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Ok so I 19F and my brother 18M like don't have the best situation concerning our father and his family

I'm going to try to make this as short as possible..

umm so like from what I believe some of these people (like my dad, aunt, his mum,etc.) are like kind of narcissistic, in my opinion I don't view our situation as something like incredibly bad, but like my mum divorced my dad, because they weren't treating her right and he wasn't fulfilling his promises, I see my father as kind of a deadbeat just doing the bare minimum in life and not striving for more, but that's besides the point...(Also my mum has paid for the house mostly but both their names are written on the thingy. And for like idk 3ish years maybe he didn't have a job and wasn't looking for one, she was the one out and about looking for a job for him)

My parents have lawsuits going on between them for things like the house, child support, stuff like that yk, but my dad and his family blame us and keep on telling us that we want him to go to prison, and we don't care, that we're the ones filing (because where I'm from after the age of 15 for the mum to receive child support, they have to file the motion in the kids names), that we hate him, and that we're backstabbing them, and so on

But at the same time we had fun with our cousins and we just like wanted to be kids

I've had a problem with self harm and these topics stress me out, my dad was told that by the therapists, teachers, like multiple people.

That's been ignored obviously, we were told that we were grown up enough and that our actions have consequences. My aunt is the head of the operation, and the last time she talked to me she said either the lawsuits or us, so she basically cut ties, and surprisingly my cousins sided with her so that was a shock.

Um anyway onto my brothers problem, he now is feeling so hurt and vengeful and keeps on saying things like ' society is like shit and people are bad' and that there shouldn't be law and people should be able to do what they want (which in his mind he wants my father and his family to feel so much pain that they would beg for death) and the only reason he isn't acting on anything he's thought of id because of society and the law and so on

It's just I know that he's hurt and that in his mind revenge is the only option. He's throwing away his life, he doesn't want to go to therapy because they'll ruin his plan, which I don't completely understand..He wants to not finish our national highschool, he failed senior year this year, and wants to get the GED thing, which non of the unis here accept, and then work a couple years move to America go to uni there, get rich, and I don't know what he wants after that..He just keeps on saying that he has a plan and he wants to get to it before they die.

He says things like I don't care about anyone other than me and that to him my mum is just like his moneybag or something

But I know he isn't like that and that he's hurting and that he's probably on the wrong side of the internet which keeps on feeding his delusions. I know he's hurting, he cried and said that they can't get away with this, doesn't get that what he's doing, thinking isn't right. When I'm starving myself, he worries. He got me a Luffy figurine that costed around 1k out of his own money, to cheer me up

He doesn't want to listen

He's just looking at all the bad and is so vengeful against life. He doesn't get how fortunate we are to have our own rooms, to have our devices, internet, to be able to live without any physical problems. That our mum is so fucking awesome and she went through so much but she still tries her best, a d is there for us, that she cares. That our step-dad is helping. That my mum's family is there for us

I just I don't know how to help him, I'm not the best model to like show him that it's fine and it's gonna get better, I've got major depression, take medication for that, I starve myself because I feel like I don't deserve it, I've cut myself, Have no energy to live, don't get out of bed. But I have goals and I'm not doing anything to achieve them, and I hate that about me and all that makes me feel less deserving lol

But like I love helping were I can, care about nature, care about the people that are getting hurt around the world, care about the animals in the world. And I just I'm so into nature I want to preserve all the good things we have on this earth,

While he couldn't be bothered, doesn't give a fuck that people are hurting around the world, "if it doesn't affect me I don't care" type of thinking, doesn't think about how his actions hurt. I don't like the way he treats my mum, the way he treats other people also.

I just want to help him, and don't know how

I'm sorry this ended up being long, but I tried to cut out as many things as possible

TL;DR..All my brother is thinking about is hurting my dads family and doesn't care how his actions hurt, and in my opinion is just throwing his life away, but he doesn't see that and is just thinking about revenge and I don't know what to do

How do I help my brother?

