advice on easing stress from communication?
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advice on easing stress from communication?

hi everyone! i want to preface this by saying that my knowledge in astrology is close to minimal, so any detailed explanations (eg: i think abc because of xyz in your chart) will be greatly appreciated!! also, i wasn't sure how to phrase the title well, so forgive me if it's a little confusing.

so, lately i've been making an effort to get to know more people, and i feel like it's difficult for me to figure out what is and isn't appropriate to say to people (who, when, etc). this isn't to say that i come off as rude or hostile (i'd hope not, anyway), but i do sometimes get that "you're kind of weird" look (every now and then i get told this outright as well tbh). this doesn't usually bother me, but i can't help but overthink past conversations even with the people i'm at all positively predisposed to, especially people i am or would like to be friends with. maybe there's something i'm not seeing or utilizing in myself that could help me?

also, if you have some general commentary or advice you feel like you should share, that is also welcome!

u/distant-razzmatazz — 4 days ago
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"Magical thinking" OCD?

hi! i've found myself in a sort of confusing place where i'm now realising what is it that's been happening in my brain since childhood and making me perpetually exhausted, but i'm not yet sure if i know how to approach effectively managing it.

so, the general pattern is: whenever there's an event i'm anticipating to happen that i don't know the outcome to (say, i have an interview for a job i'm very invested in coming up), i need to outline as many bad outcomes in my head as possible, because if i don't think about them, one of them will definitely happen. likewise, i cannot be thinking about the good outcomes if i can at all help it, because otherwise whatever "happy end" i imagine will not happen - again, specifically because of me having thought about it. i'm not sure what this kind of thing is called in english; in my native language i've heard it be called "magical thinking", ie the belief one can influence reality around them with thoughts alone. except, well, in my case it's anti-manifestation in a sense, i suppose.

it's obviously been causing me a lot of stress throughout my life, as it led to me feeling stressed about entertaining any kind of good or excited mood before an event and deliberately making myself anxious and sometimes even convinced things will go wrong, because that's what was "necessary" to make sure the bad doesn't happen. there's also always the underlying "i need to be prepared for the worst and feel all the stress in advance so that if/when things do go wrong i will stay calm and know what to do" crap that's not helping - i believe i discussed this with an old therapist of mine as a symptom of CPTSD, but i wouldn't put my money on it considering my memory issues.

anyway, my question is: has anyone else encountered this type of problem, and if so, how do you manage it? should i maybe start putting these thoughts to paper somehow? maybe working internally to purposefully rewire my brain to not follow this thought pattern anymore? some other less obvious method? so far the best i have been able to do (sometimes, not always) is interrupt the thoughts and shift my focus to something else, but oftentimes i either slip up because of the need to "finish" it (as otherwise it "won't work") or get lost in maladaptive daydreaming (a separate issue in and of itself) which can very well circle me back to the "calculating outcomes" part all over again.

thank you all in advance!

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u/distant-razzmatazz — 6 days ago

Any Night Sun Tarot users?

hi everyone! wondering if there's anybody who's familiar with the Night Sun deck by Fabio Listrani. it's been my main deck for a while now and i'm extremely fond of it - very evocative and thorough, though sometimes almost a bit too wordy. i do sometimes encounter difficulty reading the cards, however, especially since the guide that comes with the deck leaves a lot to be desired as far as detailed meanings go. i've always incorporated intuitive readings in my practice as well, even with a classic RW deck (which was my first one), but sometimes that's not quite enough.

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do any of you prefer reading this deck intuitively? do you find the astrological and alchemical associations noted on the card borders signifcant in your readings? perhaps the kabbalistic symbolism alters the nature of the tarot archetypes to you? very interested to hear what you think of the deck and how you employ it (if you use it only in specific cases).

u/distant-razzmatazz — 17 days ago

will my former workplace be rebuilt?

tldr: i worked at a pub i loved very much that burned down in an unfortunate incident, and want to know if there's any hope for it to be rebuilt and reopened.

so, this spring i started working at a pub i was previously a regular at. at that point i had just quit my 9-5 (which i honestly hated), and i quickly found that my new workplace brought me immense joy, not least of all because of the small community this bar gathered (a large chunk of our clientele was specifically our regulars, many of whom were friends with us and each other). i was completely new to bartending at that point, but everyone was patient and willing to teach me, and i got to learn a lot, which is also a thing i enjoy. unfortunately, about a month ago there was a fire, and the building the pub was in sustained a lot of damage, preventing us from rebuilding quickly. there's also bound to be legal issues for the co-owners, and it's possible they won't be able to restore and reopen the bar (not to mention that one of them probably won't even want to co-own it anymore anyway, as i was told). many of our regulars expressed that they will be able and willing to help with rebuilding as much as they can, and i'm inclined to believe them, but it won't be of any use if the pub won't be reopening in the first place. i'm working at different bars now, but so far none of them have come even close to making me as happy to come in to work as that place did, and i really do want to see it live again. before anything like this can happen, though, the building itself has to be repaired, which might take a long time to happen, if it will happen at all in the next 6-12 months (this isn't something any of us have any control over or knowledge of, unfortunately).

