u/avancla

I (F30) did a lot of things in regards of my sexuality when I was younger (17-21) to cope with my bpd and I fear I’m damaged goods and no one will ever love and chose me because of it. I feel like the moment men hear about my past they instantly put me in a category and see me as a whore, even if I haven’t participated in hooking up for over 10 years and have been to therapy. Has anybody had a similar experience ? And how did you deal with it ?

I posted something in another community on Reddit and got a lot of hate for it. It definitely triggered something in me and I’m currently spiraling heavily. Why do people attack others so much when their views and believes are different ? Why can’t we just all live the way we want and not get judged for it? I come more and more to the conclusion that I need to stay alone and away from people if I don’t constantly want to get hurt 😔😔

I (F30) am absolutely going through it in the last couple of weeks and I really need somebody to talk to 😭

my mother was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder last year while she was in therapy. It was a special program that went on for 8 weeks and
since then she is constantly complaining about it. About how that’s not true, that they don’t really know her, don’t really see her and so on. She even went to extreme lengths and tried to sue them for giving her the wrong diagnosis.
I asked her what exactly made them give her the diagnosis and she told me it was her keeping to herself while still wanting access keep everything and everybody and the fact that she constantly plays the therapist in group therapy, so the point that she gives advice to others without them asking.
When she brings this up I can’t agree with her and give her feedback by telling her, that this is also how I see her and I’ve know her for 33 years not 8 weeks.
She is incredibly invasive and crosses boundaries non stop. She said she doesn’t see it like that and she feels it’s unfair, because all she ever wants to do is help.

She does want to help and when she sees somebody that’s in need, she will swoop in and help, not even asking if the person wants the help. Every time she comes to me I try to make her see that her behavior is not okay and that she can’t be mad when everybody else sees it and she doesn’t and every time the discussion ends in an argument which leaves me exhausted.

I have bpd (which I heard is often the case with mother-daughter dynamics in which the mother is a narc) and one thing I struggle with is black and white I don’t know if my thoughts on her being a narcissist are ‘real’ or if it’s just me splitting again… So am I at fault for the constant arguments ? Did I say something that’s not okay and she reacts because of me ? I’m really struggling with this and maybe I can get advice from someone…
Thank you in advance 🫶🏻

Hello fellow BPD’s :)

I have trouble with figuring out if I’m just splitting on somebody or if that somebody really has bad behavior/is a bad person.
How can I spot the difference?
Any advice is appreciated 🫶🏻