u/duburake

Hey everyone,

I’m 6’1” and currently around 240 lbs. My goal is to get down to about 185 lbs, but I’ve been stuck in a frustrating cycle. Every time I lose 5 to 10 pounds, I end up gaining it back, and usually more. I think the biggest issue is that whatever I’m doing never feels sustainable long term.

I can usually push myself in the gym, but my diet is where I really struggle, especially with sugar and sweets.

For context, an average day for me used to include eating a whole party-size box of Oreos dumped in milk like cereal, followed by some kind of brownie or cake. That would basically be breakfast, and then I’d often have something similar again for dessert later in the day. On top of that, I was doing a lot of takeout.

I’ve been trying to cut back on takeout and sugary drinks. Switching to zero sugar drinks has actually helped a lot, but I’m still struggling badly with actual sweets like cookies, brownies, cakes, and desserts.

I know a lot of people say not to cut sweets out completely and to just practice moderation. I understand that in theory, but right now I honestly feel like I have no self control around them. If there’s a box of cookies or sweets in front of me, I don’t just have one or two, I’ll eat the whole thing. It feels less like a normal craving and more like something I can’t control once I start.

I’m wondering if anyone else has dealt with this kind of intense sugar craving or binge like eating pattern. What actually helped you? Did you find better alternatives, specific strategies, certain foods that helped with cravings, or a different approach entirely?

I’m not looking for a quick fix. I’m just trying to find something realistic that can help me make progress without constantly falling back into the same cycle.

Any advice or personal experiences would be appreciated.

Hey everyone,

I’m 6’1” and currently around 240 lbs. My goal is to get down to about 185 lbs, but I’ve been stuck in a frustrating cycle. Every time I lose 5 to 10 pounds, I end up gaining it back, and usually more. I think the biggest issue is that whatever I’m doing never feels sustainable long term.

I can usually push myself in the gym, but my diet is where I really struggle, especially with sugar and sweets.

For context, an average day for me used to include eating a whole party-size box of Oreos dumped in milk like cereal, followed by some kind of brownie or cake. That would basically be breakfast, and then I’d often have something similar again for dessert later in the day. On top of that, I was doing a lot of takeout.

I’ve been trying to cut back on takeout and sugary drinks. Switching to zero sugar drinks has actually helped a lot, but I’m still struggling badly with actual sweets like cookies, brownies, cakes, and desserts.

I know a lot of people say not to cut sweets out completely and to just practice moderation. I understand that in theory, but right now I honestly feel like I have no self control around them. If there’s a box of cookies or sweets in front of me, I don’t just have one or two, I’ll eat the whole thing. It feels less like a normal craving and more like something I can’t control once I start.

I’m wondering if anyone else has dealt with this kind of intense sugar craving or binge like eating pattern. What actually helped you? Did you find better alternatives, specific strategies, certain foods that helped with cravings, or a different approach entirely?

I’m not looking for a quick fix. I’m just trying to find something realistic that can help me make progress without constantly falling back into the same cycle.

Any advice or personal experiences would be appreciated.

I graduated from university, and I’ve been thinking about this a lot.

A part of me is content that it’s done. I went to school, got my degree, did basically everything my parents would have wanted from me, and now I’m working a stable full time job. On paper, everything is fine. I should feel at peace, and in some ways I do.

But as much as I hate to admit it, this kind of peace feels weirdly unfulfilling.

I miss university way more than I thought I would.

During undergrad, I hated the stress of exams. I dreaded 8am lectures. I hated the pressure of grades, deadlines, co-op, figuring out the future, and all the random stress that came with being a student. But now that it’s all said and done, I would honestly go back if I could.

I miss when my biggest stress was passing an exam. I miss hanging out with my friends all night and laughing over absolutely nothing. I miss going out multiple nights a week and doing dumb stuff just because we could. I miss seeing my friends every day without having to plan something weeks in advance.

