Got an ultrasound today at 12 weeks. Going through all the videos and photos they sent and came across this little flash to the camera. I think it means boy, my husband (who is convinced we are having a girl) thinks it’s just the cord. We are planning on not finding out the gender until birth but we still speculate every day!! What do you think?! (I know it’s technically impossible to tell at this point but guessing is still fun!!)
I’ve been no contact with my narcissistic mother for over 6 months. If you would like to know why, I have a post about it. This is mostly a venting session.
My husband and I found out I was pregnant on Father’s Day, and we are so so happy. I knew right away, I did not want her to know because she doesn’t get access to me anymore. And I finally have something that’s just mine, she doesn’t get to taint this. I have instructed all my siblings not to tell her, and just wait until I post it on Facebook and I’m sure she’ll see it somehow (we are no longer friends but I’m sure it will pop up on her page somehow, you know, algorithm or whatever.)
I’m just so angry and sad, all over again. I’m so good day to day, I have accepted who she is as a person and released her from being my mother so she can be who she really is and be free from her burdens, and that mentality has really set me free as well.
I always had a feeling it would affect me differently when I had kids. I’ve had visions of me and my children at the park, having a great time when suddenly I’m hit with this pang of anger and disbelief that she would rather lose a daughter and her children than just apologize and admit what she did wrong. I cannot wrap my mind around it.
All four of my siblings have tried to convince me to call her and tell her, or asked if they can tell her. For reference, and in true narcissistic fashion, she has a very different relationship with all 5 of us. Most of my siblings still have a surface level relationship, besides my one sister who is also no contact. I tell them no every time, I refuse to set myself up for heartbreak again, they seem to think it’s going to be this magic fix for our relationship and I’m just like???? Are you guys delusional??? She has 4 other grandkids that she shows little to no interest in, what makes you think this one is going to change her tune?
My brother texted me ON MY BIRTHDAY saying “I think this is a really good day to tell mom you’re pregnant, I feel so bad every time I talk to her and don’t say anything.” First off, this literally isn’t about you. And secondly, that is the dumbest idea ever, I wouldn’t even know how to start that conversation. My siblings have all told her to call me, she refuses. Why on earth would I call her with the happiest news of my life, just to have her potentially (most likely) stomp on it.
If you’ve gotten this far, thank you for reading. I was doing so good and now I’m back on the struggle bus. Why do we care so much when they literally couldn’t give a fuck about us? If anyone has been in a similar situation, I would love to hear what you did and how it turned out.
TLDR: Been no contact with narcissistic mom for 6 months, recently found out I was pregnant and do not want to tell her. All my siblings are saying I should, I think that is a dumb idea.
Hey everyone!! This feels off topic as I haven’t seen any other questions like this but I figured it might be an exciting & lighthearted topic since we’re all waiting for test results and still surviving the first trimester symptoms!!
So when are we having our showers? I’m due March 1st, (when we FIRST found out I found this sub and have been attached ever since lol) and I’m so torn!! I don’t love fall themes, I feel like December is definitely a no go since everyone is always so busy, so I’m thinking January but that feels so late!!! I really don’t want to limit myself to less than 2 months to organize/put away/finish the nursery! The theme I originally fell in love with was “A little sweetheart on the way” with heavy Valentine’s Day themes but that feels silly to do outside of February? Idk, I just need help, lol! What are your guys’ themes and what dates are you shooting for? Everything I’ve seen I just don’t love 😭 we aren’t finding out gender, and the nursery theme is woodland/mushrooms/animals, do I just lean into that? HELPPP lol
My ob took forever to get me into my first appointment at 8 weeks. I was really hoping they’d do a quick ultrasound or even Doppler, and literally all they did was a pregnancy test. My next appt is my actual “prenatal” appointment with a midwife, and my first ultrasound is scheduled for Aug. 18!! I’ll be 12 weeks at the point! Is this normal?? Should I call and ask to be put on a a cancellation list?
There is also a place I could go to literally just get an ultrasound. They don’t diagnose or anything like that but I’m dying to see this baby and hear a heartbeat, literally anything. Any recommendations on what I should do?
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I’ve been no contact with my narcissistic mother for over 6 months. If you would like to know why, I have a post about it. This is mostly a venting session.
My husband and I found out I was pregnant on Father’s Day, and we are so so happy. I knew right away, I did not want her to have access to this information because she doesn’t get access to me anymore. And I finally have something that’s just mine, she doesn’t get to taint this. I have instructed all my siblings not to tell her, and just wait until I post it on Facebook and I’m sure she’ll see it somehow (we are no longer friends but I’m sure it will pop up on her page somehow, you know, algorithm or whatever.)
I’m just so angry and sad, all over again. I’m so good day to day, I have accepted who she is as a person and released her from being my mother so she can be who she really is and be free from her burdens, and that mentality has really set me free as well.
I always had a feeling it would affect me differently when I had kids. I’ve had visions of me and my children at the park, having a great time when suddenly I’m hit with this pang of anger and disbelief that she would rather lose a daughter and her children than just apologize and admit what she did wrong. I cannot wrap my mind around it.
All four of my siblings have tried to convince me to call her and tell her, or asked if they can tell her. For reference, and in true narcissistic fashion, she has a very different relationship with all 5 of us. Most of my siblings still have a surface level relationship and I have one other sister who is no contact. And I tell them no every time. I refuse to set myself up for heartbreak again, they seem to think it’s going to be this magic fix for our relationship and I’m just like???? Are you guys delusional??? She has 4 other grandkids that she shows little to no interest in, what makes you think this one is going to change her tune?
My brother texted me ON MY BIRTHDAY saying “I think this is a really good day to tell mom you’re pregnant, I feel so bad every time I talk to her and don’t say anything.” First off, this literally isn’t about you. And secondly, that is the dumbest idea ever, I wouldn’t even know how to start that conversation. My siblings have all told her to call me, she refuses. Why on earth would I call her with the happiest news of my life, just to have her potentially (most likely) stomp on it.
If you’ve gotten this far, thank you for reading. I was doing so good and now I’m back on the struggle bus. Why do we care so much when they literally couldn’t give a fuck about us? If anyone has been in a similar situation, I would love to hear what you did and how it turned out.
TLDR: Been no contact with narcissistic mom for 6 months, recently found out I was pregnant and do not want to tell her. All my siblings are saying I should, I think that is a dumb idea.
I am 13 days past ovulation, and have had what I am almost positive is implantation bleeding for a few days. I never have spotting before my period but I had three days of very very light red almost discharge for 3 days, stopped for a day or two, and now I’m spotting brown blood. I’m so confused. Still no period but also all my tests I have taken so far are negative. I’m not a patient person especially with myself and this has been the most miserable two weeks of my life. Has anyone else experienced a negative test on the day of your missed period? If you had implantation bleeding how long did it last and what did it look like?
Does longer implantation bleeding mean twins? (Me and my MIL have had premonitions I’m going to have twins, I know stupid and weird but I’m hopeful lol)
Edit- ok I read about implantation bleeding so can everyone stop commenting on that part? I’m seriously so confused and struggling over here and that is not helping.