u/evil-edgelord6767

I think gate keeping obliterates then potential to larp, because it makes the effort required to get a deep enough knowledge to larp something just difficult enough to where you would have to be genuinely interested in the thing in order to really know that much about said thing. It also protects our communities for people who do not care about the people who create the culture, only the culture itself. Gatekeeping also gives cultures time to grow and find themself before they are obliterated by the mainstream and become meaningless.

So I am an anarcho communist, with a specific emphasis on youth liberation, specifically as it relates to transgender rights. Basically, part of my beliefs as an anarchist, is that in order for society to progress socially, the youngest generation must forge their own path, though the creation of a progressive culture. The youth use this culture, as inspiration for a cultural revolution that seeks to destroy the more regressive views of the last generation. In the end, revolution is complete or partly complete, society becomes more progressive, but new material conditions are created, meaning we need a new culture that will destroy the dogma of the last. Does this idea have a name? I’ve been calling myself a Generational Chauvinist.

I’ve been an anarchist for a while, but I still look on here or post on here time to time because I can always grow. I am an anarcho-communist. While I don’t know much about egoism, after having an argument with my grandparents (it was terrible, they don’t believe in universal human rights, food, water, shelter, etc, they think you should have to work for these things) I wondered if the more radical Utopianist angle I typically take should sometimes be down played in order to appeal to some. It seems that, at least in my understanding of it, that egoism comes off as more pragmatic to the masses, and may be a better form of communication for those stuck in their ways. On the other had, I’m not sure I like the idea of “downplaying” my views by using an egoist analysis, because I have seen others with a watered how version of something radical, and it truly disgusts me. Not to say that egoism is somehow not radical, but that I think in its relation to the capitalist status quo, it may come off as less radical than utopian reasoning. Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone thought along these lines, I would love to hear from an egoist, really anybody. Thank you.

Sooooo… this is gonna be a lot. If you aren’t ready to hear about self harm and accusations of sexual assault, you probablyyyyy should skip this. First of all, before I say anything, I just found this sub today, and I’m really grateful that it exists, thank you all so much. My ex broke up with me about nine months ago. She broke up with me for reasons that were unclear, and she only spoke on months later, but before we get to that part of the story, we need some back story about our relationship. Originally, when we got together, it was under the pretext of an open relationship, because when we had confessed our love, I was already in an open relationship with another girl at that point. This was fully agreed upon, and thoroughly talked through. Two months into our relationship, I take on another girlfriend who in order to differentiate, I will call Marnie. Now, it is important to note that Marnie attends the same school as me and my ex (who I will call Misty), but my other third girlfriend doesn’t (but she isn’t relevant to the story). As our relationship progresses, Misty’s mental health goes down hill. She has massive anxiety problems, and places an undue amount of importance on her school work. In order to attempt to recuperate her mental health, she neglects her work, which creates friction between her and her parents, and her and her teachers— worsening her mental health. She begins cutting, and attempted suicide multiple times. I stand by her in anyway I can, doing whatever she needs me to do. I’ve been woken up by midnight phone calls, and I’ve held her in my arms after she swallowed all of her pills, and was waiting to die. Flash forward two months. Misty finally breaks the news to me that a major factor in the decline of her mental is due to her jealousy of Marine, and that she never wanted to be in an open relationship, only she was afraid to say that. At this point, I have no fucking idea what I’m supposed to do. A month later, I’m talking on the phone with Misty, trying to calm her down as she survives the third failed suicide attempt of our relationship, and she’s ranting about how much she hates Marine, I send Marine a text breaking up with her to calm Misty down. In the text exchange that follows, I can clearly see that Marine is devastated, and she said that she knew I would pick Misty over her. I’m emotionally crippled for weeks afterward. I never wanted to break up with Marnie, I felt like I had to in order to spare the life of Misty. Five months later, Misty breaks up with me. She says that she hated me the whole time, and never loved me. Later on, she tells me I pressured her into sexual acts, when this is not true, and in fact I almost redundantly asked for consent every time we did anything, no matter how small. I’ve realized that, while I did in no way apply pressure for her to commit these sexual acts, and constantly asked for consent, her deeply rooted social anxiety prevented her from answering honesty, although I did not realize this at the time, and even after we broke up, this was not explained to me. When we broke up, she said we could still be friends, which I was ok with for some reason, even though she literally just said she hated me. Over the course of the following week, our ‘friendship’ quickly and quietly deteriorated. During this period, she would constantly eavesdrop on my conversations, and but in to berate me if she disagreed. She would constantly do this, dragging me into pointless, hour long arguments, where she constantly insulted everything I like and believed. In addition to this, she would whenever I tapped with my foot on the group during classes, or with my fingers (I have adhd), she would literally punch me to get me to stop. In addition to those things, she would constantly insult me at any chance she could, and explained that it was ok because quite “I don’t have feelings.” She did/ does constantly talk shit about me behind my back to anyone who will listen, including to my literally life long best friend of ten years, and though this, she has spread terrible rumors about me, not limited to me being a rapist. I told her I was sorry during this, and just ignored all this things as best I could, because all I wanted was to be left alone. How, where on summer break, and I haven’t seen her in over two months. A couple of days ago, she posted on her story about how much she hates me, and how she’s making a hate letter to give me before we graduate. I literally cried myself to sleep when I say that. I think it may have been inspired by the face I recently got back together with Marnie. I haven’t posted anything about it, and I’m not going to respond, I just want to be left alone.

I’m very new to this (I decided I would start to scrap about ten minutes ago), but I’ve been collecting lots of junk just for art projects and things, would a scrap yarn be interested in bike frames, paint cans, and skateboard trucks?

I would like to say this only really applies to liberal cis people, communist, anarchist, socialist, etc seem to be far more knowledgeable and understanding, even though it’s not always that cut and dry. Anyway, cis people really show me how much how much we are not supported when I talk to them. Any conversation about ‘trans politics’ (god I hate that term) almost instantly devolves into a flurry of bigotry and disinformation that they typically cannot correct when evidence in provided. Then, these people cannot accept that they are transphobic, and typically resort to the idea that they cannot be because they support trans people, and see them as women. But the more I talk to these kinds of people, I realize they don’t see use as women, they only validate our existence so long as they don’t have to see us. We can wear dresses, and get surgery or do whatever we want to ourself, but in these people’s eyes we will never be equivalent to what they perceive as ‘real’ women. Become of this, they are very hostile to letting trans women into women’s spaces, locker rooms, bathrooms, ‘girl talk,’ sports. This has happened to me so many times, and it hurts to bad.