Life after graduation is strange because everyone gets busy with their own lives. People start working, moving, getting into relationships, building routines, and slowly the people you used to see every single day become people you’re lucky to see once in a while.

And looking back, I don’t really wish I studied more. I don’t wish I worked harder or stressed more about every single mark. I wish I went out more. I wish I stayed out later. I wish I stayed up longer with my friends. Those are the things I actually remember.

I look back at Snapchat memories and old photos, but part of me wishes there were more of them. You remember the random nights, the inside jokes, the late night food runs, the all nighter study sessions with friends, and the stories that make no sense to anyone else.

Obviously grades, co-op, internships, and your future matter. I’m not saying to throw all of that away. But don’t let those things consume your entire university experience. Don’t make school only about the next test, the next job, the next LinkedIn update, or the next thing you think you’re supposed to achieve.

Because eventually everyone will get there. You graduate. You get the job. You build the stable life. And then you realize how special it was to be surrounded by your friends, all figuring life out at the same time, with so much freedom and so little understanding of how temporary it all was.

To all those still at Laurier, make the most of it. You might dread university right now, and honestly, I get it. But those 4 or 5 years can be some of the best years of your life if you actually let yourself enjoy them.

Go out more. Join clubs. Do random stuff. Put yourself out there. Spend time with your friends while it’s still easy. Grades are important, but you’ll never be this young, in this exact place, surrounded by these exact people, ever again.

I had a lot of fun in undergrad, and somehow I still regret not making even more out of it.

Interested if any other university alumni feel the same way.

I graduated from Laurier, and I’ve been thinking about this a lot.

A part of me is content that it’s done. I went to school, got my degree, did basically everything my parents would have wanted from me, and now I’m working a stable full time job. On paper, everything is fine. I should feel at peace, and in some ways I do.

But as much as I hate to admit it, this kind of peace feels weirdly unfulfilling.

I miss university way more than I thought I would.

During undergrad, I hated the stress of exams. I dreaded 8am lectures. I hated the pressure of grades, deadlines, co-op, figuring out the future, and all the random stress that came with being a student. But now that it’s all said and done, I would honestly go back if I could.

I miss when my biggest stress was passing an exam. I miss hanging out with my friends all night and laughing over absolutely nothing. I miss going out multiple nights a week and doing dumb stuff just because we could. I miss seeing my friends every day without having to plan something weeks in advance.

Life after graduation is strange because everyone gets busy with their own lives. People start working, moving, getting into relationships, building routines, and slowly the people you used to see every single day become people you’re lucky to see once in a while.

And looking back, I don’t really wish I studied more. I don’t wish I worked harder or stressed more about every single mark. I wish I went out more. I wish I stayed out later. I wish I stayed up longer with my friends. Those are the things I actually remember.

I look back at Snapchat memories and old photos, but part of me wishes there were more of them. You remember the random nights, the inside jokes, the late night food runs, the all nighter study sessions with friends, and the stories that make no sense to anyone else.

Obviously grades, co-op, internships, and your future matter. I’m not saying to throw all of that away. But don’t let those things consume your entire university experience. Don’t make school only about the next test, the next job, the next LinkedIn update, or the next thing you think you’re supposed to achieve.

Because eventually everyone will get there. You graduate. You get the job. You build the stable life. And then you realize how special it was to be surrounded by your friends, all figuring life out at the same time, with so much freedom and so little understanding of how temporary it all was.

To all those still at Laurier, make the most of it. You might dread university right now, and honestly, I get it. But those 4 or 5 years can be some of the best years of your life if you actually let yourself enjoy them.

Go out more. Join clubs. Do random stuff. Put yourself out there. Spend time with your friends while it’s still easy. Grades are important, but you’ll never be this young, in this exact place, surrounded by these exact people, ever again.

I had a lot of fun in undergrad, and somehow I still regret not making even more out of it.

Interested if any other Laurier alumni feel the same way.