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My brother is not well and I don't know how to help him

Ok so I 19F and my brother 18M like don't have the best situation concerning our father and his family

I'm going to try to make this as short as possible..

umm so like from what I believe some of these people (like my dad, aunt, his mum,etc.) are like kind of narcissistic, in my opinion I don't view our situation as something like incredibly bad, but like my mum divorced my dad, because they weren't treating her right and he wasn't fulfilling his promises, I see my father as kind of a deadbeat just doing the bare minimum in life and not striving for more, but that's besides the point...(Also my mum has paid for the house mostly but both their names are written on the thingy. And for like idk 3ish years maybe he didn't have a job and wasn't looking for one, she was the one out and about looking for a job for him)

My parents have lawsuits going on between them for things like the house, child support, stuff like that yk, but my dad and his family blame us and keep on telling us that we want him to go to prison, and we don't care, that we're the ones filing (because where I'm from after the age of 15 for the mum to receive child support, they have to file the motion in the kids names), that we hate him, and that we're backstabbing them, and so on

But at the same time we had fun with our cousins and we just like wanted to be kids

I've had a problem with self harm and these topics stress me out, my dad was told that by the therapists, teachers, like multiple people.

That's been ignored obviously, we were told that we were grown up enough and that our actions have consequences. My aunt is the head of the operation, and the last time she talked to me she said either the lawsuits or us, so she basically cut ties, and surprisingly my cousins sided with her so that was a shock.

Um anyway onto my brothers problem, he now is feeling so hurt and vengeful and keeps on saying things like ' society is like shit and people are bad' and that there shouldn't be law and people should be able to do what they want (which in his mind he wants my father and his family to feel so much pain that they would beg for death) and the only reason he isn't acting on anything he's thought of id because of society and the law and so on

It's just I know that he's hurt and that in his mind revenge is the only option. He's throwing away his life, he doesn't want to go to therapy because they'll ruin his plan, which I don't completely understand..He wants to not finish our national highschool, he failed senior year this year, and wants to get the GED thing, which non of the unis here accept, and then work a couple years move to America go to uni there, get rich, and I don't know what he wants after that..He just keeps on saying that he has a plan and he wants to get to it before they die.

He says things like I don't care about anyone other than me and that to him my mum is just like his moneybag or something

But I know he isn't like that and that he's hurting and that he's probably on the wrong side of the internet which keeps on feeding his delusions. I know he's hurting, he cried and said that they can't get away with this, doesn't get that what he's doing, thinking isn't right. When I'm starving myself, he worries. He got me a Luffy figurine that costed around 1k out of his own money, to cheer me up

He doesn't want to listen

He's just looking at all the bad and is so vengeful against life. He doesn't get how fortunate we are to have our own rooms, to have our devices, internet, to be able to live without any physical problems. That our mum is so fucking awesome and she went through so much but she still tries her best, a d is there for us, that she cares. That our step-dad is helping. That my mum's family is there for us

I just I don't know how to help him, I'm not the best model to like show him that it's fine and it's gonna get better, I've got major depression, take medication for that, I starve myself because I feel like I don't deserve it, I've cut myself, Have no energy to live, don't get out of bed. But I have goals and I'm not doing anything to achieve them, and I hate that about me and all that makes me feel less deserving lol

But like I love helping were I can, care about nature, care about the people that are getting hurt around the world, care about the animals in the world. And I just I'm so into nature I want to preserve all the good things we have on this earth,

While he couldn't be bothered, doesn't give a fuck that people are hurting around the world, "if it doesn't affect me I don't care" type of thinking, doesn't think about how his actions hurt. I don't like the way he treats my mum, the way he treats other people also.

I just want to help him, and don't know how

I'm sorry this ended up being long, but I tried to cut out as many things as possible

TL;DR..All my brother is thinking about is hurting my dads family and doesn't care how his actions hurt, and in my opinion is just throwing his life away, but he doesn't see that and is just thinking about revenge and I don't know what to do

How do I help my brother?

Ok so I 19F and my brother 18M like don't have the best situation concerning our father and his family

I'm going to try to make this as short as possible..

umm so like from what I believe some of these people (like my dad, aunt, his mum,etc.) are like kind of narcissistic, in my opinion I don't view our situation as something like incredibly bad, but like my mum divorced my dad, because they weren't treating her right and he wasn't fulfilling his promises, I see my father as kind of a deadbeat just doing the bare minimum in life and not striving for more, but that's besides the point...(Also my mum has paid for the house mostly but both their names are written on the thingy. And for like idk 3ish years maybe he didn't have a job and wasn't looking for one, she was the one out and about looking for a job for him)

My parents have lawsuits going on between them for things like the house, child support, stuff like that yk, but my dad and his family blame us and keep on telling us that we want him to go to prison, and we don't care, that we're the ones filing (because where I'm from after the age of 15 for the mum to receive child support, they have to file the motion in the kids names), that we hate him, and that we're backstabbing them, and so on

But at the same time we had fun with our cousins and we just like wanted to be kids

I've had a problem with self harm and these topics stress me out, my dad was told that by the therapists, teachers, like multiple people.

