u/beepsmcgee

We are genuine friends but when conversation continued after lunch, he laid out his proposition and painted a nice, stable life together. He even pointed out I’ve kinda been waiting for my life to begin. And all he needs is the woman he wants in his life.

But we ended up agreeing to revisit this in 5 years.

Emotionally I do feel companionable and compatible but I also just feel way too young for him. He’s 44 and I’m 30.

We talked about stances on adoption, mental health, church, positions on spanking/discipline, all sorts of things, comfortably, and I enjoy that.

I didn’t voice this last part obviously, but I’m duly worried about what my family and friends would say. I’m a people pleaser at heart and optics do matter to me. Though FWIW, he’s not bad looking, and maybe it would be worse if he were really good looking actually.

I do feel like people will care less in 5 years. And maybe he and I would each find our people and that would be that. We would still be friends.

What are your thoughts about this? What’s going through a guy’s head when he says, “You should think about dating me”?

I wasn’t exposed to evolutionary theory much till college and even then only learned about population biology. Now I have to learn more about it for the biology CLEP. Speciation makes solid sense to me (I’m mostly self-educating through YouTube) but having not deeply studied common ancestry, I don’t really get it. I know that it’s commonly accepted based on evidence, but I’m trying to grapple with it myself as well. Anybody go through a similar reckoning?

Edit: thanks everyone for the resources 🥰

Every time I get excited over an opportunity, my brain works in overdrive to help me pursue that opportunity. How do I calm down and be diligent every day rather than trying to accomplish my task in a manic fashion? Does anyone relate to this?

I’m very stable right now, but sometimes I worry about myself when I’m like this.

I’m stable and I’m going to see both in the near future for scheduled appointments unrelated to weight gain. But which handles GLP-1s? Does it come down to insurance?

Just tired of weight gain. When I was off meds for 7 months I lost it but quickly learned that wasn’t the way to go.

Is there anything with rosehip, argan, and coconut that is similar to Briogeo Farewell Frizz? Obviously formulation matters, but what do you think makes this stuff unique? Or did anyone have a similar experience with this product? … With the shampoo and conditioner of that product my hair was amazing!

I’ve tried so many different average-price products since then and I can’t find one that works as well for me. I’ve shopped at Marshalls and TJ Maxx for discounted salon products and found moderate success. Just can’t help lamenting that my hair feels so mediocre without the one I mentioned, but it’s just not budget friendly.

Was originally going to ask r/HaircareScience but thought this was the more appropriate sub