I feel like having a community will make it easier to quit.

All I want is to be friends with people. I am 22M. I love talking to people and discussing stuff.

If I try getting a M friend, they are too busy with their GF.

If I try getting F friend, it's called dishonest to her relationship.

All friendships reduce down to acquaintances and it's lonely afterwards.

I don't want a relationship. I want friends. Im so confused and it gets worse as you age because people get married afterwards and this just makes it worse...

I sometimes seriously consider cutting ALL ties and be a hermit or something. Its unfortunate but I have grown a misanthrope after I figured out I was aroace and I feel like no relationship (romantic or platonic) is worthwhile.

From where I am from, it feels like theres no concept of actual friendship.

myquals: biotech engg around 9 cgpa, 93% in 10 and 12.

My parents are forcing me to write CAT and do MBA but I hate it.

I personally want to switch my branch completely and study core ECE. How do I make that switch? I don't understand how I will be able to do ECE in masters with no undergrad knowledge. Are there any cases like this?

I feel completely trapped after doing this engg branch. I need help escaping it. I hate biology too. I had no interest in this field but I had no other choice but to complete engg and now I am again being forced into something I don't like.

I find it's really rigid to change fields here. Does anyone else feel the same and how did you change fields? You HAVE to know what you are interested at 17 else it's too late always.

I'm thinking of doing online BSc in Electronics from IITM and then give GATE ECE for the switch.

If I try to masturbate with my imagination, all those years of porn pop up in my head. And it is just as bad.

What should I do? I abstained from PMO for a month but the porn memories are still not leaving. I thought of masturbating with imagination but it backfired and it felt just as bad as watching porn and I relapsed with asmr after that which tbh is just porn.

Idk what I should do. I just wanna recover from these shit thing that ruined my brain. Pls help :(

I'm asexual s pls don't suggest to get irl sex. It makes things even worse.

This is related to the recent hank green video on no effort is wasted.

I did a degree in biology and put a lot of effort in it only to realize I don't want to continue in it.

I want to do tech. But obv a biology grad can't get into the crazy tech market rn without having crazy skills. After getting rejected many times, you feel like you might think the effort is not wasted but the recruiters and society at large doesn't see the same way. It's slightly disheartening.

Sometimes I feel like all those year in biology were wasted tbh and I should have studied for tech roles instead.

For context, I am from India, 23M.

myquals: I did biotechnology engg but I know I hate biology but I was in a complicated situation back then and didn't have much options. I was actually a PCM student and was good at and loved maths but somehow ended up in this situation.

This has created severe identity crisis within me for years between the things I study, my career and what I actually want. It's really suffocating. And now my options are either moving further in biotech or MBA, both of which I hate.

I thought we did more math and calculations in engg, I was so eager to finally use a calculator in exam, but all we did was mug up random enzyme names meh... waste of 4 years and I am not able to get over it.

myquals: 23M, Biotech from a national institute of technology 3rd year, moving to 4th, 8.7 cgpa; 93% in 10th and 12th.

I don't like biology, only I know how hard it was to mug up this stuff all these years. After 12th everything messed up because I failed that one entrance exam.

Then my mental health was really terrible and my parents being angry on me sent me to some random no name college in tamil nadu as a form of punishment. There I thought I would study hard and mend my mistakes, and I got 9.3 cgpa in 1st sem, but in 2nd sem I had less than 75% attendance so they detained me for the whole year.

I had written Joint Entrance Examination again as a backup so I dropped that college and went with any college any branch I can get to run away from that college. Sigh. My mental health was even worse now.

And by 2nd sem of this college I got to know that I hate this branch. But I was at no position to say this to parents so I just endured the branch.

I did a bit of programming on the side (loved it) but nothing crazy to get a tech job in this market. I was very active in robotics society too and I absolutely loved that actual engineering and builing stuff up part. Unfortunately none of that was in my branch biotech and we did the same 2 experiments for 3 years in college.

Now I am completely confused. I will prepare for non-tech profiles as I have to get a job and some financial freedom, but this is not what I truly want. I actually am not sure what I truly want tbh, never explored anything deeply and always too scared to make a move since I failed Joint Entrance Examination.

