Welp... You're a child now.
"I will not call you your new name, but I will try to not call you [dead name]"
"You have been [deadname] to me your entire life and that's not going to change."
-Grandmother after asking her to call me by my name, not my deadname
Could be worse but still...
She's thinking with her emotions and not logic. And admitted that. So, I guess it's time to start treating her like a child, because adults should have their judgment clouded by emotions.
Edit: She says this is a compromise for both of us. I didn't realize asking for being treated with basic respect needed to be a compromise.
Edit|Edit: I want to stay in touch with her because "I need to appreciate the time we have left together."
But I would rather my memory of her be filled with happy memories, not the negative ones that we are making now. I'd rather remember her as a force of good, not bigotry.