u/curiousnerd06

I (31F) have recently married into a different community. We're both Hindu, but are from different states and they speak an additional language that I don't fully know yet (we have other common languages). I also live in the state where it's spoken so I know I'll pick it up (I can say basic phrases). I work an exhausting job and deal with some health issues which is why I've barely made extra time to dedicate learning it. It's just not been a priority.

Now during the wedding or while interacting with part of the family, I had to sit during this awkward bit, more times than I'd like:

"Do you know *language*?"

"Not really, I'll learn it."

*says random phrase* "Do you know what I said?"

Like dude, I said I don't speak the language, how would I know what you said???? Now a lot of his extended family lives in major cities and I did not face this with them at all.

Now coming to the point, I'll have to be present and attend various events going forward. My husband's sibling is getting married, and his in-laws tend to LOVE the *language* (cough). His future MIL tends to look directly at me and only speaks that language, of course, on purpose (she speaks other languages perfectly fine). I'm exhausted thinking about future interactions when what we need to focus on, is the upcoming wedding.

While I express this exhaustion, I want to add I don't despise the language and I do make an effort to join conversations that I understand the context of.

Ladies in situations like mine, do you have any tips?

I (31F) hadn't had a good night's sleep in 3-4 years. I started working for an organisation that has locations in the US and Europe and my shift was suited to that: 2-11 pm. Now 11 pm isn't that late but it's a lot if it's brain work and even worse on days you're in the office.

I also deal with a chronic illness that guarantees you don't get sound sleep. And of course, I've had depression for years, as far as I can remember.

So I never slept at a reasonable hour. I scrolled on my phone and "decompressed" till it was 4, sometimes 5 am. At some point my body would give out and I'd fall asleep. I'd wake up in installments and wouldn't really want to get out of bed because I was depressed and didn't really look forward to anything. I'd manage to get out of bed at or later than noon and get to work. I also had disordered eating because of this.

I think this lack of a sleep cycle was the core of all my problems.

I met someone early 2025 and it went well- we got married last month. I saw the change so fast- I look forward to go to bed, fall asleep very quickly, and wake up at a reasonable hour, which because of my job, is around 9 am. It's only been 6-7 weeks but my mood is so much better. I have hours to go before I start work and so I cool proper meals, meal plan, sip coffee quietly and look forward to things.

CRAZY.

Basically the title. I'm (30F) getting married soon and have been speaking to a few friends that I'm expecting to attend.

One of my friends of 5 years (30F) got married 2 years ago in a different city. I couldn't make it because I couldn't get a leave. She has worked in my organization before (that's how we met) so she knows it can be toxic. I apologized profusely and she had a great wedding nevertheless.

Now she's living with her husband and her kid in our city of work. Today, out of nowhere she said she'd definitely "try" to come to my wedding. It's like she suddenly realised I didn't come to hers and decided to throw this at me. She's been talking about coming to my wedding all this time, but mentioned the word "try" several times today while also mentioning how I couldn't come to hers when we were talking about office leaves. She knows it's a legit reason, which doesn't apply to her (same city).

I know weddings can be weird and a lot of friends will do this as the day comes close. But I guess I'm allowed to feel weird.

I'm (30F, diagnosed 2005) currently planning my wedding and setting up a newly rented apartment with my partner. We've been shopping for furniture or appliances at weekends and today was one of those days.

While shopping for a couch, I went low. Very low. Managed to treat it, shopped for the couch and went to a cafe to get some food. By this time my BG levels were up again so I took some insulin (less than what I'd need) for the food/drinks.

Now an hour later I am mattress shopping and went horribly low again. No numbers, just a LOW on my screen. It's pouring, my partner ran out and got me juice. I managed it again.

I'm very worn out. I'm on my period too. I snapped at my partner some time ago and didn't realise I did. He's visibly angry and quiet but understands I'm having a hard time. I'm so out of it. I need this to stop. I'm gonna feel sick for a day and I gotta turn up to work tomorrow. I can't do this today.