I am still very scared and stressed because I am getting too old for many competitive exams in India. Like my father who is in army was suggesting me CDS and that has an age limit of 25. So I have only 1 attempt left. I don't wanna go into defence.

I have very high social anxiety and I hate talking to people, so I know I can't be good at MBA. Like I find CAT questions fun, but I can't stand the culture of MBA colleges. And I am a GEM too.

I don't wanna do government job either because there is no growth in it and it's very stagnant. I want something where there is growth proportional to the efforts you put in.

And I also don't wanna do academia or biotech research. There is no money in that and my parents won't support my education anymore. And I don't like being financially constraint under my parents.

Obviously I am again not in a position be choosy about all this, but I know for me (and almost everyone else) financial freedom is top most priority. Rest are the just preferences.

What options are left for me? I getting too old for Indian standards.

All I want is time to get good at useful skills so that I don't have to do stupid jobs that exploit the fuck out of me, but I can't find time for them after these jobs take all my time and energy...

What can I do, I am feeling really trapped and frustrated and regretful that I didn't study hard in my youth.

How do people get out of this situation? It feels like quick sand dragging you down slowly.

I am from a third world country. I'm 23M. I work at an MNC because I didn't get job anywhere else.

Working hours are really bad, around 10-11 hours, Mon - Sat. I really hate it. You can't do anything outside company work during company hours. I tried switching jobs but the job market is fucked up here. I had a similar job earlier but there it was even worse timing where we had to be on dumb meeting till 2am in the morning, they don't want you to have any life.

After that I sleep for 7-8 hours, that is around 19 hours gone with only 5 hours for myself. In that I need to do chores and look after my parents sometimes because they are gettings old.

I want time to explore my interests, and then study for it. What should I do? I am getting really depressed.....

Any realistic advice is appreciated, my brain just isn't able to figure out a way.

myquals: biotech in a National Institute of Technology, 8.7 cpga, 6th sem; 93% in 10th and 12th

I don't like this field and don't wanna continue in it. I am really confused about my life. Right now I am just focusing on getting any corporate role like product analyst or whatever. I will work for a few years there ig.

I know I have no interest in doing an MBA or writing govt exams. But idk what options are left for me then?

And I am getting really old too, I am going to be 23 this year, I am slightly older than my peers in college because of late admission in school is common from where I am from.

Sorry for posting this again but I am really confused about my life. I even went to 2 career counselors recently but they weren't of much help as they just linked me to some unis they had connections with.

myquals: biotech in a National Institute of Technology, 8.7 cpga, 6th sem; 93% in 10th and 12th

I don't like this field and don't wanna work in it. In my college they didn't teach anything useful, and we did like the same 2 experiments for 3 years. Feels like I have completely wasted my 3 years without learning anything new.

I am really confused on what I should do now...

My parents are saying to give CAT and do MBA but I am really against it, I have no interest in that. I am not interested in govt jobs either.

I am really interested in engineering but more like ECE and CSE, I was really active in my college's robotics society and loved studying different subjects but I always have imposter syndrome while studying CSE because my branch is not that. And my basics are reallly weak in these fields as I don't have formal education in it.

I did gave GATE CSE this year, but only scored like 45, which is nothing in CSE.

I honestly wish I chose CSE or ECE in undergrad because that would have let me study something I was interested in. But I didn't know my interests back then, and now I am not sure if I should pursue them...

I am always wondering if it's possible to be really good at something as an adult? The more I see it, the more I feel like the top 10% of any field are people who started early on as a child and spent all their time towards the field.

As an adult it's very difficult to find long hours of time for a field if you wanna also juggle family, relationships and other obligations. Kinda sucks. Or do you have to sacrifice all this to finally be able do what you want?

I am just exploring my interests now as I was never allowed to explore it as child or teen. And I feel like family and socialising is just becoming a waste of my limited time after work, so I have completely stopped doing it. Is it fine if I do that?

I just don't understand how to juggle both of these, the obligations that comes with being an adult and your own pursuit and exploration of interests, all with a day job that takes like 10 hours minimum daily.