Hey everyone,

I'm looking for some advice because I'm considering stopping Accutane after my first dose.

Yesterday I took my first 100mg dose. Then early this morning I woke up to use the bathroom and felt extremely dizzy and lightheaded. I've had moments of feeling a little dizzy before in life, but this was on a different level. I also felt nauseous, like I might throw up.

Then, out of nowhere, I started getting a cold sweat. I've never had a cold sweat in my life, so it felt strange.

Sorry if this is TMI, but I'm young and I basically always wake up with morning wood. Today I didn't, which also is scary and made me wonder if something was going on.

I've been reading posts here and now I'm wondering if I should just stop before taking another dose and deal with my folliculitis instead. Has anyone experienced anything similar after their first dose? Did it get better, or did you decide Accutane wasn't worth it?

Obviously I'll be contacting my dermatologist, but I'd appreciate hearing other people's experiences.

Thanks.

I’m about to start my first full time corporate job, and I’m nervous about how being more reserved might affect my career.

I’ve worked corporate internships before, and one thing I’ve noticed is that the workplace often rewards people who are visible, vocal, and good at talking themselves up. Unfortunately, I’ve also seen how people can take credit for your work when you don’t speak up for yourself.

I wouldn’t say I’m shy exactly. I’m just more reserved. My natural instinct is to come into the office, do my work well, and leave. But from what I’ve seen, the people who seem to do really well are often the ones who are constantly talking to others, making themselves known, and speaking up in meetings, even if they aren’t necessarily doing the work.

That’s the part I’m struggling with. I’m worried that if I stay quiet, people won’t notice my contributions, or worse, someone else will take credit for them(which has happened in my internship). At the same time, I get anxious about speaking up because I’m afraid I’ll say the wrong thing or be judged. In meetings, I usually stay silent, partly because I don’t always feel like I have something new to add. A lot of people seem to just repeat what someone else already said, so it feels pointless for me to jump in just to say the same thing.

But I also know that staying invisible probably isn’t a good long term strategy.

I’m feeling pretty lost as someone just starting their career. I want to do well and grow, but I’m worried that not being outgoing enough will hold me back. The last thing I want is to come across as disengaged or risk losing my job because I’m not loud enough.

For those of you who are introverted or more reserved, how did you learn to advocate for yourself at work? How do you speak up in meetings without feeling like you’re just talking for the sake of talking? And how do you make sure your work is recognized without feeling fake?

Any advice would be really appreciated.

Hey everyone,

I’m in Canada, around the GTA, and I’ve been looking into getting a used GR Supra. I honestly love the car mainly for how it looks, and I was thinking the 2.0 could be a good option for me instead of a 3.0.

The problem is, I haven’t been able to find a single Supra 2.0 for sale in the GTA, or really anywhere in Canada. Every listing I see here seems to be a 3.0.

For the Canadians here, have you ever actually seen a 2.0 Supra listed or sold here? Did Toyota Canada just not sell the 2.0 at all, or are they just extremely rare?

I checked the U.S. market too, but after conversion the prices seem way too close to used 3.0 prices here, so importing one does not really seem worth it.

Curious what other Canadian Supra owners or shoppers have seen.

Long post, but thanks in advance to anyone who reads through and shares their experience.

I’m looking for honest experiences from people who took Accutane, especially whether you ultimately regretted it or were glad you did it, and whether you had any lasting changes afterward.

I was diagnosed with chronic folliculitis and I’ve been on doxycycline for almost 2 years. Unfortunately it seems like it’s becoming less effective even while I’m still taking it, so my dermatologist recently prescribed Accutane as the next step.

The problem is that after researching it online, I feel extremely conflicted and honestly kind of scared. Most of what I’ve been finding are horror stories, and now I’m questioning whether I should just live with this condition instead of risking making my health worse.

I’m about to start a new full-time job, so I’m especially worried about side effects affecting my ability to function day to day.