below are my questions:

  1. does the second co-owner even want to rebuild the pub still?
  2. will the building itself be restored (so that we can rebuild at the same place)?
  3. will she have the financial ability to rebuild it?
  4. will there be legal trouble that will prevent her from doing it?
  5. will the regulars keep their word about helping us if everything works out?
  6. in the same vein, will my former coworkers return? (one card for each - let's call them V and S respectively)
  7. finally, would it be worth it to me personally to dedicate my time and effort to helping restore the place?

my interpretations, based on my knowledge of this deck and details of the situation not mentioned above for brevity (this post is long enough as it is):

  1. Two of Swords - yes, she does, even though she seems to be torn by doubts and possibly other people around her advising her not to do it.
  2. Ace of Swords - yes, more confidently so than i previously thought - i assume this to be a sign that our landlord will exercise whatever effort necessary to get it done.
  3. Seven of Swords - most likely (even though i assume from my own perspective that she will have to take out some serious debts to do this).
  4. Five of Pentacles - even if there will be legal trouble, it seems she will have sufficient legal support to not let that burden her and prevent her from rebuilding.
  5. Queen of Wands - yes, they will keep their passion for this place and will make good on their word.
    • for V: Nine of Pentacles - yes, even though they will take their time to think it over.
    • for S: Five of Swords - no, they won't be able to go back to the place after witnessing what happened, at least not for a good while (context: S was the only one present at the pub when the fire started and unsuccessfully tried to put it out, possibly also triggering their asthma in the process, and there's likely some trauma that will be left over from this)
  6. Queen of Cups - yes, but i will need to be mindful not to overextend myself.

the query was aimed at the next 6 months, as i'm not confident in my ability to read for a longer period of time.

i'm also including the keywords for each card as written by the deck's author for your convenience, as their intended meanings often differ from their counterparts in classic decks, as well as closeup photos of each card.

  • Two of Swords - confrontation, equilibrium, attraction, arguments, duplicity.
  • Ace of Swords - conquest, impetus, intelligence, excess, violence.
  • Seven of Swords - mediation, hope, new roads, plans, vanity.
  • Five of Pentacles - courage, resistance, earning, disorder, incoherency.
  • Queen of Wands - experience, advice, self-confidence, caprices, possessiveness.
  • Nine of Pentacles - wisdom, farsightedness, conquest, consequences, fraud.
  • Five of Swords - new point of view, crisis, remorse, perfecting, loss.
  • Queen of Cups - motherhood, affection, spontaneity, dishonesty, misunderstandings.

the overall outlook seems to be positive, but i don't want to give myself false hope too soon. perhaps i'm missing something that the visuals or the symbols on the borders can tell me? i'd like to think i managed to keep a level head while interpreting, but it's been a difficult reading still. thank you in advance!

u/distant-razzmatazz — 17 days ago

reading on themed playing cards?

hey everyone! popping in to ask if anybody here ever tried to do / does readings on decks themed after a movie or game? pictured: fallout new vegas collector's edition playing cards. i chose them as the most striking example, as they not only have characters pictured, but also their names and quotes on the card.

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do you integrate meanings and associations relevant to the characters into classic card meanings? or do you prefer to use them independently of the classic system and treat it as a wholly independent oracle-like deck that just happens to have the same structure as a deck of playing cards? would you be open to try reading on a deck like this if you've never tried it before?

u/distant-razzmatazz — 18 days ago

Any Night Sun Tarot users?

hi everyone! wondering if there's anybody who's familiar with the Night Sun deck by Fabio Listrani.

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it's been my main deck for a while now and i'm extremely fond of it - very evocative and thorough. i do sometimes encounter difficulty reading the cards, however, especially since the guide that comes with the deck leaves a lot to be desired as far as detailed meanings go. i've always incorporated intuitive readings in my practice, even with a classic RW deck (which was my first one), but sometimes that's not quite enough.

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do any of you prefer reading this deck intuitively? do you find the astrological and alchemical associations noted on the card borders signifcant in your readings? perhaps the kabbalistic symbolism alters the nature of the tarot archetypes to you? very interested to hear what you think of the deck and how you employ it (if you use it only in specific cases).

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u/distant-razzmatazz — 18 days ago