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“What do you mean, you have paralysis? Stop being lazy and just walk like everyone else”

“It seems like every other person is in a wheelchair nowadays, it doesn’t mean anything anymore. Everyone’s legs get tired sometimes, it’s normal”

“I think this whole paralysis thing is bullshit. You’re just not trying hard enough and looking for an excuse not to walk”

“Everyone is a little paralysed, I definitely get tired and want to sit down sometimes. But I don’t have any problems walking around when it’s important, so neither should you”

“You’re just choosing not to walk, because you can’t be bothered. You could walk if you really wanted to and just put some effort in”

“You say you need a mobility aid, but I’ve seen you do some tasks perfectly fine without it, so you obviously don’t need it at all”

“It’s ridiculous seeing all these mobility aids in schools, we didn’t have all that back when I was in school. It’s a distraction from learning”

“The reality is that in this world, you need to walk if you want to get anywhere. So you’re just going to have to deal with it and walk, whether you like it or not”

“Back in my day, we didn’t have all these “physical conditions”. There were no wheelchairs or crutches, people just got on with it. Nowadays they label kids with these made up conditions like “paralysis”, so they don’t even try to walk”

(Yes, I am absolutely aware that variations of these do get said to people with physical disabilities too! Especially those with invisible disabilities or fluctuating symptoms. The main analogy here is with physical disabilities involving paraplegia/quadriplegia etc, but the message is relevant to the way people with many different conditions get treated, including but not limited to neurodevelopmental disabilities such as autism and ADHD).

Basically I have had unexplained amenorrhea (no periods) for years, and after multiple blood tests to find out what is actually going on, the doctors discovered I have low LH, FSH & estradiol. But they haven’t determined exactly what condition is causing this yet. I will be having more blood tests soon, hopefully to figure out the exact cause (I also asked them to check my testosterone levels, which they are going to do). The issue is, in order to maintain stuff like my bone health (which is already suffering from this deficiency), they want to put me on “female” HRT. Ie, estrogen. I suffer a lot with dysphoria and can’t really think of much worse than actively putting more estrogen in my body. But at the same time, I don’t want my physical health to decline.

I always wanted to start low dose T and basically have an androgynous balance of hormones, which I’ve heard is totally possible for non-binary people, but I haven’t actually started that process yet. And I don’t know how to bring this up to my endocrinologist, who assumes I’m a typical cis woman, and doesn’t know about my gender identity/dysphoria. Since I essentially have a deficiency of hormones in general, I guess I wouldn’t mind taking certain dose of E for health reasons as long as I could also take T to balance it out. As I only ever wanted to take a low dose of T anyway. But I don’t know if a typical medical endocrinologist will prescribe anything related to being trans, and I don’t know how a trans-focused endocrinologist would approach a case like mine.

Really not sure what to do. Do I bring up my dysphoria/intention to start T with my endocrinologist and see what they say? Do I just start the “female” HRT then seek out T separately with a trans specific provider once I have “normal female” levels, and just deal with the inevitable dysphoria that’s gonna bring until I can start T? Do I go straight to a trans specific provider and see if they can sort out my situation? I’m in the UK, for context. I know my situation is rare, but I’m just looking for any advice at all, from anyone who might be able to advice on how these systems work and what might be the best approach. Thanks.

Basically I have had unexplained amenorrhea (no periods) for years, and after multiple blood tests to find out what is actually going on, the doctors discovered I have low LH, FSH & estradiol. But they haven’t determined exactly what condition is causing this yet. I will be having more blood tests soon, hopefully to figure out the exact cause (I also asked them to check my testosterone levels, which they are going to do). The issue is, in order to maintain stuff like my bone health (which is already suffering from this deficiency), they want to put me on “female” HRT. Ie, estrogen. I suffer a lot with dysphoria and can’t really think of much worse than actively putting more estrogen in my body. But at the same time, I don’t want my physical health to decline.

I always wanted to start low dose T and basically have an androgynous balance of hormones, which I’ve heard is totally possible for non-binary people, but I haven’t actually started that process yet. And I don’t know how to bring this up to my endocrinologist, who assumes I’m a typical cis woman, and doesn’t know about my gender identity/dysphoria. Since I essentially have a deficiency of hormones in general, I guess I wouldn’t mind taking certain dose of E for health reasons as long as I could also take T to balance it out. As I only ever wanted to take a low dose of T anyway. But I don’t know if a typical medical endocrinologist will prescribe anything related to being trans, and I don’t know how a trans-focused endocrinologist would approach a case like mine.

