r/March2027BumpGroup

This is your daily space to chat, vent, celebrate, ask questions, or just check in.

WEEKLY POST SCHEDULE:

Monday - Milestone Monday

Tuesday - TMI Tuesday

Wednesday - Worried Wednesday; Symptom Wednesday

Thursday - Thankful Thursday; Mental Health Check-In

Friday - Pregnancy After Loss & Infertility Weekly Chat; Foodie Friday

Saturday - Symptom Saturday; S+TM Saturday; Shopping Saturday, Worried Weekend

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Welcome Post

Pregnancy Test Megathread

Beta/hCG Results Megathread

Ultrasound Megathread

NIPT Megathread

Registry Megathread

VERIFY YOUR ACCOUNT by September 15

TW: Loss

I can’t believe I’m making this post. After a long road with infertility and IVF, we were over the moon to graduate from our clinic with perfect ultrasounds at 8 weeks. Baby girl was dancing all around last week at 9 weeks with a soaring heart rate. We had less than a 1% chance of miscarriage due to knowing we had a euploid embryo.

I went in for my NIPT test this week at 10w, the first ultrasound without my husband there as he is out of the country for work this week. This was the first appointment where I wasn’t holding my breath with anxiety, I was just excited to finally hear the heartbeat. As soon as I saw the screen, I knew we were done. Our girl wasn’t moving and no cardiac activity was detected.

We’re opting to wait and have a D&C when my husband gets home, and I’m praying I don’t start miscarrying at home before then. I hope everyone has the most uneventful remainder of their pregnancies and beautiful March babies. 💛 We aren’t giving up, but man this journey isn’t for the weak.

This is your daily space to chat, vent, celebrate, ask questions, or just check in.

WEEKLY POST SCHEDULE:

Monday - Milestone Monday

Tuesday - TMI Tuesday

Wednesday - Worried Wednesday; Symptom Wednesday

Thursday - Thankful Thursday; Mental Health Check-In

Friday - Pregnancy After Loss & Infertility Weekly Chat; Foodie Friday

Saturday - Symptom Saturday; S+TM Saturday; Shopping Saturday; Worried Weekend

LINKS TO:

Welcome Post

Pregnancy Test Megathread

Beta/hCG Results Megathread

Ultrasound Megathread

NIPT Megathread

Registry Megathread

VERIFY YOUR ACCOUNT by September 15

Had my first ultrasound yesterday, and unfortunately it didn’t go as well as I’d hoped. At first, the doctor could only see the GS and it looked completely empty, which was scary... But eventually the yolk sac and embryo became visible too, and the good news is that we could actually see a heartbeat.

The image really wasn’t very clear though, and it was quite difficult to get accurate measurements, even though it was a TVU.

What worries me is that I’m very sure about my dates. Tracked ovulation, which happened a few days later, so yesterday I should have been 7w5d, but the embryo measured 6w3d. The doctor asked me to come back next thursday to check the progress.

Realistically, perhaps it's pretty clear something might not be right. But is there a chance that the measurments were off? Had a TFMR at 14w in March because the baby had triploidy, so seeing the baby measure behind again brings back some memories...

Pregnant and working in direct patient care — how do you get through the day? I have no motivation.

Seeing patients face-to-face all day with very little downtime. The constant talking, educating, problem-solving, and building rapport is honestly mentally/socially exhausting on top of the physical fatigue.

For other healthcare workers who were pregnant in direct-care roles: What helped you conserve energy and get through the day? Any tips for dealing with being “on” with patients all day when you’re already exhausted?

My husband has a young daughter from his previous marriage, we have her half time and I think of her as my own and love her dearly. Everyone I know has predicted I’m pregnant with a girl (including myself, begrudgingly), and yesterday we got blood work back and it’s indeed a girl! I couldn’t help but feel a little disappointed, I’d really hoped for a boy since we already have a girl…and my 4 yr old nephew who I’m super connected to (who also predicted girl) is already surrounded by girl cousins, I really loved the idea of him being a pseudo big brother to my son…idk I’m surprised at myself at just how disappointed I felt yesterday…there’s something much more terrifying about bringing another woman into this world and preparing her to deal with patriarchy and unconscious bias against her gender, especially looking at the political landscape of things in the US… in my mind protecting a boy and teaching him how to safely feel all his emotions seems somehow easier… this is very nuanced, I plan on unpacking it with my therapist at our next session and just wanted to share for any of those who are navigating a similar feeling of disappointment. I do not know what the future holds for our family, and of course I will love and adore this little being and help steward her into whomever she is meant to be. I imagine one day laughing and shaking my head at my past self for doubting being a girl mom. I’m open to being pleasantly surprised. Any nuggets of wisdom/insight/reflections/shares are welcome and appreciated. Thanks for reading ❤️

Let’s talk about what our bodies are up to right now. Morning sickness, weird cravings, round ligament pain, or something you can’t explain... share it all!

