u/depredador93
I hate being asked "How are you?" by people who only want to hear "fine"
I know it is often just a greeting. I'm not talking about cashiers or strangers being polite.
But when someone you know asks, it can put you in a weird position. Do you say "fine" even when it isn't true, or answer honestly and risk making the whole thing awkward?
Some people ask, then the moment you say "actually, I've not been doing that great lately," they freeze. Or they say "oh, that sucks, I hope it gets better," and the conversation dies. You have not given them your life story or asked them to become your emotional coach. You just answered their question honestly.
Then you suddenly feel like emotional weight instead of a person they genuinely wanted to check in on. Most people are dealing with something to some degree. If the only answer someone can comfortably hear is "good, you?", then "how are you?" is not really a question. It is just a social ritual where we both pretend everything is fine so nobody has to carry even a small part of someone else's reality.
That makes interactions feel strangely transactional. As long as your answer is light and easy, everything is fine. The moment it has any weight, people pull back.
What is the one food you will absolutely never eat again, no matter how much money someone offers you?
reddit.com[OC] Share of Passenger Distance by Car in Europe
This shows the share of inland passenger distance travelled by passenger car in 2023.
It is based on Eurostat passenger-kilometres, meaning people x distance. So it is not the share of people who drive, not car ownership, and not commute mode. Longer trips count more than short trips.
Source: Eurostat tran_hv_psmod, unit PC, 2023.
The table also shows rail and bus/coach/trolleybus shares. Air and sea travel are not included. Countries with no 2023 Eurostat country value are shown as no-data and are not ranked. Small 0.1 differences can happen because Eurostat rounds the published shares.
I can’t unsee the Chronicles of Riddick vibe in Daemon’s armor
This song in 3x02 was stuck in my head. I cleaned up the lyrics and finished the ballad
Since tavern and marching songs in Westeros always have a dozen verses detailing specific houses and casualties, the show obviously only gave us a snippet. Based on what actually went down at the Battle by the Lakeshore in F&B, here is a version including a couple of likely extra verses featuring the Winter Wolves and Lord Lefford that fit the exact same rhyme scheme and rhythm:
Verse 1
>I tell a tale of a fearsome war
(Thank our lucky stones)
10,000 came, but we had more
And pressed 'em to the bloody shore
Now we can't see the water's floor
Hey, hey, hey!
'Cause the lake's full of their bones
Chorus
>Fish feed! Fish feed!
Fish feed! Fish feed!
Smashed to smithereens!
Fish feed! Fish feed! Fish feed...
...We drowned the fucking Greens!
Verse 2
>I tell you a tale of a cunning trick
(How did it come to pass?)
Aemond comes, they said, run quick!
With his one good eye, he looks a prick
And we've got Daemon, so go stick...
...Your dragon up your ass!
Chorus
>Fish feed! Fish feed!
Fish feed! Fish feed!
Smashed to smithereens!
Fish feed! Fish feed! Fish feed...
...We drowned the fucking Greens!
Verse 3
>The Lions marched with gold and pride
(Down to the water's edge)
They had no place to run or hide
When the Winter Wolves hit their side
And pushed 'em in the crimson tide
Hey, hey, hey!
Now they sleep below the sedge
Chorus
>Fish feed! Fish feed!
Fish feed! Fish feed!
Smashed to smithereens!
Fish feed! Fish feed! Fish feed...
...We drowned the fucking Greens!
Verse 4
>Lord Lefford thought he'd break our line
(A fool in heavy plate)
We fed him to the River swine
His armor makes the bottom shine
And now he drinks a muddy wine
Hey, hey, hey!
The Lions met their fate
Chorus
>Fish feed! Fish feed!
Fish feed! Fish feed!
Smashed to smithereens!
Fish feed! Fish feed! Fish feed...
...We drowned the fucking Greens!
[OC] Young Adults Living With Parents in Europe
[OC] Adults Meeting WHO Physical Activity Guidelines in Europe
[OC] How far from the sea does the average person live in each European country?
Repost after a few fixes: cleaned up alignment, extended both side lists to Top 10, and added numbered labels for every country.
The map numbers match the companion table, which has the full country list from closest to farthest from the sea.
Most people do not actually want to make plans. They want to be invited to plans someone else made
A lot of people say they want to go out more, meet people, have a social life, or do more interesting things on weekends.
But when someone actually tries to make that happen, the enthusiasm often turns into "maybe," "let's see," "who else is going?" or complete silence until the plan is already happening.
I think this is why so many group chats slowly die. Not because nobody wants to do anything, but because almost nobody wants to be the person who chooses the date, checks the place, books the activity, reminds people, deals with cancellations, and risks looking annoying for trying.
Everyone likes the idea of being included. Far fewer people like the small boring work that makes inclusion possible.
I do not think this makes people bad. Life is tiring, money is limited, and sometimes people really are busy. But there is a difference between being busy and passively waiting for other people to maintain your social life.
At some point, "nobody makes plans anymore" often means "nobody is doing the planning for me."
The quote-calendar cringe is becoming unbearable
Last episode Rhaenyra got the Elizabeth I treatment. Now Alys is delivering what sounds like Matthew 7:9 mashed together with generic "rubies = wisdom/value" Bible language into a Westerosi proverb.
I get the basic point: she wants Harrenhal, not some substitute reward. But why does every character suddenly need to talk like they are trying to leave behind a sacred quotation for future generations?
It feels less like depth and more like the writers desperately trying to manufacture it.