u/disappearing_haze90

You used to be able to see what workouts you did each day in the Progress section. I can't find them now -- does anyone know where they are?

I was sick for over a year before I realized my fight or flight system felt stuck "on" and then another two years before I even learned it was a real thing and learned the terms dysautonomia and hyperadrenergic pots. Before that I thought I had difficulty adjusting to my new living situation, stress at work, anxiety, insomnia (which are all true in part) and thought I just needed to manage the stress of it better.

I couldn't keep up. And unfortunately we don't live that close to each other so everything either involved a lot of driving or going out which is something I've had to limit. He most recently asked me to go on a cruise, and I just.. can't.

I know this is better in the long run for me. He always seemed to push me to do things I didn't want to do. And now I can focus more on my health and save my energy from a long, arduous relationship.

I like Range & Repair from 4wotp. Hoping to find some other good ones to add into the rotation.

I think I know how to help myself when I'm panicked and exhausted. Does anyone know what to do feeling so empty and hollow inside and can't sleep because of that? I feel like eating chocolate helps ,me a tiny bit.

I guess it's a small relief that I don't have panic and feel like I'm jumping out of my skin. But tonight I feel so so hollow.

Been thinking about it for awhile. Did it at 22 for a year and helped my emotional health tremendously. However, I'm sick now so idk if it'll work the same.

I'll either stay the same/get worse, which is what would've happened anyways, or I'll get better.

I don't really have a high quality of life of life anyways right now, so might as well try.

Anyone else do this?

I had an ex boyfriend who didn't care if I wanted sex or not, if I enjoyed it or not, as long as I had it with him when he wanted. And at first I was taken aback, but then it kinda made it easier. I didn't have to pretend I wanted it, not just with him but with myself. And he didn't feel rejected because ultimately got off on just having it as opposed to me needing to perform certain ways.

Sometimes I read about people trying to get turned on more to have more sex with their partner -- but to me, if I'm not desiring it, then why make myself? I can definitely see if I'm in the minority because I really don't need it and I also don't really partake in other things like alcohol or vices, I'm more of a utility type of person.

And I've had sex other times in relationships where I enjoy it, but again I personally don't really need it and don't feel that much closer to the other person because I know it's just temporary feelings. And I place much more value on other things in the relationship - like trust and security. However, I understand that certain people absolutely need it so I'll do it. Otherwise I probably wouldn't ever find someone that just doesn't care about sex.

So I'm wondering how you approach sex in your relationship?

Edit: Thank you for all the responses. I'm happily surprised as the common sentiment is what I used to think before this last relationship. I definitely think, in part, that this last relationship has messed up my understanding of some things in relationships as I think there was likely abusive (or immature) tendencies in other areas outside of sex.

I've been using a massage gun and it calms me down immediately sometimes... the vibration really does something for me, especially when my own skin feels like it's vibrating from overstimulation. Has anyone else experienced this?

I can go from 0 to 100 which has never been a thing for me prior to getting sick. I feel like it has to be from the adrenaline dumps that amp me up, or the intense fear, or just exhaustion coupled with lack of control in my environment, which hopefully I can change at some point. I haven't seen many people mention anger, so I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar

I always had a neutral/slight positive relationship with my family. When my life was separate. But after getting all these health issues - their lack of understanding, their pushiness, their judgement, their lack of consideration, lack of support .. it's just permanently changed how I view them. I miss being on my own and believing that my parents could always help me or have my best interest, or at least care about me.

I always see people's moods get significantly better when they get a better job. Whatever that means to them.

Maybe it gives more money or security. Or respect. Or a better schedule. Or confidence. Or cool coworkers. Or it's really easy. Or it's really exciting. Or it's on the beach. Idk. Whatever matters to a person so that they actually enjoy the benefit it provides.

Work is such a big aspect of someone's life and if that's giving you something good then you just have a lot better chance at being okay. Making little money, being isolated at a desk all day, not having any good coworkers, for example, would honestly make anyone's life more depressing.

Not a meditation, not a supplement, not a white noise machine, not a diet change, not counseling. A literal break from my life - geographically and disconnection from all the things in my current life.

I've had a lot of causes of my long term insomnia, but what is most pressing on me now having done literally everything, is a ptsd that is seeped into every aspect of my current life

Driving is one of the most draining things for me - the sun, the heat, the mental focus, the sitting?? Idk. It's just been so hard lately to even drive 20 mins.

32f Lived most of my life in my hometown in the midwest. It's really great in a lot of ways - it's familiar, has a lot of clean suburban areas, nature, stores, space. I have a lot of bad memories here though and I keep trying to make it work by moving to different neighborhoods or changing jobs but idk it just feels like I can't escape the negativity. It's also very homogenous and idk if that has something to do with it. I have no social life. Parents are getting old and I think I've spent a lot of time with them already.

I've been saving money to either take a long vacation or move somewhere new or both. Chicago, Nyc, Virginia, and North Carolina are the places I think I'd like. Also thought about getting a sublet in Italy for a year and seeing what happens. I have no job as my contract ended last month. So I would need to eventually find a job.

I feel like I'm at a point where I need to settle down here or move and live somewhere else.

Open to any and all ideas

feels like everything is the straw that broke the camel's back-- one more person asking me to do something, one more explanation, one more person complaining to me, one more feeling wronged, one more sad thing, one more problem ....

The first thing I notice is a lot of confusion. It's almost like my brain feels like it melted and can't grasp things, it's just kinda a mental agony. And then I notice my head is hot. Cold compresses have helped it. I don't know if this symptom has a name..?

A few years ago I had a bad series of events that occurred at work and at my home. Caused me to have insomnia and other physical issues. It's like a deep sense of trust and connection was broken in me. I've been trying to recover and I just haven't been able to, it's like there was not enough positive or healing that could happen. I literally don't know where to turn to for help

Mentally I don't think I can handle only having had a few good years, seeing what it was like to really be okay in life. Maybe if I lived in a bubble I could, but everywhere I'm reminded of what life could have been like.

Made it through my childhood, worked so much on myself emotionally, and was learning how to navigate corporate life. and now it doesn't really matter anymore.

I'm fortunate to even have had a few good years. but I don't want to live the next 50 years.

If anyone else relates you can let me know, feeling pretty alone rn

Looking for recommendations on certain exercises or approaches to starting cardio with dysautonomia.

I used to be very athletic before symptoms started, then was out of commission, now I'm able to do some resistance and weight training but haven't figured out how to do cardio safely yet. My main issue is with my heartrate / pounding heart which is a domino effect to other symptoms