Hello! My hysterectomy (ovaries preservation) was 3 months ago. Does anyone still get menstrual cramps? I thought it would go away but I just got one for 2 minutes today. Apparently hormones can cause it to happen. I thought if you removed the uterus it wouldn't cramp lol. I don't notice any other changes.
Forgive my ignorance, I downloaded these from the PS app. They don't look as great downloaded on my phone. But this game is incredible. I bought it for $10
Hello, first time poster on this sub. I searched this question but was unable to share my experience so I wanted to make a new post to see if anyone wanted to share theirs too. Last time this was asked was a year ago so I hope it's welcome and we can find it useful.
I spent most of my time on the internet, teaching myself to cook, clean, basic stuff. My parents did not know what many things were. My mother didn't work and expected my father to take care of all of us. He worked labor jobs and did not know what a 401k was. Had no retirement funds. When he medically had to leave his job at age 60 of course I was expected to pay all the bills and did for maybe a year before I finally was able to move out.
I was taught how to drive by my father so I could go to work, but not taught much by my mother. She fed me until I could feed myself, then I made canned stuff. The microwave was my friend lol. I stayed in my room most of the time. Father was busy working a lot and would get agitated when I asked him to teach me stuff (change tire). I was always bothersome.
I fully believe that a lot of parents are not equipped to have a kid. I pride myself in everything that I have taught myself but some times I still wish that I had a parent to confide in that would understand things.
I wanted to hear your experiences as well.
Anyone not around kids much? I hear them all the time in public but I'm not so close to them in an enclosed space. I was helping my fiance take the dogs to the vet and this little girl ran in the middle of the room and starting crying at the top of her lungs. I couldn't hear my fiance speak right beside of me. I just can't believe how loud they are. I'm not around kids and do my best to avoid them because they disrupt conversation.
At work this morning my customer was talking about his 2 kids going off to college and he said "they don't tell you how expensive they are. First you're buying diapers, next it's college"
Who has to tell someone that? I think most people just want to get in relationships and start the next big thing, have a family, and complain about responsibilities without taking responsibility for themselves and how they got there. Funny how that works.
Most people have kids. Most people participate in the lifelong commitment of having kids. It's kind of weird to think about and I'm thankful I never wanted any. I don't have to get up at 2 am and change a diaper, feed the baby, rock it back to sleep. I don't have to worry about the health of a child every day. I don't have to buy formula or diapers. Life isn't perfect but I feel like having kids is putting life on nightmare mode and why would anyone do that? Most people that come in my work are sighing, acting annoyed, shushing their kids, yelling, threatening them to behave, etc.
Most people sacrifice decades of their life to raise kids (esp women). It doesn't sound enjoyable at all. I can drive to another state or out of city restaurant at a whim. Getting ready doesn't turn into half an hour of fussing just to go pick up shampoo or some bullshit. And imagine having a long day at work to come home to more work and then nightshift work
I would hang myself on my front porch.
Hello, wanted to share some thoughts.
Why is the default life starting a family and having kids? Biological drives? A feeling or urge based on hormones, motivation, and neurobiology in your brain? Neurochemicals like dopamine, caring for others releases oxytocin, etc. What makes that different than yearning for anything else or taking care of pets? What part of the body makes you want to pass on your genes for human survival? Sexual drive?
I feel like the human body has neurochemical and hormonal reasons for wanting kids, and there are social aspects to having kids, but I also feel like we are intelligent enough to be able to decide for ourselves what we want to do with our lives.
I'm happy living life with my fiance and dog and doing what I want to do all day. Enjoying your life should be default.
Edit: Thank you for the help :)
Hello, I work as a teller for my local CU and I get called ma'am probably 5 times a day. I work in Alabama and people say they're use to having women tellers. I think I can trust that lol. I don't get misgendered anywhere else. Having a male teller is rare in the branches and departments I've worked in.
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Pictures are a mix of different ages.
First 2 pics are recent, I'm 20 lbs overweight. 3rd and 4th pics are young 20s. I'm 28 now. Last 2 pics are random I think like 3 or 4 yrs ago.
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Hello, first time coming across this sub. I searched a bit and didn't see a post where everyone shared why they do not want to marry or how they view marriage. So I wanted to post and ask if anyone has anything to share.
What are some reasons you don't want to marry? I have many reasons but also "because I don't want to" sums it up best lol.
Has anyone had a friendship for decades that did a complete 180 on kids?
Personal story below, you do not have to read. You can just tell me your story in the comments :)
I've known my longest friend for almost 2 decades, since middle school. She was so die-hard childfree. She use to get pissed off when people would bingo her and tell her she'll change her mind.
She met her current fiance and now they are wanting kids together.
Fine, it's ok to change your mind.
A lot of other stuff changed with her too. She was not religious and would say that she would never date someone religious. She's now religious.
Fine, too. I would have supported her anyways.
She stopped talking to me after she moved, after multiple attempts from me. The conversation wouldn't get further than a few sentences then she wouldn't respond. I attempted maybe 3-5 times over the span of two years after her move. Deleted her off of everything a few months ago.
We can't protect ourselves from losing friends. I would have lost her eventually because she definitely wouldn't reply once she started having kids lol.
Hello. I had robotic laproscopic hysto with ovaries preservation earlier. I've never had this much trouble with surgery before lol. The immediate urge to lay down and I've never moaned in distress before even after my last major surgery 😂 This hits different. I keep waking every 30 mins to an hour to pee since I was instructed to have Gatorade and water 2 hours prior to surgery. And fluids during surgery. Fatigue and vomiting are pretty bad. But I held down half a banana with pain meds. I don't feel loopy like I thought I would. That's a good thing
Here's to a future with no more pap smears (likely but some doctors may want one when older apparently) and definitely no more periods.
I don't want to discourage anyone but I just want you to be aware that this is a major internal surgery and to be prepared and follow surgeon orders closely :)