I feel like anything that you can learn online or do digitally is a threat from AI. You can't learn doing trades online and that's why it's safe from AI. But I live in a developing country where there are no good resources for learning in real life (we don't have trade school or community college) and that's why I used to learn stuff online for career like tech and data analysis but those are getting the hit the worst.

What fields should I focus on now that I can learn from great teachers online?

I really don't care about sex, but I have a hard time admitting it to anyone.

I am made fun of whenever I do. It's almost as if I am forced to be sad because I am not sad about it.

I know I am not mature enough to completely disregard the opinions of others. I seek validation too, prolly that's why I creating this post.

My reasoning is simple, I just care for things other than sex. And when I say this, they make fun of me for being a virgin. How do I explain to them that I have certain things in life that I care way way way more than sex.

With other things that people make fun, I do understand the reasoning behind it. Like if you have no money, you will have a hard time living. And if you are obese, again it will affect your life. But sex, I don't get the point of poking fun? That's their own personal preference and beliefs. I don't know why people say lack of it makes you "undesirable", undesirable by what standards? Why does those standards even matter? Everyone has their own standards. I don't get people.

People are so weird, they have an answer to both the scenarios.
If you don't want sex and if you are virgin, they say "it's because you can't get it"
Else if you are not a virgin, they say "it's becaue you already had it, so your opinion doesn't matter".

Sigh. I am sorry for the rant, as I said, I want to feel validated too. I am not harming anyone, this is just my own personal thoughts on the matter. I have NO ONE irl where I can share this to. I am from a part of world where I don't think people even understand asexuality and stuff.

I was never allowed to explore any interests since childhood, it was only studying for exams and stuff, so that one day a foreign MNC can exploit me?

I am so paranoid all the time. I don't get any time to explore my interests. I calm myself down, but the truth is I still don't have any time for exploration after 11 hours shifts. My life is dedicated to the company basically and they know how fucked up the job market here in India is, so the exploit the living fuck out of you.

I am really ambitious, and I wanna pour all my time into something, but I don't even know what that something is. It sure as hell is not making money for some CEO.

myquals: 3rd year Btech biotech from NIT 8.76 cgpa; 93% in 10th and 12;

After 12th I went to a local tamil nadu college for Btech CSE but because of language barrier and heavy bullying from locals I haphazardly wrote JEE again and took any NIT any branch.

But I hate this branch so much, I somehow pushed through it and it was very suffocating but I didn't learn anything important.

And now I feel like I have wasted the last 4-5 years over nothing. Recently met my school friends and they have actively worked towards a proper career and I am still clueless.

Even after getting all these useless marks and punishing myself through biology ( I am from PCM background ), my parents are ashamed of me and my career prospects.

They are just pushing me to do any job atp and are telling me to do MBA which I absolutely don't want to do.

I used to like to study a lot but all these situations like failing JEE and then that college and then this branch just messed up my college education and I feel like I don't have any opportunity left to have proper education now.

I don't wanna do random jobs all my life. But looking at my trajectory I only see that.

I want to have a proper career towards something. Yk traditional role titles like being a doctor, being a lawyer etc etc. I don't know what I am doing, I work at an MNC, and I am not even sure what my work can be classified as. Make spreadsheets? That's not a real career.

How do I explore actual career? I feel so meaningless. I feel like I am getting too old for this. Atleast in my country you are not allowed in many colleges after an age limit.

Hi, I am 22, soon to be 23M. I need a friend to practice speaking English with. We can vc on discord about anything (sfw). I like programming, indie games and documentaries. I like to draw sometimes too.

Hi, I am 22, soon to be 23M. I need a friend to practice speaking English with. We can vc on discord about anything (sfw). I like programming, indie games and documentaries. I like to draw sometimes too.

People say it's healthy to masturbate, but I have always masturbated with porn, so I don't know how the former works without porn.

I tried imagination but I feel worse trying to imagine intimacy with people I know because porn has completely and utterly ruined my perception of sex.

My perception of woman and sex has ruined so much, and I hate it so much. All my friends are porn addict too, it's so normalised here. I hate it.

I have this little voice inside me that tells me all my perceptions are so wrong, but I don't really know otherwise.