u/cowboycomplex

I really dont want to be rude, if I say anything insensitive please know its not intentional and please correct me. I dont have any deaf or hard of hearing people in my daily life (at least before recently).

I have a new coworker, we dont interact much but when we do he doesnt talk or if he does it sounds like how someone might talk if they cant hear. When he needs my attention he will shout but not with words. When we have talked he also seems to try to read my lips, and once motioned for me to slow down my talking, which now I do and he seems to understand me better. I want to ask in asl if he is deaf but if he isnt would he know what I'm asking? I also dont want it to come off rude if he isnt deaf so I dont know what is the best way to do this.😅 There is also about 50ish people at my work and I dont know his name, so asking someone else about him would be difficult but not impossible.

I have always wanted to learn asl and I think its wrong that its not taught in american schools. In my area spanish is a required course in middle school and I think at least one class of asl should be too. Unfortunately I havent found a lot of good resources for learning for free, if you know of any pls tell me! Idk know what I will do if I find out he is deaf, especiallysince we dont interact much, I at least want to be able to say thank you to him when he helps me out. Any advice is appreciated! Thanks!

Edit: yall I came here asking for advice and to learn and explicitly stated I dont know a lot about the community so I dont mean to be insensitive and rude hence the learning part. But the amout of people that have told me that I dont care or dont take deaf/hoh people seriously or that I should just know more about the community, is sad, I was not expecting this. You want people to know and understand your experiences and the culture but someone who doesnt know comes to ask and you shut them down. And the down votes on my post and comments? I dont get that? Some of you were genuinely helpful and taught me some new things I didnt know, but the rest...this is just sad.

Im on oral minoxidil for slowing hairloss but unfortunately it has caused long hair growth in odd spots like my ear lobes lol and now after a week or so my nose hair gets long enough to start being very visible. I dont have a trimmer bc i dont know what I would get or which ones are good or how to use one. They seem dangerous to me, but ppl use them so they cant be that bad. Ive never seen my dad use one before and he is not someone I can ask about this. Im currently using tiny beauty scissors to cut off the parts that stick out but I need a more long term, less obviously dangerous solution before I cut the inside of my nose. Pls give me your nose trimmer recommendations!

Has anyone donated their eggs after a hysterectomy/oophorectomy? Saw an add today saying you can fill out an application to donate your eggs and I figured I dont want them might as well let someone else have them. They said they pay for it too, so I was just curious if anyone here has before? Does taking hormones disqualify you from it?

Ive watched through the whole show multiple times but its been a few years since the last watch so if im forgetting what happens later in the season I apologize. I just started on season 8 now and I feel like Dean kinda went back to daily life too easily.

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I feel like if you were in a place where your body was in constant fight or flight mode, couldnt eat or sleep in peace for an entire year, 24/7, I think going back to average life would be a bigger adjustment than they showed. Your nervous system would be fucked. A constant state of fight or flight does actually cause emotional reactivity in terms of irritability, snap reactions and mood changes and they showed that but i feel like he hoped right into the job again, suits, driving and motels like its nothing. Thoughts?

We aren't dating only fwb, but he's always super quick to text back. He doesnt work so he's not crazy busy. Last time we saw each other i did something embarrassing, he said it was okay but I texted him the next day and now im being left on read.

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My anxiety is spiking and idk how to stop thinking about it, telling myself it actually wasnt okay and he probably is ghosting me. I do not want to double text. Logically I know i could be jumping to conclusions and I was thinking to wait a few days and ask him to hang out again but my brain is telling me he isnt gonna respond then either.

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How can I calm my anxiety right now and stop dwelling on it?

Edit: This is not normal for me, I rarely have any anxiety around response time for anyone including him. It is purely bc i did something embarrassing and now I cant stop dwelling on it😭

Im 1 year on T and while I know thats not very long in the terms of transitioning, I still get miss/ma'am she/her from strangers with no hesitation or second guessing that I might not be a woman so that tells me Im not even androgynous. And this is before I say anything so it cant be my voice giving me away. I dont even have a chest but I guess I still look so much like a woman that people dont even question it.

I have an effeminate face and have always looked young, short hair and its super curly so its been so hard to find a style that works for me and I keep teetering between butch lesbian or 13yo broccoli hair boy. Im a 26yo man. Its just as embarrassing to look like a preteen boy as it is to be called a woman. At this point I cant imagine my facial structure changing enough to look masculine without facial masculinization surgery which I could never afford without a miracle.

I am small but I have been working out and trying to build muscle for 6 MONTHS! i havent gained a single pound yet im eating 3000+ calories a day! How I havent gained weight I have no idea bc what I would need to eat to maintain my weight is about 2000. Thats more than a 1000 calorie surplus yet im not gaining weight?? Literally fuck my life why cant anything work for me. I literally dont have time in my day to eat anymore than I already do. I eat so much I feel like I would throw up if I ate more and its still. not. enough. Im so frustrated and exhausted at this point.

If theres a high chance that i will never be able to pass as a cis man what am I even doing? im still getting misgendered constatnly and reminded of how feminine I look and all it does is make me feel like shit and that all my effort and money spent is pointless.