The things I’m most anxious about are:

• Brain fog, memory issues, cognitive changes
• Joint or muscle pain because I go to the gym regularly
• Hair thinning or hair loss. My hair is naturally very thick and honestly one of the things I value most about my appearance, so I’m really scared of it thinning out permanently or never being the same afterward
• Severe dryness, especially eyes and skin while working on screens all day
• Vision issues, especially stories about long-term night vision problems or permanent eye dryness/vision changes
• Erectile dysfunction or sexual side effects, especially anything that persisted after stopping
• Gut issues or long-term digestive problems, since I’ve seen people talk about IBS/IBD type symptoms afterward
• Any long-term or permanent side effects people noticed after stopping

I know online experiences can be biased toward worst cases, so I’m trying to get a more realistic picture.

For people who took Accutane:

• Do you regret taking it, or are you happy you did?
• Did it permanently help your skin/scalp condition(moreso if you have folliculitis)?
• Did you experience any lasting side effects after stopping?
• Were the side effects manageable while working full time?
• Did starting at a lower dose help?
• If you could go back, would you still take it?

I just want to make a thoughtful decision and understand the tradeoffs realistically before starting something this serious.

Would really appreciate honest experiences from both sides.

Long post, but thanks in advance to anyone who reads through and shares their experience.

I’m looking for honest experiences from people who took Accutane, especially whether you ultimately regretted it or were glad you did it, and whether you had any lasting changes afterward.

I was diagnosed with chronic folliculitis and I’ve been on doxycycline for almost 2 years. Unfortunately it seems like it’s becoming less effective even while I’m still taking it, so my dermatologist recently prescribed Accutane as the next step.

The problem is that after researching it online, I feel extremely conflicted and honestly kind of scared. Most of what I’ve been finding are horror stories, and now I’m questioning whether I should just live with this condition instead of risking making my health worse.

I’m about to start a new full-time job, so I’m especially worried about side effects affecting my ability to function day to day.

The things I’m most anxious about are:

• Brain fog, memory issues, cognitive changes
• Joint or muscle pain because I go to the gym regularly
• Hair thinning or hair loss. My hair is naturally very thick and honestly one of the things I value most about my appearance, so I’m really scared of it thinning out permanently or never being the same afterward
• Severe dryness, especially eyes and skin while working on screens all day
• Vision issues, especially stories about long-term night vision problems or permanent eye dryness/vision changes
• Erectile dysfunction or sexual side effects, especially anything that persisted after stopping
• Gut issues or long-term digestive problems, since I’ve seen people talk about IBS/IBD type symptoms afterward
• Any long-term or permanent side effects people noticed after stopping

I know online experiences can be biased toward worst cases, so I’m trying to get a more realistic picture.

For people who took Accutane:

• Do you regret taking it, or are you happy you did?
• Did it permanently help your skin/scalp condition(moreso if you have folliculitis)?
• Did you experience any lasting side effects after stopping?
• Were the side effects manageable while working full time?
• Did starting at a lower dose help?
• If you could go back, would you still take it?

I just want to make a thoughtful decision and understand the tradeoffs realistically before starting something this serious.

Would really appreciate honest experiences from both sides.

I was on Main Street the today, coming out of a shop and as I stepped outside and looked to my left, there were two kids, maybe 12 years old, riding electric scooters flying down the sidewalk. No helmets, no safety gear, nothing.

They saw me and tried to avoid me, but ended up crashing straight into each other. Both went down and started crying.

I’m all for kids having fun, but it made me wonder what’s going on lately. I’ve been seeing more and more young kids riding e-scooters around town, often on sidewalks and so recklesly.

Sidewalks are meant for pedestrians, and roads are where bikes and vehicles are supposed to be. Situations like this feel like they’re just waiting to get worse.

Curious to know if anyone else has noticed this increase? And are there actually any rules being enforced around this?