u/club_frenzy

I've been talking to a girl. Actually, dating for a while. She's from hyderabad, but visiting guntur this weekend. She's into cafes and restaurants and I'm a trekking, sports type hangout kinda guy. I basically want recommendations. May not be up to par with her hyderabad level aesthetic, but something even a little bit impressive. Or should we go for a movie instead? Or take her somewhere in vijayawada maybe? Please suggest something.

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I met a beautiful girl in late 2024 at a networking event in Hyderabad, after my graduation. Later found out we stayed in the same PG. We started talking, just as friends. I was going through a bad breakup at that time (the relationship got extremely toxic and I broke up and blocked my ex). My ex sent me emails, called from different numbers, kind of abusive and all. This girl helped me go through it all. This girl also came out of a long term toxic relationship. At that time, I had decided and also casually told her that I would never date anyone to marry, I would genuinely never even marry and all that stuff (I still am that way). Even though I was upfront about my preferences, I managed to go out on dates. She sometimes even helped me go on dates with other girls as my wing girl. Our circle got bigger as her friend group and mine merged because of our friendship.

I seek peace. I would say "sorry, you are right" and walk away even when the other person has wrong views. But I love deep conversations, only when the other person can understand different perspectives and can express well. She's perfect in that aspect. She's deep, so deep for my heart to not melt lol. No discussion of ours turns into an argument even if we completely disagree on something. I respect such people. Though I started liking her, I didn't go through with that for a reason. But our dynamic had gradually shifted into platonic flirting. And.... we started dating. Nothing too serious, we've let each other know we like each other and just decided to see where it takes us.

She works at a big tech company and earns a lot. I used to just waste my money on useless courses and was basically aavaara. She encouraged me to build my portfolio and apply for jobs. She guided me to practicality when I was wandering in creative freedom seeking mindset. Even though now I work remotely at a startup, doing multiple things at once in that company, it's so fun. I'm thankful to her for that.

I moved back to my native city in January to take care of a dumb property dispute in my mom's side of the family. But I'm still here after it because I work remotely and got a bit comfortable at home lol. Five days ago, she told me she's moving to Canada to work for the company she's in. >!Surprisingly, it brought me relief, even though I like her. Even I was shocked by the way I felt. She's perfect lifelong partner material. Anyone would say I am fumbling.!<

She's coming to visit this weekend, to meet me once before she leaves for Canada. The city I am in doesn't have many places worth visiting. She just told me the city doesn't seem bad for a one-day visit. She's going to drive alone for around 300 kilometers just to meet me! She's someone who likes me for who I am. I got nothing written on me that says "stable" lol. Quite the opposite actually. She earns a lot and she even comes from money. Her family is well off, if not rich. Her family is quite liberal. I've visited them several times. >!She says she'll come to India in a few months just to visit me again. She hasn't even gone to Canada yet, and still planning to visit me again! I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her. I feel terrible.!<

>!Reason for my dilemma: I am 22 now and will turn 23 next month. She turned 30 four months ago. We were talking one day around the middle of last year, and I told her "You check all my boxes, I would've definitely dated you if I was older." She looked me deep in the eyes and asked "What's stopping you now?" That's how it started.!<

I met a beautiful girl in late 2024 at a networking event in Hyderabad, after my graduation. Later found out we stayed in the same PG. We started talking, just as friends. I was going through a bad breakup at that time (the relationship got extremely toxic and I broke up and blocked my ex). My ex sent me emails, called from different numbers, kind of abusive and all. This girl helped me go through it all. This girl also came out of a long term toxic relationship. At that time, I had decided and also casually told her that I would never date anyone to marry, I would genuinely never even marry and all that stuff (I still am that way). Even though I was upfront about my preferences, I managed to go out on dates. She sometimes even helped me go on dates with other girls as my wing girl. Our circle got bigger as her friend group and mine merged because of our friendship.

I seek peace. I would say "sorry, you are right" and walk away even when the other person has wrong views. But I love deep conversations, only when the other person can understand different perspectives and can express well. She's perfect in that aspect. She's deep, so deep for my heart to not melt lol. No discussion of ours turns into an argument even if we completely disagree on something. I respect such people. Though I started liking her, I didn't go through with that for a reason. But our dynamic had gradually shifted into platonic flirting. And.... we started dating. Nothing too serious, we've let each other know we like each other and just decided to see where it takes us.