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Okay this may be a complicated one.

I (30F) am marrying my boyfriend/fiance (33M) in a month. Our families have had no issues with us despite being from different states. His mother tends to have her mind in multiple places and that can result in hot and cold behaviour from her. My partner always uses his own conscience to make decisions.

He has an older brother (late 30sM) who's not married yet and typically presents as quiet and shy. MIL suddenly sped up the process of looking for a partner for him as our own wedding has approached and has had minimal involvement in our wedding, which is a strange order of priorities for me.

The older brother has a potential match who he hasn't even met yet because he lives overseas and there's already talks of their engagement 2 days after our wedding (and 5 days before our reception in my hometown), which means it's in the middle of our own wedding festivities. From what we knew, they could use our wedding as an opportunity to meet and get to know each other. I'm personally uncomfortable with another major family event inserted in mine. I feel like this could be its own event later.

My problem is I'm 100% sure my partner will be dragged into preparations for this event (labor and finances both) and we'd miss the few days we would get as newly weds before we go back to work. His brother hasn't had any involvement whatsoever in our wedding so this is a solid mismatch of efforts. I'm also sure the days between our wedding and his brother's engagement will be filled with hosting relatives.

Do I let this pass as is happens? How do I talk to my partner so his can minimize his involvement? I'm so confused.

Okay this may be a complicated one.

I (30F) am marrying my boyfriend/fiance (33M) in a month. Our families have had no issues with us despite being from different states. His mother tends to have her mind in multiple places and that can result in hot and cold behaviour from her. My partner always uses his own conscience to make decisions.

He has an older brother (late 30sM) who's not married yet and typically presents as quiet and shy. MIL suddenly sped up the process of looking for a partner for him as our own wedding has approached and has had minimal involvement in our wedding, which is a strange order of priorities for me.

The older brother has a potential match who he hasn't even met yet because he lives overseas and there's already talks of their engagement 2 days after our wedding (and 5 days before our reception in my hometown), which means it's in the middle of our own wedding festivities. From what we knew, they could use our wedding as an opportunity to meet and get to know each other. I'm personally uncomfortable with another major family event inserted in mine. I feel like this could be its own event later.

My problem is I'm 100% sure my partner will be dragged into preparations for this event (labor and finances both) and we'd miss the few days we would get as newly weds before we go back to work. His brother hasn't had any involvement whatsoever in our wedding so this is a solid mismatch of efforts. I'm also sure the days between our wedding and his brother's engagement will be filled with hosting relatives.

Do I let this pass as is happens? How do I talk to my partner so his can minimize his involvement? I'm so confused.

I just removed my first cgm sensor today. I put the new one on a few hours ago to pre soak but only paired it once the old one expired. This one has a one hour warm up.

Is there a way I can avoid this and not lose an hour of data?? Or is the warm up inevitable?

30F, been T1 for 20+ years. I'm soooooooooo tired. I know, we say it, we feel it, we continue to do this. On top of all that life is weird. I work a healthcare job that barely pays, not rich, can't afford all my stuff since everything is out of pocket, and also struggle as the only, older daughter in an Asian household that has to adjust and compromise everything.

I just had a moment today where I wanted control over my own life- like why isn't anything happening how I want it? Why isn't anyone tolerating MY tantrums for once? Listen to ME! I live a hard life AND deal with everyone's bullshit. I'm mindful of others' mental health, their issues, their temperament. Why isn't anyone doing that for me?

I basically just sobbed ALL DAY. Then I broke down again on a call with my mother on how I'm so tired and no one gets this. I'm sobbing again as I write this.

I just really want a break.

I am fairly new to CGMs despite being a type 1 for 20+ years. I am about to shower soon and was wondering if I really need some sort of cover for them? My showers never cross 25-30 mins. Should I just go?!

Edit- I do have the most basic overpatch on it that came with the sensor.