FTM 8 weeks in and work is fucking brutal for me right now—full-on all-nighters, high stress every day, etc., and I feel like I’m barely treading water and have no time to process all the big changes. Every doctor’s appt feels like time I can’t spare.

Need some solidarity from other people with a lot on their plate right now, whether you’re a corporate girlie, blue collar, SAHM, caregiver… what do you have on your plate? How are you coping?

Stay strong ladies!

A place to share any worries or anxieties you might be having.

I think I just want a little hope, or maybe just to vent.

I hate that I feel like I have to justify that this is what I want. The assumption is that we'll "just schedule the next one". I hear all the time how scheduled is so different, so much better. I cannot fathom it being that much better except for more guaranteed pain control. I'm not of the illusion that any birth is pain-free, so that argument does nothing for me. Some people feel in control when they get to pick the date and time, I couldn't feel that way any less.

I personally hate having c-sections. I appreciate that my children and I are alive, but I would do anything to avoid having another one. This isn't even a planned pregnancy, and the thought of recovering from a C-section with a 1- and 4-year old at home with no village to support me sounds like hell on earth. I am so not ready for a third c-section in 5 years.

My first two were induced for different, relatively weird reasons. Things I just never heard of happening to anyone else, and I'd listened to/read so many birth stories. I broke out into hives on my due date for my first, went to the hospital, and agreed to an induction. He was sunny side up and face-presenting, and got stuck at -2 station after 36 hours of max pitocin labor and then he pooped. Went for a c-section and had to go under general, so I don't remember meeting him. With my second, I learned hives are just a cute autoimmune thing my body does in reaction to pregnancy hormones and zyrtec+pepcid clears it right up. I did all the stretches and exercises. Then, he flipped to breech at my 39-week appointment while swimming away from the doppler. In order to get an ECV, I had to agree to an immediate subsequent induction. After 16 hours of max pitocin, he was having decels and I felt no painful contractions so I agreed to another c-section. I didn’t make a fuss about the epidural not working on my right side because I didn't want them to put me to sleep again. Then, my husband ruptured an achilles 12 days later and I had to jump back into being everyone's caretaker.

I have no reliable village. My kids will stay at my brother's house 45 minutes away when delivery day comes, but he has a family of 3 kids (including a current newborn) of his own. Grandparents aren't well enough to help, we can't afford regular paid help. I'll do anything to not need a c-section, but I've said that twice before and I got thrown curve balls I couldn't prepare for. I feel like my best shot is saving up for a doula? How does one find and pick a doula? I never thought I'd do that but I really need someone on my side for this. I haven't even had my first OB appointment. I'm trying a different practice, but I have a feeling they won't like the thought of an attempted VBA2C. Any words of wisdom or comfort would be appreciated.

I'm 42, FTM, first time pregnancy, IVF pregnancy. At my 10 week appointment (my first with my OB after getting discharged from the fertility clinic) the doctor told me that she does not want me to get to 40 weeks and that she wants to schedule the delivery for 39+1 at the latest. Anyone else in a similar boat?

I had an ultrasound today. Measuring about 8 weeks and 2 days. Doctor said baby's heartbeat was 190bpm. They did not seem concerned, but it feels high. Anyone with a similar experience? Any positive stories/reassurances or anything to look out for?

I went to my first appointment today, should have been measuring close to 10 weeks but was 6w4d and no heartbeat. I’ve been through this before and opted for the pill. I’ve got a 2 and 4 year old and luckily they keep me busy. Still sad and I’m not looking forward for the hormone crash to get me. I’m ready to move on but if anyone has any questions about the process, always welcome to reach out to me.

Sending positive vibes for a healthy pregnancy for all the March babies. Leaving this group but for those of us who were out this time, hoping to see you in a future bump group.

This is your daily space to chat, vent, celebrate, ask questions, or just check in.

WEEKLY POST SCHEDULE:

Monday - Milestone Monday

Tuesday - TMI Tuesday

Wednesday - Worried Wednesday; Symptom Wednesday

Thursday - Thankful Thursday; Mental Health Check-In

Friday - Pregnancy After Loss & Infertility Weekly Chat; Foodie Friday

Saturday - Symptom Saturday; S+TM Saturday; Shopping Saturday; Worried Weekend

LINKS TO:

Welcome Post

Pregnancy Test Megathread

Beta/hCG Results Megathread

Ultrasound Megathread

NIPT Megathread

Registry Megathread

VERIFY YOUR ACCOUNT by September 15

I thought I was going to have to do a loss post, but instead I'm sharing my high-key traumatic subchorionic hematoma experience from this weekend in case anyone else thinks they could benefit from knowing what it can look like (although maybe a bit of an extreme example). TLDR, in case you'd like to skip the details: it can be A LOT of blood, mine was comparable to the heaviest day of my period with ~4in / 10cm blood clot. My baby is still doing well! Measuring exactly as they should and 144 heart beat, thank goodness.

