking for an answer here not just trolling or ragebait or anything like that. For some background i did experience trauma in the years leading up to my social transition including sexual trauma. I have a history of mental illness including depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, and self harm. I would even say i became addicted to self harm but have since stopped. I self harmed before and during my transition. I also have no one in my life particularly pressuring me to transition. I know many detransitioners had people trying to pressure them or convince them but i would say i don't have that. I came out to family and friends and they just did what i asked which was to use different pronouns and name. No friends, family, or therapist have specifically told me i should or have to transition, they have just told me to do what i think is right and will make me happy.I was always fairly masculine/neutral and never super girly. I also have supportive friends and some family. I go by a different name and he pronouns which make me happy. What are your thoughts? I am simply trying to get advice from both sides in order to get things that are biased different ways.

I'm not really sure why I'm here. I've identified as a transgender man for 5 years and my mom thinks that I'm suffering from a different mental illness that is causing what i perceive as gender dysphoria. Imo she is wrong, i really believe that i am a man but she has asked me to question this so i am questioning. She thinks that the people supporting me are creating an echo chamber that doesn't allow me to question so here i am in the sub that would probably question me the most. I'd like to go on hrt and i really believe i am a transgender man. Do you guys think that's possible? Or what can I do to question this. I feel like using hormones is the only way i will be happy. I want to be percieved as a man and whenever i am percieved that way I feel happy and euphoric as opposed to when i am percieved as a woman i feel revolted. And this is specifically to gender as well like i don't hate all of my body just mainly the feminine parts such as chest and voice, not even genitals honestly i don't mind them. Do you guys think i am trans and if not what issues could i explore that would explain the specific feelings about gender i have. I am genuinely looking for an answer here not just trolling or ragebait or anything like that. For some background i did experience trauma in the years leading up to my social transition including sexual trauma. I was always fairly masculine/neutral and never super girly. I also have supportive friends and some family. I go by a different name and he pronouns which make me happy. Honestly, i never questioned my gender after i came out as i felt happy identifying as a man but my mom would like me to do some questioning so i am doing so mostly to make her happy and not because i think it is necessary. Again these are my genuine thoughts and questions i dont mean to upset anyone. What are your thoughts?

Edit: i thought of more relevant info. I have a history of mental illness including depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, and self harm. I would even say i became addicted to self harm but have since stopped. I self harmed before and during my transition. I also have no one in my life particularly pressuring me to transition. I know many detransitioners had people trying to pressure them or convince them but i would say i don't have that. I came out to family and friends and they just did what i asked which was to use different pronouns and name. No friends, family, or therapist have specifically told me i should or have to transition, they have just told me to do what i think is right and will make me happy.

I 18 ftm am dating girlfriend 17f she has juvenile ra. She has really been struggling the last year and is in a lot of pain. Shes starting methotrexate soon and i have heard it can have nasty side effects. Ive already made her promise to tell me if shes feeling bad so shes not stuck like at an event in pain and we can leave early but what else can i do? I know it causes nausea and obv it will vary from person to person but I'm kind of stressed out and worried i won't be able to help as much. She also has a phobia of vomiting and being nauseous makes her anxious. Anyone have suggestions for support?

I (18 FTM) am dating my girlfriend (17 F) and have been for 2 years. She is extremely smart and driven and wants to be a doctor in the future. As such, she places extreme importance on academics and constantly compares herself to others. We're constantly having conversations where she tells me she doesn't feel like she is good enough, I point out the ways in which she is spectacular, and she just refutes me. I don't understand why we keep having the same conversation or how to help her understand that she is actually amazing and smart and has achieved a lot. For instance, today she was complaining that her SAT score was lower than everyone else's. I told her I was sorry and then tried to tell her that standardized tests are less important than being able to apply knowledge in real life, which she is very good at. This led to her refuting me and saying that she was still not good enough. I don't understand how to get her to stop comparing herself to others because it's all we talk about and while i want to help her it's kind of exhausting to have the same conversation over and over literally every single day. My question is, how can I get her to believe she is good enough/get her to lessen her comparisons to others?

Headed to Southern Junction tomorrow, I've followed them on insta for a long time so very excited. What are some must order items i should try to get?