Really not sure what to do. Do I bring up my dysphoria/intention to start T with my endocrinologist and see what they say? Do I just start the “female” HRT then seek out T separately with a trans specific provider once I have “normal female” levels, and just deal with the inevitable dysphoria that’s gonna bring until I can start T? Do I go straight to a trans specific provider and see if they can sort out my situation? I’m in the UK, for context. I know my situation is rare, but I’m just looking for any advice at all, from anyone who might be able to advice on how these systems work and what might be the best approach. Thanks.

Hey guys,

I may possibly be moving to the Isle of Wight soon, and I’m wondering what RM delivery is like there. Should I expect delays? For services like Tracked 24, can I expect it to be typically next day delivery like it is on the mainland, or should I expect it to take 1-2 extra days? Similarly with Tracked 48, would it be 4+ days instead of 2-3 days? And with special delivery, will RM still guarantee next day delivery to the Isle of Wight, or is it outside of the postcode area that’s guaranteed next day delivery? How does being on the island affect delivery times? Does anyone live on the island, and what are your experiences with RM delivery?

Thank you 🙂🙏🏼

Firstly, this is a question out of genuine curiosity and desire to understand more, not a criticism of any kind. I respect everyone’s right to use whichever pronouns they prefer and will always do my best to honour that. As a non-binary person myself (who uses they/them) I fully understand the importance of respecting pronoun preferences. However, I am curious to know: what is the motivation behind using neopronouns, such as xe/xir, ze/hir, ey/em, fae/faer, etc, or nouns used as pronouns like bun/bunself or star/starself etc, instead of simply using the more well known and already grammatically correct neutral option, they/them?

If you use neopronouns instead of (or in addition to) they/them, why? Is it because you don’t feel that “they/them” fully describes/represents your identity? Is it because you don’t like how it sounds, or because it isn’t always clear whether it’s referring to one person or multiple people? Another reason? I’m interested to hear what people have to say, particularly those who personally use neopronouns. Thanks for your input 🙂

Hi guys, I had a Tracked 24 parcel due to arrive on Saturday 13/6 (yesterday), earlier that morning the tracking showed “ready for delivery” and that they would attempt to deliver it today, but it’s since been marked as “delivered” on the tracking even though I haven’t received it. It’s a large letter (small padded envelope) sized item that would almost certainly fit through the letterbox, and I was in all day, so it’s not like no one was here to collect it - it just wasn’t delivered.

What makes it weird is that earlier in the morning, I had another, separate parcel delivered by RM. This one was also due to be delivered today, I assumed they would come together. But no, just the one parcel was left outside the door (this was a larger one, too big for the letterbox). This was delivered by my regular postie at around 9:40am, and was definitely the only thing delivered at that time. I even checked the tracking for the second package after receiving the first one, and at that time it still said “ready for delivery”.

At about 10:20am the tracking for the second package updated to “delivered”, but nothing arrived, not even later in the day. I have checked with others in my house and with nearby neighbours, none of them have received it. For this second package to be marked “delivered” about 40 minutes later, I’m assuming it either went out on a second round, maybe by a different postie who isn’t familiar with the houses around here (although it hasn’t been delivered to any of the neighbours I’ve checked with so idk), and/or it’s been mistakenly scanned as delivered but not actually delivered, for whatever reason. The regular postie knows the houses round here well and would be very unlikely to deliver it to the wrong one, and there’s no actual evidence to suggest a second round of deliveries took place except for the timing of this weird delivery scan.

Additionally, the “proof of delivery” photo provided doesn’t show much and appears to have been taken inside a vehicle - you can see what looks like part of a vehicle windscreen, some other cars on the road etc, I can’t be sure but I don’t think it’s my road. There is no package, door, or anything else in this photo to suggest anything was delivered anywhere.

I’m just wondering what has happened to my package, as it seems to not have been delivered today at all. Is it likely that this was just a scanning error (particularly as the “delivery” photo doesn’t show it actually being delivered anywhere), it wasn’t delivered today for whatever reason, and it might show up on Monday? I haven’t had this happen with RM before (although weirdly I have had it with Amazon - parcel marked as delivered but not arrived - I complained to them, they sent a replacement for free, then they both showed up). So I guess this can happen… what do you think? Thanks for your help 🙏🏼