That's been ignored obviously, we were told that we were grown up enough and that our actions have consequences. My aunt is the head of the operation, and the last time she talked to me she said either the lawsuits or us, so she basically cut ties, and surprisingly my cousins sided with her so that was a shock.

Um anyway onto my brothers problem, he now is feeling so hurt and vengeful and keeps on saying things like ' society is like shit and people are bad' and that there shouldn't be law and people should be able to do what they want (which in his mind he wants my father and his family to feel so much pain that they would beg for death) and the only reason he isn't acting on anything he's thought of id because of society and the law and so on

It's just I know that he's hurt and that in his mind revenge is the only option. He's throwing away his life, he doesn't want to go to therapy because they'll ruin his plan, which I don't completely understand..He wants to not finish our national highschool, he failed senior year this year, and wants to get the GED thing, which non of the unis here accept, and then work a couple years move to America go to uni there, get rich, and I don't know what he wants after that..He just keeps on saying that he has a plan and he wants to get to it before they die.

He says things like I don't care about anyone other than me and that to him my mum is just like his moneybag or something

But I know he isn't like that and that he's hurting and that he's probably on the wrong side of the internet which keeps on feeding his delusions. I know he's hurting, he cried and said that they can't get away with this, doesn't get that what he's doing, thinking isn't right. When I'm starving myself, he worries. He got me a Luffy figurine that costed around 1k out of his own money, to cheer me up

He doesn't want to listen

He's just looking at all the bad and is so vengeful against life. He doesn't get how fortunate we are to have our own rooms, to have our devices, internet, to be able to live without any physical problems. That our mum is so fucking awesome and she went through so much but she still tries her best, a d is there for us, that she cares. That our step-dad is helping. That my mum's family is there for us

I just I don't know how to help him, I'm not the best model to like show him that it's fine and it's gonna get better, I've got major depression, take medication for that, I starve myself because I feel like I don't deserve it, I've cut myself, Have no energy to live, don't get out of bed. But I have goals and I'm not doing anything to achieve them, and I hate that about me and all that makes me feel less deserving lol

But like I love helping were I can, care about nature, care about the people that are getting hurt around the world, care about the animals in the world. And I just I'm so into nature I want to preserve all the good things we have on this earth,

While he couldn't be bothered, doesn't give a fuck that people are hurting around the world, "if it doesn't affect me I don't care" type of thinking, doesn't think about how his actions hurt.

I just want to help him

I'm sorry this ended up being long, but I tried to cut out as many things as possible

TL;DR..All my brother is thinking about is hurting my dads family and doesn't care how his actions hurt, and in my opinion is just throwing his life away, but he doesn't see that and is just thinking about revenge

Ok, soo as I said in the title I'm a first year in uni, I chose graphic design because honestly there aren't that many art options in my country and I would like to learn art better but on the 2D side yk, like illustrations and such.

My delma here is I HATE GENAI but my college uses it and I'm guessing they teach it down the road and I don't like that at all. Like what do you mean a graphic design ad for the uni is an AI generated person??!! it looks cheap, it's so just skdekendj yk

I've talked to people that work in the field that also don't like Ai but they tell me to just suck it up, but say it nicelyer..is that a word, whatever..and that unfortunately AI is a tool that we have to use to work in this line of work. And that they ask for that in interviews and such. I can't wait for it's hopefully inevitable demise...

So after that long rant, my question is what should I do? Do I entertain the thought of changing majors and if so to what maybe?

Idk I want to excel in arts especially drawing, I'm well enough to go uni for arts but we're scrapping by, Is that a thing?.. Im not the best academically, so no scholarships though in my first term I did get 3.4 GPA so I was almost there second sem not so good because I've got major depression and some fucked shit is happening personally bro wtf am I talking about,

I just would appreciate any advice.

Thank youuu