u/cherriquizzical

It’s annoying! Years ago when I started learning about my own hair I also learned that I have very silky, feathery, coily strands but I need to moisturize and seal It daily or even every other day. My hair feels best and most healthy when I use heavy butters and seal with oils/serums. I saw the most progress when I did this while washing it once a week. This all came to a standstill when the mass hystera surrounding sulfates began, and companies started to remove them from their formulations.

The shampoo that I used to use is no longer in production, so ive been looking to find something with a similar formulation and it’s just been so frustrating because everything is sulfate free, silicone free, organic, all vegan or whatever but my hair really does love the “bad” ingredients. When I tried to go all natural my hair was very dry with lots of breakage. I wish we could stop this no sulfate nonsense 😩

I got my hair braided a few days ago and for 90% of the pack I soaked in acv to get rid of the irritants but it’s still bothering my scalp. I couldn’t soak the whole thing due to the fact that the container was way smaller than I thought it would be and I figured I wouldn’t need too much. I was sadly mistaken. It’s not overbearingly irritating, but it’s annoying and I had a similar reaction years ago which led to severe hair shedding and loss, so Ive been alternating between using scalp serum + cooling massage oil and benadryl cream. I will never buy from that brand ever again. Does anyone have any recommendations?

It hit me. It finally hit me.
He was embarrassed to be seen with me.

We were friends with eachother…..and he was really nice to me before we tried the whole going out thing. I really thought he would’ve been fun to be around. Then, we went on two dates and it’s like a switch flipped, he still sought attention from me, yet began making all of these excuses to not go out again and to tell me how wrong I was just for existing and being myself all the time. One time, I was on the phone with him while at the supermarket, and he got triggered and angry at me due to the fact that I went to a cashier that time instead of using self checkout. I was extremely confused at his anger, especially since, because I’ve been there myself, I treat all retail workers and servers with respect and tip generously most of the time.
It was such a bizarre thing to get angry at, that I was convinced he just wanted to pick a fight to see how I’d react to it. I did not believe it was real.

Until……He planned amother date, ghosted me on the day of the date only to tell me the next day that he ghosted me because he was too high to come. Sorry, I’m not stupid. Smoking a fat blunt does not disable you to the point where you ghost someone for hours after making important plans, and then respond the following day with “hehe was too high sorry”.

When I confronted him, he of course blamed me. He told me that I should stop dressing up when we go out because too many people stare. That’s when it hit me. He was embarrassed. He was embarrassed of me, ashamed of me, and embarrassed to be seen outside with me. Shortly after, I told him it won’t work out. Then I blocked him. It hurt so bad. But I deserve more than someone who would see me as a burden to them.

As title states.

Does anyone here have good experiences with matchmaking services? I’m thinking of giving it a try.

I’ve genuinely given up on trying anymore.
Our generation (Zillennials) are beyond saving. We complain that we’re in a loneliness epidemic, which yes it’s true. The third place is no longer existent and wages are awful. In spite of this, I still believe that it is partially our own fault that we are mostly friendless and single. I’ve made a lot of effort within the past year to maintain already existing friendships, develop relationships with acquaintances, and to even make new ones.

We are antisocial and bad at communicating

Post covid, we have gotten even worse, for the past 5 years, I’ve noticed that people are ruder than before.

9/10 times when I’ve tried to make plans with a girl friend it fell through, I‘d be ghosted, and no one has the decency to say ”sorry I can’t today”. Just radio silence. I have up so many boundaries now because of this.

Romantic relationships are even worse. At one point I downloaded hinge for one day, then deleted it on the same day. The disrespect was off the charts there.