She works at a big tech company and earns a lot. I used to just waste my money on useless courses and was basically aavaara. She encouraged me to build my portfolio and apply for jobs. She guided me to practicality when I was wandering in creative freedom seeking mindset. Even though now I work remotely at a startup, doing multiple things at once in that company, it's so fun. I'm thankful to her for that.

I moved back to my native city in January to take care of a dumb property dispute in my mom's side of the family. But I'm still here after it because I work remotely and got a bit comfortable at home lol. Five days ago, she told me she's moving to Canada to work for the company she's in. >!Surprisingly, it brought me relief, even though I like her. Even I was shocked by the way I felt. She's perfect lifelong partner material. Anyone would say I am fumbling.!<

She's coming to visit this weekend, to meet me once before she leaves for Canada. The city I am in doesn't have many places worth visiting. She just told me the city doesn't seem bad for a one-day visit. She's going to drive alone for around 300 kilometers just to meet me! She's someone who likes me for who I am. I got nothing written on me that says "stable" lol. Quite the opposite actually. She earns a lot and she even comes from money. Her family is well off, if not rich. Her family is quite liberal. I've visited them several times. >!She says she'll come to India in a few months just to visit me again. She hasn't even gone to Canada yet, and still planning to visit me again! I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her. I feel terrible.!<

>!Reason for my dilemma: I am 22 now and will turn 23 next month. She turned 30 four months ago. We were talking one day around the middle of last year, and I told her "You check all my boxes, I would've definitely dated you if I was older." She looked me deep in the eyes and asked "What's stopping you now?" That's how it started.!<

I met a beautiful girl in late 2024 at a networking event in Hyderabad, after my graduation. Later found out we stayed in the same PG. We started talking, just as friends. I was going through a bad breakup at that time (the relationship got extremely toxic and I broke up and blocked my ex). My ex sent me emails, called from different numbers, kind of abusive and all. This girl helped me go through it all. This girl also came out of a long term toxic relationship. At that time, I had decided and also casually told her that I would never date anyone to marry, I would genuinely never even marry and all that stuff (I still am that way). Even though I was upfront about my preferences, I managed to go out on dates. She sometimes even helped me go on dates with other girls as my wing girl. Our circle got bigger as her friend group and mine merged because of our friendship.

I seek peace. I would say "sorry, you are right" and walk away even when the other person has wrong views. But I love deep conversations, only when the other person can understand different perspectives and can express well. She's perfect in that aspect. She's deep, so deep for my heart to not melt lol. No discussion of ours turns into an argument even if we completely disagree on something. I respect such people. Though I started liking her, I didn't go through with that for a reason. But our dynamic had gradually shifted into platonic flirting. And.... we started dating. Nothing too serious, we've let each other know we like each other and just decided to see where it takes us.

She works at a big tech company and earns a lot. I used to just waste my money on useless courses and was basically aavaara. She encouraged me to build my portfolio and apply for jobs. She guided me to practicality when I was wandering in creative freedom seeking mindset. Even though now I work remotely at a startup, doing multiple things at once in that company, it's so fun. I'm thankful to her for that.

I moved back to my native city in January to take care of a dumb property dispute in my mom's side of the family. But I'm still here after it because I work remotely and got a bit comfortable at home lol. Five days ago, she told me she's moving to Canada to work for the company she's in. >!Surprisingly, it brought me relief, even though I like her. Even I was shocked by the way I felt. She's perfect lifelong partner material. Anyone would say I am fumbling.!<

She's coming to visit this weekend, to meet me once before she leaves for Canada. The city I am in doesn't have many places worth visiting. She just told me the city doesn't seem bad for a one-day visit. She's going to drive alone for around 300 kilometers just to meet me! She's someone who likes me for who I am. I got nothing written on me that says "stable" lol. Quite the opposite actually. She earns a lot and she even comes from money. Her family is well off, if not rich. Her family is quite liberal. I've visited them several times. >!She says she'll come to India in a few months just to visit me again. She hasn't even gone to Canada yet, and still planning to visit me again! I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her. I feel terrible.!<