So basically in the past week I had been having a little bit but increasing tan and brown/dark brown discharge, but I knew that was normal so I tried not to worry about it. No cramping or anything, feeling perfectly normal. Actually my nausea symptoms had been alleviating lately. No sex in the past few days. Well, on Sunday I drove over an hour to visit my parents and as soon as I walked through the front door, I felt a gush of warm liquid coming down my pants. I thought I was peeing myself, but couldn't stop it. If I hadn't been wearing black pants, the blood would've been easily visible by anyone around me. When I checked myself in the bathroom, there was a ton of blood and a ~4 in / 10cm blood clot at the bottom of the toilet. (In my despair, the clot almost looked baby-shaped, but I convinced myself that it couldn't be my baby since there's no way the baby could just dissolve into goo!?). I was fully convinced I was miscarrying because there's no way I could lose so much blood and for the baby to still be ok...

Thankfully my parents live within 5 minutes of an Urgent Care clinic that's in-network with my insurance, so I was able to be seen by a doctor, then referred to a nearby larger Urgent Care clinic nearby that had an ultrasound machine and an ultrasound tech on call. From initial bleeding to ultrasound it was about 2 hours, just enough time for me to be able to reach my husband, let him know I think we're losing the baby, and to please come ASAP. And for me to mentally prepare myself that we wouldn't be having a March baby after all, that there's no way I'd be ready to try again anytime soon, how I'd need minimum a week off of work to grieve our baby, how I should've known something was wrong when my first trimester symptoms started waning...

As soon as the ultrasound tech started, she said "good news, baby is well, they're measuring exactly what they should and heart beat is 144". I just completely lost it. I didn't even consider the possibility of the baby being ok with how much blood I lost... My only ultrasound was a vaginal ultrasound 2.5 weeks prior to Sunday and there was zero mention of a subchorionic hematoma at that time, so this was all just a complete shock.

Yesterday morning I notified my OB's office of what happened, but OB is off until tomorrow so we'll see what she recommends. For now, I'm still passing dark brown discharge and a single very dry 1in / 2cm blood clot, and just generalized tenderness in my belly, but no cramping or active bleeding. And well, now my parents know I'm pregnant I guess which I greatly prefer that this happened with them than with anyone else! And I'm just so so so relieved to have my husband and my parents to support me during such a traumatic event.

Is everyone's subchorionic hematoma experiences as traumatic as mine? Did I just miss the memo on what an absolutely terrifying amount of blood they can produce?? 😅 Thanks for reading if you made it this far!

Is it normal in Canada to have your primary take care of you until 16 weeks? I called my OB about my referral and they acted like I was crazy wanting to see my OB before 16 weeks?! Even though I’m type 2 diabetic and high risk?

This is your daily space to chat, vent, celebrate, ask questions, or just check in.

WEEKLY POST SCHEDULE:

Monday - Milestone Monday

Tuesday - TMI Tuesday

Wednesday - Worried Wednesday; Symptom Wednesday

Thursday - Thankful Thursday; Mental Health Check-In

Friday - Pregnancy After Loss & Infertility Weekly Chat; Foodie Friday

Saturday - Symptom Saturday; S+TM Saturday; Shopping Saturday, Worried Weekend

LINKS TO:

Welcome Post

Pregnancy Test Megathread

Beta/hCG Results Megathread

Ultrasound Megathread

NIPT Megathread

Registry Megathread

VERIFY YOUR ACCOUNT by September 15

Chat here about all of the lovely TMI things in pregnancy

Spent the last week spotting and cramping. went to urgent care, and they drew my blood for hcg levels, which had already plummeted to <6,000 at what should have been almost 10 weeks. Went back for an ultrasound, and they confirmed baby stopped developing at 7 weeks 3 days. It's over.

Couldn't stop crying in the office, had to complete the walk of shame with my sad little printout of my failed pregnancy through the waiting room, hallways, and elevators, past all the other pregnant women and couples with babies. I knew this would be sad, but I can't begin to articulate how devastating and debilitating this grief and sadness really is.

I was so optimistic, and had high hopes and a good feeling about this pregnancy. We were so excited, and we were in the midst of making plans to tell our families soon.

I don't think I've ever cried this much. I can't imagine going through this again. we so desperately wanted this baby. Now weeping as we stash all the baby, parenting, and pregnancy books away on the shelves. Have to call to cancel all my upcoming appointments. Filing away the congratulatory cards from our few close trusted friends we'd told. Struggling past the room in our apartment that would be our baby's nursery... This is just so terrible and the pain is unbearable.

I’m 11 weeks and absolutely have no energy to do any workouts, not even walks. I really want to do something as I’m starting to get backaches due to not stretching but having a hard time to push myself to do something. How do you guys manage? Any suggestions please!