>!Reason for my dilemma: I am 22 now and will turn 23 next month. She turned 30 four months ago. We were talking one day around the middle of last year, and I told her "You check all my boxes, I would've definitely dated you if I was older." She looked me deep in the eyes and asked "What's stopping you now?" That's how it started.!<

Especially that shin ramyun and that buldak bullshit. All kinds of variatios/flavours. Malli avi chese different recipes okati add aindi. Weekly three to four times. And okko packet 150 to 200 rupees!!! Fuck me. My diet is ultra clean in absolutely all the aspects, except this. Nenu chala strict with my diet, workout and rest routine. Even though it doesn't show in my physique and all because of my routine, I can see how unhealthy it could be in the long term. Nen kani pothe, this would be the main reason.

Asla entandi ee cinema? The demigod tries to fight through law and then loses, so he goes back to god mode? Impact akkade padipoyindhi, at least for me personally.

Sare okay... Valle story lo rule establish chesaru ga that he can't have any power outside that area ani? Mari court ni vere area ki shift chesaka malli climax lo akkadiki elaaaa?!?! Vigraham petti kotha name pettesthe? Prathyaksham aa? People's devotion made him powerful to protect other areas or something ani elago okala establish cheyali ga through scenes or dialogues? He's a demigod in the context of the movie. Kani end lo oka manishi ni revive chese antha power unnatlu choopincharu. Mari inka cinema lo motham ee chinna chithaka leelalu endukandi? Okesari reality rewrite cheyachu ga? Vallu chesina world building and character arcs meeda vallake clarity ledu.

OMG and Gopala Gopala, OMG 2 are so much better than this

For me it's the Hindi film "Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani". The first half focuses more on Naina accepting herself and being comfortable in her own skin by Bunny's help. The second half focuses on Bunny choosing his next step in life through Naina's influence. The shift in focus on the characters makes it feel like watching two slightly different movies, which I enjoyed.

The next one for me is the Malayalam film "Hridayam". I know many Malayalis find this movie cringe but I liked it. The first half of it is the lead character going through his highs and lows, working on his flaws during his college life. The second half shows the fruits of his transformation, a couple of years post graduation, and how he handles the silly marriage hurdles and deals with relationships. It does feel like watching two different movies, at least to me.

No Telugu film comes to my mind which made me feel this way. Maybe I'm not thinking deep enough. Tollywood lo alanti movies emanna unnaya? Khaleja? Maybe a little bit.

Which movie/s made you feel the same?

For me it's the Hindi film "Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani". The first half focuses more on Naina accepting herself and being comfortable in her own skin by Bunny's help. The second half focuses on Bunny choosing his next step in life through Naina's influence. The shift in focus on the characters makes it feel like watching two slightly different movies, which I enjoyed.

The next one for me is the Malayalam film "Hridayam". I know many Malayalis find this movie cringe but I liked it. The first half of it is the lead character going through his highs and lows, working on his flaws during his college life. The second half shows the fruits of his transformation, a couple of years post graduation, and how he handles the silly marriage hurdles and deals with relationships. It does feel like watching two different movies, at least to me.

I'm from Andhra Pradesh, but no Telugu film comes to my mind which made me feel this way. Maybe I'm not thinking deep enough.

Which movie/s made you feel the same?

Are there any good places that offer this? I have so much muscle tension from explosive workouts and lack of rest. The therapists must know what they're doing and not do something unsafe and damage my body (I'm scared of what happened to Saket Gokhale)

Please suggest a good one in Guntur.

Aa cinema ki time undi le, but as I'm sure I'll be in Guntur when it gets released, I want to get the best experience I could get here. Vijayawada varaku travel chesi vache antha time undadhu. Movie ki kuda kastapadi free time set cheskovali.

Basically manchi screen, good picture and audio quality, english, 3d too. Ivanni best ga unde theatre edhi as of now? Theatres ki velli chala rojulu aindi and anduke ippudu edi better oo telidu. So please suggest the best one.

If yes, is tangdi kebab good too?

Nenu order chestunna, only for myself. I can eat well. So accordingly, please tell me if I should order half or full.

Edit: Tandoori was amazing!